Q I am a happily married, happily non-monogamous male. We are not wild swinger types. For us it’s more about the fact that monogamy does not work than about nailing everything that walks by. Anyway, I have encountered an odd situation a few times now, and again last night, where I’ll be flirting with a […]
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Domination dynamics
Q I am a 30-year-old woman, married for five years to a man eight years my senior. Lately I have become more aware that I am turned on by the idea of bondage, specifically men locked up in chastity devices. I am ashamed of myself because it seems perverse and disturbed. My husband is a […]
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You gotta make the move
Q I’m a 20-year-old girl, and I’ve been dating my boyfriend, who is 23, for two years. From the get-go, he has known that I am bi, and like most straight guys, he’s happy to be with a girl who likes girls. The thing is, I am too shy to go out and hit on […]
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Questioning the validity
Q I’m a 67-year-old woman, almost 68, who has been married four times—once widowed (with three kids in their 40s who’ve turned out pretty well), divorced three times. I recently met someone online: 48, a wealthy, educated man with two boys, 12 and 14. He lives the cuckholdt lifestyle and is looking for a woman […]
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Homemade isn’t always best
Q I’m a straight teenage male, but I can’t climax unless I am stimulating my anus or rectum. I use various objects, like cucumbers. The reason I don’t buy a toy is that I live in a very religious household and my parents would disown me if they found a sex toy in my room. […]
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Overfeeding your desires
Q I’m a 25-year-old girl dating a 26-year-old guy. My boyfriend identifies as sexually submissive. He likes to be tied up, put in women’s underwear and locked in a chastity device. He has a strong urge to please. I hate the term, but I suppose you could call me a “feeder.” I am turned on […]
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Marry straight, then donate
Q My partner and I have a dilemma. We’re a straight couple and we want to hold a ceremony to make public our commitment. That said, we support marriage equality and are considering joining the marriage boycott (unmarried.org) until DOMA is repealed and every state allows gay marriage. Our friends and family say we should […]
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You need to know your place
Q About a month ago, I got drunk and slept with my friend’s girlfriend. (He’s more of a second-tier friend.) We both swore never to tell anyone and left it at that. Only problem is, we’ve been hanging out a lot lately and sending private messages to each other, but nothing physical. It’s progressed to […]
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I’m not saying I did, but…
Q You are known as an arbiter of all aspects of sex and especially definitions, and we are seeking your definitive opinion. My wife and I were recently regaling each other with anecdotes from our past, and she easily had the most interesting story: It seems that when she was a young woman in college, […]
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Porn to Run
Q My boyfriend and I have been living together for a year. He knows I am an insecure person when it comes to my body. I’m not overweight, I’ve been told my whole life how good-looking I am, and my boyfriend tells me he loves my body. We have an active sex life. Here is […]
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The truth about asexuality
Q As a 43-year-old single gay guy, I recently had my first spanking experience and am feeling extreme self-loathing. I was in a long-term vanilla relationship for most of my adult life and never got to experience anything kinky, but I’ve had an interest in it. Long story short, I answered an online ad, went […]
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Equal opportunity pain
Q I love my boyfriend of three years, but I fucked up. We’ve had our ups and downs—he broke up with me for two months last summer because he said he was “young and needs to feel free”—but we’ve always worked through things. He is super-supportive of me, and we’ve both really grown together as […]
