Q A few years before my wife and I met, she made porn with her boyfriend. He intended to start a pay-per-view website but never launched it. I was a bit upset when she told me, but I remembered I enjoy porn, and the idea of seeing the hottest woman I’ve ever met doing porn […]
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Theoretical problems
Q Let’s say, theoretically, I’m a pedophile. I’m not stupid or evil, so I’m not gonna DO anything. I’m not even gonna look at porn, because the production of it involves child exploitation. Hell, even porn that’s just drawn pictures—perverts drawing smut for perverts with no kids or anyone else involved—is illegal in a lot […]
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Three times the alarm
Q I’m a single (mostly) gay guy who is curious about women. A hot bisexual mate is interested in a friends-with-benefits arrangement. I’m not looking for an LTR just now, so regular, no-strings sex sounds great. However, his girlfriend doesn’t know he’s bisexual, and I’d feel uncomfortable having sex with him behind her back. I’ve […]
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Bidding for advice
Q I have a problem. A key part of my problem, I feel, is that I’m a recovering anorexic and I am still struggling a great deal to eat normal and healthy portions of food. A friend and I have recently become “friends with benefits.” He lives very far away, so we primarily indulge through […]
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Advice on a walk-by
Q I am a 34-year-old straight, single female. I have a fantasy I can’t find much about online, so I figured I’d ask you. My fantasy is to be blindfolded, bent over a table/couch/whatever and fucked by whoever happens to walk by. I realize this would have to take place in a safe environment, but […]
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The fantasy-reality line
Q I am a queer lady in my 20s. My boyfriend and I discovered we are both into BDSM. We started with some light bondage and spanking, added roleplay and are moving toward heavier stuff. I’ve spent some time reading online BDSM erotica, and here’s what’s stressing me out: I tend to gravitate toward stories […]
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The tears of a prude
Q Set me straight. I married my wife several months ago after dating for three years. Things are generally excellent, except for one problem: When my wife gets drunk, she gets crazy flirtatious. She’ll dance close to people, touch them, hold hands. A couple of times, I thought it went too far and I told […]
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Spanks, sweat and stim
Q I’m a woman who wants to be spanked. But I’m overweight and self-conscious. Men who like to spank women like to spank petite women. Sometimes I’ll search kinky sites or online forums and find someone who might want to spank me. But I get scared and I back out. Most recently, I’ve been talking […]
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Carnal tunnel syndrome
Q I’ve been married four years and have a beautiful baby boy with my husband. I enjoy sex a lot, even a bit of BDSM. My husband, on the other hand, isn’t “driven by sex,” as he likes to put it, and will try tying me up if that’s what I “really want.” You’d think […]
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Transgression session
Q I am a 23-year-old male who has been in a relationship with a great woman for four years now. The issue is this: I have a foot fetish and she is fully aware of it. She doesn’t like the idea of me kissing her feet or indulging my fetish in any way. We have […]
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Cheated by the opposite of love
Q I’m a longtime reader who thought I’d never have a reason to write since I’m universally known as the “good girl,” but I’m not sure who else I can turn to. I have a close male friend. Even though I knew he was dating someone else, we became friends-with-benefits several years ago. Because of […]
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I’ll just try it this one time
Q I am a 29-year-old single straight man. Over the past year, I have become very close friends with a gay man close to my age. We have a blast hanging out, and I value our friendship. Four months ago, he told me that he had developed romantic feelings for me and said he needed […]
