Dan Savage

Q I’m a single gay male in my late 20s. I’ve met a guy I really like. We chat all the time and we’re attracted to each other. We haven’t yet had sex, but we’re planning to get naked and sweaty (and break out the ropes and blindfolds) over Christmas break. We “scheduled” this because […]

Q I love my wife. We’ve been married 10 years: Young punk-rock love turned into adult debt-ridden love. She’s been there for me, helps me achieve my goals, all that. But she’s let herself go, while I’ve gotten myself into better shape. I pride myself on being100 percent faithful, I clean, I tell her I […]

Q:You neglect generic guy/girl/girl threesomes. My friends talk about these threesomes all the time, ’cause they’re the “Holy Grail” of sex for us straight guys. Here are some of our questions: 1. What is up with threesomes? 2. How do I arrange a threesome? 3. How do I get my girl to agree to a […]

Q More than a few times, you have implied that if one’s partner is unwilling to satisfy, the deprived person has a right to seek it elsewhere. My sex life with my wife, despite my best efforts, is infrequent and uninspired. I recently met a married woman who has had a nonexistent sex life for […]

Q Who the hell wears swim caps anymore? I haven’t seen a swim cap in years. That question in your column last week from the swim-cap fetishist getting off on his visits to public pools was bullshit. I would think you, of all people, could see through it. —Sexy St. Louis Girl A Lots of […]

Q A close friend of ours is a gay male in his 40s. About seven years ago, our friend met and briefly dated a not-too-bright, conniving guy about 10 years younger. Our friend threw himself into this relationship with his new “trophy husband” and did everything he could for his new boyfriend. He financed his […]

Q My friends and I were debating a troubling incident over drinks and figured you would be the best person to ask: What should you do when, while looking for a toilet, you accidentally walk into the bedroom of someone you know, but don’t know well, and discover a boy half her age tied to […]

Q I’m a high-school girl with big problems. All my life I’ve worn boy clothes and had male friends, mainly because I’m into “male” things like video games and geek stuff. As high school approached, Mother Nature flipped me off with DD breasts and hips that would make Shakira jealous. I don’t even identify as […]

Q Hear me out. You’ve pushed the idea that everyone must be GGG, or “good, giving and game,” and that people in relationships must be sluts for each other and that women must perform oral sex. I agree that sexual satisfaction for both parties in a relationship is important. I think that is what you […]

I am a single guy…never good with women…not many girlfriends…I didn’t have sex till I was 31…but all my life I’ve had this strange fetish…I love to be shampooed with lots of lather and suds, suds in my eyes, nose and mouth. I have been trying to find a female partner to shampoo me…I am […]