Dan Savage

Dan Savage says take only photos; leave only footprints. Open marriages—do they ever work?After 16 years and one kid, my husband and I are considering an open marriage. Over a year ago, I met another man who I was attracted to and wanted to fuck. I had met men like this throughout our marriage, but […]

At first glance, I am the guy your mother wants you to marry: successful, sweet, clean shaven. Below the surface, I am the guy your mother warned you about: pierced tongue, tattoos and enough kinks to make a porn star blush. A couple of months ago, I met a woman who wanted to be a […]

My boyfriend and I have been dating for four months and we’re crazy about each other. He’s been slowly introducing me to butt play. Last night, we were verbally playing out an anal scenario. He asked if I’d be OK using a strap-on with him, to which I replied, “Of course!” Then he said that […]

I hope you can help me. I am a 39-year-old divorced mother of four. I’m also a grandmother. I’ve started seeing a younger man, age 25, who is only a few years older than my oldest kid. We hit it off great and other than the sex, everything is beautiful. The problem is that my […]

QI’m a 20-year-old bi girl and I’ve been with my boyfriend a little over a year. We’ve talked about having an FFM threesome, but the first time we talked about it, we realized we were not on the same page and now every time I try to bring up the possibilities of a threesome, we […]

Q While visiting my family for the holidays, my 72-year-old father informed me that a 29-year-old Russian woman was coming to America to be with him. He could hardly contain his excitement. Dad didn’t want me to tell my brother and sister because he knew they would be critical of him being with a 29-year-old […]

A Please disregard my previous email. As of the New Year, my girlfriend is no longer a virgin.—No Longer Dating Virgin Girl Q Uh, gee. Sorry about that, NLDVG. I’m not sorry that your girlfriend is no longer a virgin, of course, as virginity is a scourge that I’ve dedicated my life to stamping out. […]

Q I’m 19, female, bisexual, have been with the same guy for a year and things are great. I came home for Christmas and he went to his parents’ house, and I’ll see him in a few weeks. For Christmas, my mom got me some typical “mom” gifts—socks and underwear—but the panties had Disney princesses […]

Q Long story short: I’m a 28-year-old woman in a long-term relationship. In the past, I’ve been a control freak by day, sex freak by night—but just for one guy, my GGG boyfriend. Recently, I realized that I’m a female cuckold! Nothing gets me hotter than the thought of my boyfriend fucking somebody else in […]

Q I’m a 21-year-old female and I know the my-boyfriend-has-a-diaper-fetish thing has been done to death. But… We’ve been together for two years. When he mustered up the courage to tell me about his fetish, I was supportive even though it did seem odd. To be completely honest, he’s so good looking and such a […]

Q My two roommates are in the same frat. Roommate A and his GF have been going out for about a year. Roommate A is a great guy, but maybe a bit too nice: Recently, his GF cheated on him and he forgave her. Her infidelity did not come as a surprise to the rest […]

A Dan! I can’t believe you wrote that response to Hawt And Royally Depressed! He wrote because his wife of 10 years had “let herself go.” Men and women were hitting on him and he had to resort to stoning before he could be with her. And you told this asshole to “be honest with […]