Q I have a bit of a situation. I’m a 23-year-old married heterosexual male. My wife and I happen to have a girlfriend now, making our arrangement a polyamorous triad. We all love each other very much, and we are getting to the point that we are thinking about how we are going to tell […]
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Petty bitch, or is he an asshole?
Q I am a 23-year-old woman. I have been with my boyfriend for three years and we have lived together for two. We have a very healthy sex life and the longer we are together, the better it gets! There is just one problem: He wants me to get really raunchy with his come when […]
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You have no clit, not two clits
Q My husband and I have had an open marriage for the last two years. Up until five months ago, it was working beautifully. At that point, however, I was sexually assaulted by a former partner. Since that incident, I cannot stand sex with my husband. I completely flip out when he tries to initiate […]
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Fear, hatred and “gay kids dying”
Q I was listening to the radio yesterday morning and I heard an interview with you about your It Gets Better campaign. I was saddened and frustrated with your comments regarding people of faith and their perpetuation of bullying. As someone who loves the Lord and does not support gay marriage, I was heartbroken to […]
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Making it get better
Q My husband has a cuckold fetish, which we have indulged through two drunken threesomes with two of his best friends. The first time, he really had to talk me into it. The second time, he steered me in that direction and I took the wheel. I now have had sex alone with Friend Two […]
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Cuckolding-lite? A threesome tale
Q I’m a straight college guy, age 21, and I share a house with some buddies and a couple. Anyhow, the interesting stuff: This couple has been together for four years. They’re both quite sexual, but she’s got more libido than he does. I’ve got a big sex drive, too. Both of them have stated […]
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Threesome tale should be told
Q I’m a gay male and have been seeing a terrific guy for a couple of months. Two years ago, during an uncharacteristically wild few months, I had a threesome with a couple and, as it turns out, my boyfriend is very good friends with them. We see them socially and have even all had […]
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Tampon play for straight men
Q I’m sorry about sending this letter to you via snail mail. I don’t want to send an email because I’d rather not have a record of this living forever on some server somewhere. About six months ago, after watching my girlfriend insert a tampon, I asked if I could do it for her next […]
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Food for (sexy) thoughts
Q A few nights ago, I got drunk and knocked on my roommate’s door and confessed my attraction to him while he was lying in bed in nothing more than his skivvies. (It was dark and I stayed at the door, so I didn’t know that until after the fact.) And then I asked him […]
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Like Superman, he wears tights
Q I love women. I love the way they look, I love the way they move, I love the way they sound. I like to see them naked. But the idea of actually interacting with women—trying to engage them in intelligent conversation without coming off as absolutely leotarded—absolutely fucking terrifies me. I’m a virgin at […]
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Your dog won’t give you herpes
Q I lost my virginity last night. I’m a straight male in my early 30s, so it was about time. It wasn’t awkward, and we had a good time. However, I didn’t climax during sex, which is a result of years of death-grip masturbation. (Thanks for the warning, Dan, I’m sorry I didn’t heed it.) […]
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Vaginotional penistration
Q My boyfriend and I are straight college students, and he’s always wanting to try new things. Recently, he asked to put a finger in my ass while we were having sex. Someone did that to me before, but it felt uncomfortable and it kinda hurt. I told my boyfriend that he could do it […]