QI’m a straight woman and have been sexually active for about six years. I’m in my mid-20s now and about ready to become a “man-hating feminist.” I feel like I can figure out what a guy wants in bed pretty easily. I cannot remember a single time when I’ve had sex with a guy that […]
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From bukkake to sexsomnia, simple answers to sex questions
Q I took Molly with my best bud. We wound up cuddling and telling each other everything. We didn’t mess around—we’re both straight guys—but one of the things I told him is that I would much rather eat pussy than fuck, and one of the things he told me is that he’s not at all […]
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What happened to the rest of my dick?
Q I’m an otherwise healthy male of 54. When I was a teen, my cock measured about six and a half inches. Not small, not huge, pretty average. I never kept track of the situation down south, but suddenly I find my junk reports in at just over four inches. WTF? Is this normal? Do […]
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Do I forgive him or do I forget him?
Q I’m a 42-year-old single, straight female who recently started dating a 36-year-old man in a somewhat exclusive, long-distance relationship. We have known each other for a short time, but have clocked hours upon hours on the phone. I have specifically stated many times I don’t want kids of my own (he does), am extremely […]
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Boredom is her enemy
Q I’m a woman who married young (21) and I’ve been with my husband for seven years. In the last year, I’ve realized my falling libido is probably because I’m not turned on by our boring vanilla sex routine. I get so little fulfillment I’d rather not even do it. I’ve tried talking to him, but he […]
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Fingering it out
QI’m a 36-year-old straight guy, happily married for more than 10 years and a longtime reader. My wife and I are monogamous. We’re good communicators, well matched in terms of libido and slightly kinky (light bondage, Dom/sub play in the bedroom). For the last few months, I’ve been thinking about trying prostate play, and I […]
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Cuckold tales
QI am a bi married man—35 years old and living in a big Midwestern city. I’d like to know what’s going on in my psyche—from a sex-research perspective. I’ve been hung up on cuckold fantasies with my female partner for years now. I’m a creative person and I’m especially fond of creative fantasizing in bed, […]
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Loads of sex questions answered in quick hits
Q My fiance and I have been in a relationship for 11 years. His best friend is one of his exes, and that has always bothered me. What do I do? —Needing Guidance After Getting Engaged A You could make up your mind to get over it, NGAGE. Or you could threaten to break off […]
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Sex with a prejudicial interest
QI’m a man from a very liberal background. A girl I started dating—from a similar background—recently mentioned she has “a thing for Black guys.” She also met my best friend, a man of Korean descent, and commented she found him handsome despite not typically being attracted to Asian guys. The position that I’ve always held […]
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Quietly kinky
QI’m a single gay guy in my late 30s. I’m quite introverted and a bit shy, yet I have a big sexual drive and a rich libido. I’ve always found the gay scene overwhelming, and my several attempts at online dating were not very successful. I feel my quiet ways tend to put people off […]
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Love and marriage
Q Two years into our 23-year marriage, my wife declared that she didn’t want to kiss me or perform oral on me. Several years ago, she had an affair and confessed that she not only kissed this other person but performed oral on them as well. Why them and not me? Should I just go […]
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Sex and the curious shopper
Q I’m a straight cis woman in my early 40s and a single mother. I have not dated or hooked up with anyone in years. While I miss dating, the biggest issue right now is that my sex drive is off the charts. While watching porn and masturbating once my child goes to sleep helps, […]