The girl that broke your heart damaged your confidence and left you feeling shaky about relationships. She cheated on you and played head games (lame!). Then I came on the scene. We click. We can be ourselves with each other. We have fun and we admire each other. I know you’re attracted to me. I’ve got my shit together and I’m a caring, healthy, fun and loyal person. But you’re damaged right now, and not showing me your best self. It sucks that I have to walk away, and put it on pause. It sucks even more that you aren’t chasing after me. Because I’m a step above that other girl—in every category—and you know it. I just wish you could like yourself enough to know that you deserve what you are throwing away– a healthy, honest, sexy, smart, sweet hearted, fucking awesome girl who adores you — just for you. Lots of love, and best of luck—not really a ‘bitch’. More of a wish. —Keep On Keeping On
This article appears in Mar 7-13, 2013.
see, this is what happens if you don’t find the suckster. oh well, too late.
OP, I hear you Sista. I am going through that very same thing right now. He is too messed up to be good for anyone (mine, and yours). Time heals all wounds..I guess 🙁 Sure doesn’t make it any easier. I will be cutting my losses this week. Best of luck with yours. Remember…you deserve better! We both do!
Don’t expect anyone to just get out of a relationship to jump into another one. Are you’re sure you know this person is attracted to you, just ask and not assume. Why else is this person avoiding you? Maybe you should avoid this individual and save yourself a heartache. Then again I could be wrong. Talk to the person and tell him/her how you feel.
Nicely worded, OP. I like that, although you recognize the need to walk away, you don’t trash him. Tasteful and classy 🙂
All this and modest too!
@Reg of the New Avatar Le Crisp: Nice bird–lovely AND voracious, but can he sing?…….;P
I agree — it’s tacky to expect someone to want to be with you as soon as they’re out of a relationship — even if the person he was in a relationship with sucked.
On the other hand, just because you (or you think)’re better than his last gf doesn’t mean you are. People like people for different reasons… and maybe he’s just not interested?
I can’t think of a more cliche’d excuse people use to show their disinterest in someone as “I’m not ready for a relationship” or “I’m too busy” blahblah…. I mean, I’ve seen the most fucked up people (fucked up from past relationships) start relationships with people — decent relationships. The “I’m not ready for a relationship” or “I don’t want a relationship right now” excuse is just that: an excuse. What it really means is “I don’t want a relationship with you.”
Honestly? He sounds like he’s not interested in you. I think you knew that when he didn’t ‘chase after you.’ You can tell a lot about another person’s interest in whether or not they make you do all the work.
Seems pretty clear to me, OB. It sucks, but you’re best bet is to focus your energies on people who ARE interested in you.
If he cares enough for you,he’ll get in touch with you.
Well if you care about him and time is not an issue, you could invite to a coffee once a month or so to see how he is doing and if he gets back to a good place, you could decide then what to do.
Nurse, classy as usual.
The Captain isn’t dragging any emotional baggage around with him, and – “a healthy, honest, sexy, smart, sweet hearted, fucking awesome girl who adores you” – is pretty much a copy of my eligibility to date checklist.
So, baby, save that wish for The Captain ;D
@SheSang, not with a mouth full of fish! The puffin strikes me as more of a squawker. I have never heard one but it has “squawk” written all over it. As for me, I must humbly admit that I cannot sing with a mouthful of fish either.
From everything I’ve seen and can find, they’re actually not.
They knows when to keep their beak shut, which makes them A1 in my books.
To OB, it doesn’t really sound like that person should be in a relationship at this time…
with anyone. Perhaps they’re acting as such in an attempt to not drag anyone down with them like the final swells of a sinking ship.
Just putting a little Revolver into your day Reg–couldn’t resist;)
i understand how you feel op.. but one of my PET pet peeves is someone who assume that a person is somehow damaged or deranged because they don’t want to date him or her. “Oh so and so doesn’t want to go out with me. Obviously that is a MAJOR character flaw that i cannot abide by. Imagine! Not being attracted to me.. The very I-DEA…”
Maybe you’re not all that op? Maybe you’re just being petty and jealous and are a dime a dozen? You might as easily be princess freaking di but i’m just saying..