Q I’m a straight guy and I’m really into having my balls sucked—it’s one of my favourite things and just thinking about it turns me on. But whenever I’ve had my balls sucked, it hurts, and ball pain is not a kink of mine! It hurts enough to override any pleasure, and I have to […]
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Get real, get lucky
Q My younger brother and I are close. He came out of the closet last year, although it wasn’t much of a surprise because everyone knew he was gay since forever. Everyone is happy he’s out because it kind of takes the elephant out of the room, and our immediate and extended family are all […]
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Don’t ignore your own urges
Q Is it normal for my man to be so attracted to boobs that even though mine are beautiful and perfect, my boyfriend still wants to look at every other woman with a set of big boobs that he can? Aren’t mine enough? –Boyfriend Ogles Other Breasts A You sound like a new reader, BOOB, […]
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Lovers in a digital time
Q I’m a 28-year-old guy who was broken up with via text by a girl I had been dating for two months. She is dealing with the loss of a family member and some other personal issues, and she sent me this message while out of state for a week or so. Two months is […]
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Grin and bear it
Q Could you tell my boy to calm the heck down? Can’t seem to get him to get the difference between bestiality, necrophilia and screwin’ a bearskin rug. Emphasizing my usual sexual interests—which involve rope bondage, floggin’ and an e-stim unit—hasn’t worked. Logic isn’t helpin’ out at all. Maybe you can help? I’m a gay […]
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Sexual ambitions
Q I’m a straight male from southern California and I really want to be a straight male escort. The problem is the industry is shrouded with deceptive “agencies” that take advantage of the situation. Also, it’s not like there’s a Male Escort 101 course that I can take to learn how to avoid these traps. […]
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The power of opting-in
Q I’m a 17-year-old girl and, in most aspects, I’m confident with myself, my identity and my body. Earlier this year, I met a girl. She had some serious drama at home and needed to get out of her house, so I let her stay at mine. Things went a LOT further than I was […]
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Working overtime
Q I work in an office tower in downtown Seattle. From time to time, I go to a bathroom on a mostly deserted floor, go into a stall and rub out a quick one. Usually, no one comes in. Today, just as I was blowing a load into a handful of TP, someone came into […]
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Don’t be the worst
Q I am a 26-year-old straight guy. My straightness and guyness are recent revelations, and it feels amazing to be able to confidently state this. Here is my trouble: I’ve had gender issues for the past five years. My now ex-girlfriend of three years said she couldn’t be with me anymore due to these issues. […]
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Going balls out
Q I am a straight 29-year-old guy and I’ve been into ball-busting—having my balls kicked and stomped—since I was 14. The fucked-up thing is, I only enjoy getting my balls busted by other guys. I’ve been hit in the balls by girls, and it doesn’t do anything for me. I thought I might be bisexual, […]
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Defining the relationship
Q Is it possible for a hookup to turn into a relationship? –Hoping One Person Enters A A hookup is a relationship, HOPE. It may be a short-term relationship, but it’s a relationship regardless. And, yes, a short-term hookup can turn into a long-term relationship, HOPE, but not if you’re treating your hookups like shit […]
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A rear-eye view
Q I’m gay and a junior in high school, and I’ve had a boyfriend for a year. (He’s one year older than me, Dan, so relax!) We are out to our parents and everyone is supportive. We are not bullied or suicidal or using drugs. But we are frustrated! We had sex education in our […]