Dan Savage

Q My fiance and I have been together for six years. We’re both 27. About a year ago, he admitted to me that he is bi—which I was surprised about. I told him that I was bi-curious. We have had talks about meeting with other couples. I am very insecure. I have been with very […]

Q I have an awesome relationship with an awesome guy. I’m GGG and he’s vanilla, but he’s never asked me for anything other than vanilla sex. Which is why I don’t know what to do. I went downstairs late the other night, and he was sitting on the couch masturbating while stroking the cat, which […]

Q I am the father of a recently out 18-year-old gay boy. Here’s the problem: My son is in a relationship with a 31-year-old guy. I’m not OK with that. Yes, my son is a legal adult at 18 and can make his own decisions, but he’s also still in high school. His mother argues […]

Q I was recently advised to begin reading your column by my therapist. I am a 21-year-old male and a senior at an Ivy League school. Despite my academic success, I’ve battled a lot of stuff in the past few years: anxiety, depression, substance abuse and porn addiction. It’s quite a load of shit to […]

Q Thank you for your advocacy of monogamishy. (Monogamishness?) When I fell in love with my gloriously kinky and GGG wife several years ago, we were honest about our sexual desires—vast and wide-ranging—and we negotiated an arrangement that works for us. We encourage each other’s outside crushes, and we both just want to be present […]

Q I’m a gay man in my late 20s who has been trying to deal with an attraction to young boys since I hit puberty. I know that what I feel is wrong and wish to Christ that I could have a normally wired brain. I have never abused a child; I do not look […]

Q I had a threesome with my husband and another woman because I am GGG and that’s always been a fantasy of his. I laid out my ground rules, and they were violated. (I said I was uncomfortable with his P in her V, and I ended up watching them fuck.) I didn’t stop it […]

Q I am a straight 24-year-old female who has known my fiance since freshman year of college. He has a fetish where he likes to watch women use the bathroom. I knew this, having seen some of his porn early on, and I accepted it. We all have kinks. But while peeing in front of […]

I headed north last week to do Savage Love Live at the University of Alaska Anchorage. All of these questions were submitted to me by UAA students and staffers. Q Should I go ahead and divorce my fantastic wife of 23 years now because gay marriage is going to destroy it eventually anyway? –Tony From […]

{image-1] Q I’m a 21-year-old gay male. My friend Marcelo is friends with Chad. Everyone who meets Chad assumes he’s gay. Never had a girlfriend, a dance major, dyes his hair blond/green/purple, got up at 2am to watch Kate marry William. Over four years at college, this situation has gone from funny to sad as […]

Q My husband is a very kinky submissive man. When we were dating, I found out he had been talking to multiple people online and had met up with a professional dom a couple of times. I felt betrayed that he had done this all behind my back, even though I had told him that […]

Q Have boyfriend. Several months. Love sex. First time we 69, I notice he has a little turtlehead sticking out. You get me? Second time, he has bits of toilet paper stuck in that area. CAN I ADDRESS THIS? And how do I do it without giving him a permanently flaccid penis? I love this […]