She beat the shit out of you for a year and put you in a hospital. She kept him at a distance while she dumped her unhealed pain on you so she could finally figure out how to function in a relationship, then she threw you away like a piece of human garbage and got together with him. And you’re happy for her? She’s a violently abusive, borderline personality disordered narcissist, and you deserve justice for what she did to you. I fucking hate that you forgive her. No man in her life has ever tried so hard or taught her so much. If you get out of this alive, get angry or I’ll kill you. —Angry Friend of an Abused Lover
This article appears in Feb 7-13, 2013.
These type of things are always difficult for an outside party to understand, so I would caution you not to undo whatever it is this guy did to make his peace. In my experience, campaigning for someone to unforgiveanother is counterproductive and may shift some of the blame to you. You can’t apply your own moral code onto others.
At the same time, some people just don’t fucking learn from life. I dunno.
op you must be one of the bitter bitchers on here. they too hold a lot of anger forever. the old saying goes, reverge and bitterness only poison the one who holds it. why concern yourself over their biz. get a friggen life.
Yeah, Bella should have picked Jacob.
I mean seriously, is this the type of shit twilight loving women yearn to read???
Good gawd.
http://www.theonion.com/articles/trojan-in…
meh, people trying to live like their ‘heroes’ on reality tv and entertainmnet zines.
want drama? go live in rwanda
Yeah, my exwifes a real sweetheart ‘eh .
The doctors say that people change when their hearts stop & oxygen gets cut off from the brain …but she’s definately a real charmer ever since then.
(OB if this ain’t about a female born in Sheet Harbour, it definately could be …her latest was beat pretty bad just recently )
Did he get beat up cause he smoked the last crack rock?
There is a support group for survivors of abuse and it openly invites women AND men. I noticed the sign today at the Dartmouth ferry terminal – downtown. It’s yellow and on the bulletin board near the change machine across from Tim Hortons.
You should encourage your Stockholmy friend to attend a meeting or two.. Or he’s gonna make the same mistake over and over. Abuse victims are often perpetual abuse victims because they continue to choose shitty partners. Blaming the partner 100% is nonsense. Of course they don’t deserve how they are being treated but in order to break an abuse cycle, THE PARTNER HAS TO DECIDE ENOUGH IS ENOUGH. And know how to spot these sociopaths and avoid them.
harper devil.. see this is part of the problem. Abused women are accepted as coming from all walks of life. But abused men? You all assume they live in the hood and smoke crack.
That shit’s gotta change. Abuse happens to lots of people from lots of situations, FEMALE AND MALE. And it’s NOT OK. Female OR male.
This guy was beaten so badly he ended up in hospital?He never defended himself during those assaults?From where I came from if a woman laid a hand on her spouse she FN got it.
I spoke to this guy a few days ago,he told me he would never assault a female.I was amassed when he seemed dumbfounded at the reason a men (stronger,bigger than a woman) would hit a female to begin with.
Hey, “you can take the girl outa the hood…”. And besides, I’m not adverse to smackin a bitch for smokin the last rock or bangin the last speedball.
Yeah, while most domestic abuse is committed by men against women, men have it pretty shitty when they’re the victims.
I think it would be extremely difficult to try and defend yourself without doing some damage to the woman. And if you did hurt the woman, you’d have to tread pretty carefully as many would probably assume you (being the man) were the instigator.
Shitty situation all around.
What the fuck? You’re leaving death threats online dummy? Your IP can be traced.