We fell on hard times. Our friends all say they want to help. Thanks friends, but inviting us out to the movies, for drinks, or dinner, to “cheer us up” is not helping. WE HAVE NO MONEY! You can come over to our place. You can provide moral support. You can recommend places that are hiring if you hear of anything. Hell, you can offer to be a reference if we need it. But, inviting us to something requiring cash, and saying things like, “If you lose the house, you can stay with us,” is really f-ing insensitive. And no, we don’t want your money—we’d rather keep our REAL friendships and self-respect. —Need a Job and New Friends
This article appears in Mar 31 – Apr 6, 2011.
this is just depressing 🙁
hang in there OP!
Argh, my sister-in-law’s like this. She asked me to be a bridesmaid and was such a bitch about the dresses. I lost my job due to downsizing last year and had only worked there for a few months so I didn’t qualify for EI. When I talked to her and mentioned my job loss she sent me pictures of $400 bridesmaids dresses she was considering. Talk about insensitivity!
ever get the feeling they’re just kicking you while you’re down?
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tell them, no thanks. I think I’ll enjoy a nice bike ride or walk in the park….
read a book on the citadel…
gee,you must have very few friends,i would be very happy if someone just offered me a time out from my depressive life,but i guess you can just stay home a wallow in your own misery…thanks god my friends have stable jobs and minds…just live off welfare and bitch about that in a couple of months in this same column…can’t wait!
Whatever you do, don’t serve them cooked ham sandwiches. = p
“gee,you must have very few friends,i would be very happy if someone just offered me a time out from my depressive life,but i guess you can just stay home a wallow in your own misery”
how is me inviting someone who has no money out to a movie I’m going to or a dinner I plan on eating a nice thing? I highly doubt the friend is offering to pay as well…
but rather asking them to tag along and ‘watch me eat while you enjoy your water’….
..basically most peeps don’t give a shit when your in the weeds..they throw out a couple of invites..know your not gonna go ..and toodles..
well o.p., maybe they are better than you, in some places and things. maybe the chick, gives more and better blowjobs than you. maybe the guys fuck better than you, and for far longer periods of time. or maybe, you are just letting your inner little bitch self, shine thru, in these trying times of puberty? who knows, maybe this bitch is real, and you are real too? then again, maybe this world and all that are on it, is just a dream, or even a lab rat’s test in a really big other dimension. what is reality, and are you real too. get out from your cellar, off the game console, and stop texting, and you might be surprised by what you find.
either that, or the zombies will get you, and eat what little brains you have.
Perhaps they were over to your place for a visit but you were pounding the pavement looking for a job…..you were OUT looking for work….right? Good, glad that is cleared up!
No money? Come on, you must have something….even poor people have money for the movies, dinners, etc. You could always panhandle on Windsor Street exchange and Spring Garden, not that I give those scumbags a cent. There’s always welfare. But most people would rather be dead than be on that.
Maybe OP has other priorities, sebastard. Get your head out of your ass (as good as it does feel) and wake the fuck up. You have the logical thinking skills of a heroin addict in withdrawal.
Must be all that cunt-envy that’s clouding your judgement.
… Isn’t it obvious he’s just trying to be inflammatory. It’s an act. No one can be this “stone faced” for such a long time without it being put on. Even MM “cracked” and seems like an ok fella. I’m not saying seb is a gentleman by any means but … like … Jesus Mary Joseph and Revalations, leave the troll alone.
Derp.
Even MM “cracked” and seems like an ok fella.
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Awww Zedman. No one who loves dogs can be all bad.
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Hell, he even loved kittehs:
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Hay, didn’t Hitler have a beef against his mother too? Pretty sure Sebastard has mommy issues as well… curious. Very curious.
And it’s so obvious this guy’s a troll. I’ve thought for a while that he’s just someone’s fake account (maybe even an actual regular bitcher! ;)), but I didn’t really believe it until I wrote my last sebastard slam post.
sebastian is useful. He lifts the curtain to expose the meanest, most ignorant, resentful and irrational thoughts that lurk in the darkest corners of people’s mind The only way to combat such harmful thinking is to drag the thoughts out into the light of day. Such thoughts cannot withstand close scrutiny…maybe that’s why people hide them.
Oh go ‘way! I hate the person’s shoes in your display pic anyway. Hmph!
*crosses arms, stares out window*
Nope – his stepfather. He was fairly close to his mother.
True story – my Bro-in-law is teaching High School history in T.O.
He was explaining infant mortality in late 19th century Europe and and used the fact that Hitler’s Mom had several children but that he was the only one who survived. One of the students gasped “You mean he killed them all”? That one gets a lot of mileage at staffroom shooter parties
Oh look , another bitch by someone who doesn’t know the difference, between friend & an acquaintance !
(this problem is obviously more common than common sense !)
If one of my friends was in a tight spot, I probably would invite them out for dinner and I would definitely pay without a second thought. And I know for a fact that several of my friends would do the same (because they have). Maybe you mistake friends for acquaintances. jussayin.
That’s nice, longwalker, however some people would be embarrassed if you took them out and paid. Money is a weird issue for a lot of people.
Why is that PK ?
If I want to take a friend or friends out for dinner, I invite them & tell them its my treat.
What’s the big deal ?
They can decide to come out or not…its not about whether they can pay or not, for example the last time I did it, was because I had to skip an invitation to a function I had RSVP’d I would attend.
An emergency came up I couldn’t be there & when I had the chance I asked them out to Nectar’s Social House in Dartmouth. I said I’d pay… that way there is nothing ’embarrassing’ .
I don’t understand ‘weird issue’ ???
Its not an insult to me, at least they are trying to help and get your mind off it. Sometimes they just need to be told, and please no one give me that real friends dont need to be told crap, we do live in the real world where we are all not mind readers or have the observation skills to figure everything out.
Hey, I think it’s a great idea to take a friend out for whatever and pick up the tab. In fact, I have a friend who’s having some tough financial times (despite being very gainfully employed) and we have plans to go to starbucks for coffee — my treat. But, I have other friends who won’t LET me pay for them. They have some sort of issue with it. Almost like they’re embarrassed they don’t have the cash to take themselves out. And I even had to convince the friend to go to starbucks with me and not tim’s. Some people have too much “pride” (self imposed pride — nothing wrong with letting someone else pay if they insist) to have someone pay for them because they don’t have the money and that can be weird for both people.
It’s not MY issue, but it’s an issue I’ve come across when I’ve invited people out as “my treat.”
hurray i’m on mind terms with pk