Why is dating in this city / province so difficult?!
There are lots of mid 30’s single people filling up the “dating scene” or lack there of in Halifax but for some reason none of the actually want to meet. I talk to girls and most complain about how it’s difficult for them to find a nice guy who’s not into games and isn’t scare of actually meeting. Yet most of what I have encountered as a single guy for the last maybe 5 years of being single is exactly that from women here?! Most don’t want to meet at all.
They mostly play games with email tag and endless emails. When I mention meeting for coffee or drinks or whatever the case may be, they drop off the face of the earth. Most recently, one actually chose to go exclusive with someone long distance who doesn’t live in the province and establish an online / virtual relationship!
I have a hard time accepting that is normal!
Most of my friends think I’m a great catch. I have my own place, car, you name it really. I travel yearly and we’re not talking to Cuba or Mexico. Last summer I was in the middle east, Maldives and Budapest! I’m not Mr. Universe, but I’m not hideous either! I’ve been told that I’m handsome. I’m fit and keep active yet it’s so difficult to actually meet women here! I met a few throughout the last couple of years, none of which actually live here! Somehow they were the friendliest I’ve met. I will not believe that men are the problem when it comes to dating!
Is anyone else having this issue?!
I don’t want to have kids and I thought that might present a problem, except I actually came across a lot of women who are on that same boat! Yet after interacting, sometimes even for a month or more, they refuse to meet! Why are you wasting people’s time if that’s the case?
If a woman could possibly shine some light on this situation, I would appreciate some advice! —Conventional Dating
This article appears in Dec 10-16, 2015.
If you speak as verbosely as you write, little wonder the female sex avoids you. Men should be seen, not heard rambling.
^^^ Yes. Most dating lives would improve immensely if people learned to be more of a listener and less of a salesperson extolling their own virtues.
OB, next time you meet someone you are interested in try to focus on asking them questions about themselves. There’s nothing people like more than someone who is interested in what they think. Only give details about yourself in response to questions or other prompts. It’s called an exchange.
There. That was my good deed for the day.
Try talking to women in person that way you have already met face to face. My mom saw something she liked and waited for him to speak to her but he was very shy and so my mother took the bull by the horns and made the first move. They were married and had eight children, all because she dared. Pay a lady a compliment at the grocery store, library, gas station, where ever you are,. Say something funny or witty. Nothing like being in the moment and taking a chance, what have you got to lose? God bless you with smart and witty conversations.
Trust me when I tell you, if you meet someone out in the real world you will be much happier. I haven’t been in the online dating pool for about as long as you HAVE been in it, so maybe things have changed. But here’s what I learned: You can’t force these kinds of things they just have to happen. Online dating is unnatural. If you meet someone in person you will form a much better connection. Just takes some guts on your part and a few skills. Reading peoples body language, an appropriate time and place to start a conversation, the ability to start a friendly conversation. Understand that while there are some differences between the sexes that women are just people like you, it sounds like you’ve placed them up on this pedestal. Be happy with yourself 100% before trying to invest in a committed relationship. Relationships are sometimes hard work. If you are shy try talking to strangers, practice saying ‘good morning’ to people or striking up convo about weather etc.
Also, stop using exclamation points after every sentence.
Read this blog and you’ll find your answer…
If someone avoids meeting, they are most likely severely misrepresenting themselves online.
My english is pretty crappy, mostly because i learned french before english, but I’m wondering why is your english so crappy? it was really difficult to read this. Maybe your single because your too travelled and too handsome, and some girls find this intimidating. Personally, i wouldn’t be attracted to someone who talks about himself non-stop. Maybe take a cooking class, or maybe stop looking! I think when you least expect things, the unexpected can happen!
I would be happy to meet you-cheers C.
Maybe you are fishing out of your league? You seem to have a very healthy sense of confidence (which may or may not be grounded in reality) Ive me lots of men who are 5s who only exclusively chase women who would be considred 10s…. and even though a nice smart cute 7.5 comes along (who is still, technically, 2.5 above you), you dont give them the time of day and then bitch about why all the 10s arent lining up at your door.
My point is this: try expanding who you are looking for. There may be a very good, real reason why the ladies you are persuing arent coming through on your attempts to meet up….like they are 10s holding out for other 10s…
“WOMEN are the problem….
I have everything and they still don’t like me…
they all suck…
Can I get some advice from them now?”
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I can only wonder what they would have to say.
Dude, you’re insane I’d put money on you dying alone.