It was months before I felt secure enough to tell you my inner most thoughts and feelings. Then as the result, something happened to negatively affect my life. I was trying to keep my head above water, now my life is in shambles and I’m drowning because of the weight of the world I carry on my painful shoulders. People are saying untrue, very hurtful things about/to me and I don’t know why.
What did you say to people about me that would make them so volatile, hurtful towards me?
If you ever cared at all about me? The thing is that you never cared except about getting one thing and one thing only from me. Ironically I was the only one that got FUCKED in the end, anyway.
You hurt me very badly, in more ways than you could know.
You know how to find me if you care to answer my questions. —Sodomized and Hurting
This article appears in Nov 15-21, 2012.
I wouldn’t hold your breath waiting for answers Sodom. That kind of person will give anything but satisfaction. Yes, you were used and that hurts. Stay away from this person and heal.In future you’ll have to be a little more circumspect with your personal history.
I love sodomy!
Buy a strapon and sodomize him.
“You know how to find me if you care to answer my questions.”
Cell Block D showers. Bring the soap.
—Sodomized and Hurting
I hate reading stuff like this.
Makes me sad.
Don’t it make your brown eye blue?
“you know how to find me…”
despite your litany of hurt at this person’s hands you still want contact?
“answer my questions” is just a way of trying to keep in touch. it’s not ‘romantic’ to be a victim to ‘love’. not like this. this is low self esteem and masochistic.
go play some country music and wallow, or just stop it.
Oh! Oh! Molly! You just reminded me of another joke:
Q: How many country singers does it take to change a lightbulb?
A: Five. One to change the bulb and four to sing about how much they miss the old one!
(Ba-dum-ching!)
and more hits on the country chart
“i gave her my heart and a diamond, and she clubbed me with a spade”
“get off the table, mabel, the 2 bucks is for the beer’
“at the gas station of life, i got the self service pump’
“I’m stuck here in Mexico. Livin’ on refried dreams”
“if my nose were full of nickles, i’d blow it all on you”
what the heck is the matter with all of you??????
doesn’t anyone realize that it’s WORLD TOILET DAY ???
don’t we have some kind of special ceremony? with, maybe, chili?
The tacos I made last night are going a well enough job.
The ultimate revenge…
have him fall on fusilli jerry
how could someone be so churlish as to click ‘dislike’ on World Toilet Day?
have you no morals? no compassion? no toilet paper?
and our word for the day is *churlish*
World Toilet Day? Crap! I completely forgot.
YOU POOR BABY, TELL SUSKS ALL ABOUT IT.
OB, I feel your pain (in more ways than one.)
Anyone in your circle who would believe the word of an obvious cad over yours does not deserve your friendship or trust. You have learned a great deal about your friends and this guy; a hell of a learning curve. Not one of them are worth the time of day.
Get away from that crowd, and that guy, for a while; cut off all contact with them. Find a new set of hobbies, some new locales to hang out; make some new connections through work or school. Create a new routine for yourself away from the old crowd and give it a month or two to make it stick. Seriously, you need the space to get over the pain and get to a point where you’re not tempted either to kill him or beg him to take you back.
Be good to yourself; your new friends will be good to you in ways that you’ve not encountered in a while; that neat “That’s cool” vibe they give when they learn something new about you; the new perspectives they bring to the story of you. Best of all is that, during that time, _you_ can control the pace of those relationships’ growth, and yours will be the first voice those new friend hear of that narrative, and the one they are more inclined to heed. Living better than your tormentors – better than the ones you’ve left behind – has always been the best form of revenge.
how about this one, she got the gold mine, and i got the shaft.
Blow: Hahahahhaha good one. To the OP: Welcome to life and to the world of assholes. (No pun intended) You will find the majority of men are just that: assholes. The rest of them are just pigs.
How about this:
I caught her riding bareback, and I don’t mean a horse
She’s been sneakin out to meet with my best friend of course
She said their love was true and they shouldn’t have to hide no
And that’s the story of the day my wife ran off with fido
It’s ok though it’s alright
I’m with someone new tonight
I found a lover I can keep
I bought some tall boots and a sheep
Kilt – /kilt/ noun – Scottish implement used for keeping rain off the back of sheep.
How about the 3 legged dog. He walked into the saloon and proclaimed, “I’m a’lookin’ for the man that shot my paw!”
My therapist says I have a preoccupation with vengeance.
We’ll see about that.
ooo, I just found one that made me chuckle…
I was having dinner with Garry Kasporov in a nice diner with a check tablecloth.
It took him two hours to pass me the salt.
did he take the pepper in return?
salt 3 to pepper 6. Check (cheque) please!
There are a lot of people out there who don’t know “where they stand” unless they are looking down at someone who’s under them. this will never bother them because they can’t see past there own fucking eyelashes. Next time you see it coming with someone else just ask them “how many opportunities do you get for self esteem?”. He or she won’t know the direction of narcissism and will bail, or change their tune. Not sure how it works with being a woman and saying it (given social assumptions and such).
When are people going to learn ….USE MORE LUBRICATION !
Another bully in a world of ever increasing bullies. Don’t give them the time of day, you’re just setting yourself up for another whack upside the head.
“WHY??”: A CONCEPTUAL ANALYSIS
: “People are saying untrue, very hurtful things about/to me and I don’t know why.” Sodomized and Hurting
S&H has asked perhaps the fundamental philosophical question, that is “Why?” The question “Why?” is a demand for reasons for someone acting the way they do. But what is a reason? According to the Concise Oxford Dictionary a reason is defined as “a fact adduced or serving as an argument, motive, cause or justification of an action.” But what is to count, in the present context as satisfying the criteria of a reason? To engage this question a little conceptual clarification is in order.
“Ordinary language philosophy” (OLP) claims that philosophy does not aim at discovering truth(s) about the world or investigating the criteria of rationality so much as the clarification of concepts and the clarification of concepts involves examining the way words are used in ordinary language. Philosophy, its adherents maintain, “leaves everything as it is.” So what would an OLP clarification of the concept of reason look like in S&H’s case? Will it assist in clarifying and perhaps solving her dilemma?
The distinguishing characteristic of a reason is that it contains an intellectual element. Unlike a cause which might originate in a bodily condition – one thinks of testosterone in connection with sex for example – a reason necessarily involves intellectual activity of one sort or another. However, one might have a reason yet not necessarily engage in an argument or bring it forward as a justification of an action. One might simply act on its basis without reflecting on its validity. This raises the question as to whether a reason is identical with a motive but a motive may well be subconscious and so fail the criterion of conscious awareness. So, we have given counter-arguments to S&M’s demand for reasons and, indeed, while she assumes that the people who are saying untrue and very hurtful things about her have in fact reasons for doing so, she has given none in her bitch. Had she done so we might have applied the criteria of rationality, of what constitutes a valid reason, to determine their legitimacy. But she hasn’t. So what is left?
Nothing really. It appears that OLP has failed to resolve S&H’s dilemma. But at least it has clarified the concept of what a reason might consist.
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
Roaring @ madeinthe80’s comment
It’s not likely that they will ever be honest with you so take yourself out of their sphere and establish a new sense of you. Some people simply don’t care about others.