If you’re going to get together in a group and do something in public you shouldn’t feels so damn entitled to privacy. I’m talking about the breast feeding groups that get together at the coffee shop. By doing something in public you’re assuming that others are going to be there and might share the same space, so don’t get all “excuse me, but do you mind fucking off while we feed our children.” It’s just strange to see you all in a group doing it. If that’s how it’s going to be there should be a Breast Feeding World Championship so that these groups have some kind of international standards. Could you imagine the long distance event, or the marathon? Same for the Alcoholics Anonymous and the Atheists, the could have the Nietzsche Cup. —It’s My Coffee Shop Too
This article appears in Dec 16-22, 2010.
LS will want to know where this is happening.
Gee, I can’t possibly imagine who the OB might be 😉
Give the babies some arrowroot cookies, you’ll get a better show.
Marathon Tit Pulling – now THAT’s an event.
OP, you realize people like you are the whole reason they have these groups, right?
Umm maybe I’m missing the point but why would a bunch of nursing mothers meet in a COFFEE shop? I mean I know you can get decaff and I really hope these mothers are…. Newborns don’t need caffine… (Sidenote – there’s a woman in my office who still nurses her 5 year old – “mommy milk” – and this woman has 7 cups of coffee a day – and wonders why her child is hyper…..
They probably meet in a coffee shop because it’s a high traffic public place that’s also indoors.
breastfeeding is great, but a five year old…no. tho the laleche league thinks it’s otay
Yeah 5 years old is far too old to still be breastfeeding.
woman are turning child rearing into a creep-fest these days dang
Anyone who breastfeeds a five year old have some serious fucking mental issues. I had a friend who did just that and it was so fucking revolting that I stopped dropping by. Reminds me of the sketch in ‘Little Britain’ where the guy asks for some ‘bittie’.
I know that breastfeeding is so healthy for the child – but once the baby is no longer a baby and can walk and talk and ask for the boob – that’s it! no more mommy’s milk. It’s wrong – give the kid a vitamin supplement or something. I’ll breastfeed little one #2 for 9 months like I did the first one. And why are these women in public groups doing this? I don’t get it. But I do think you should breastfeed anywhere publicly you feel comfortable with – I only did in private though.
I hate how extremist some people have become about breastfeeding- as if formula feeding is child abuse. As if I’m doing a detriment to my child’s brain development. I TRIED so hard to breastfeed when my son was born; but I just couldn’t do it because it hurt so much I would retch each time; my nipples have always been hyper- sensitive and when i was pregnant, just the bedsheet skimming over them felt like tiny splinters of glass..and for some rason that feeling still hasn’t gone away. I tried to breastfeed anyway and when that hurt too much i tried to pump, and it didn’t work. But I still have a happy, healthy, intelligent toddler and i begruge anyone who would suggest i am a bad mother for having formula fed.
I think the whole idea of breastfeeding in a large group in public is to “raise awareness”, for lack of a better term.
Brings a whole new meaning to double double. If they run out of coffee cream or milk – NP, ask the one with the biggest udders for a squirt.
Z – I’m a firm believer that if it’s stressful on you to do it – then don’t – the baby can sense those things and if it’s causing you pain or discomfort at all then it’s not worth it. You’ll end up stressing yourself and eventually resenting your kid every time they cry cause their hungry. I had no intensions of breastfeeding until my sister got on me about it – because she researched the hell out of it and was so excited to do it – not just for the nutrients but also the bonding and all that – then her little girl came out with a cleft pallet amongst other health issues and ended up having to feed through a g-tube for the first 3 years of her life. That’s why I did it – guilt…..and I said I would try and if it didn’t take I wasn’t killing myself or starving my kid. But I ended up being a breastfeeding machine – you’d think it was cream the amount a weight my little guy gained. My milk came in a 6 months pregnant pretty much…lol. It’s not for everyone – and it doesn’t make anyone better or worse for not doing it.
I didn’t breastfeed any of mine. The thought of it simply repulsed me, being a walking milk machine on call. Just wasn’t my thing. By Hub-Unit and I taking turns feeding, we both bonded with each of the kids. But the pressure I got from family and friends to breastfeed was totally fucking ridiculous. If you want to do it, fine, but a mother shouldn’t be hounded if she chooses not to.
Thanks realchick 🙂
Some of my best memories were the wee hour of the morning feedings in the rocker. Oft times we woke up there.
The real question is if they’ll give me some milk for my tea if I ask them.
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funny thing guys, i had posted a comment about the merits of breastfeeding, and minding one’s own business. but it seems to have gotten lost somewhere. the gist of it was that if wants to feed baby this way fine, if owner/manager has no problems with it. also a group, who decides to feed this way, is looking to stir up some shit.
while i highly recomend this type of meal for baby, it is not for everyone.yes, i’m a male, and i see plenty of moms feeding. does it bother me, no. it is natural, and brings mom and child closer i believe.some can’t do it, because of pain, disgust, or whatever, that is your business.
those that do, all power to you.i think a breast is a real beautiful thing, some better than others, and i would never turn one away. big or small, i like them all.but to the post here. yes, they could have been a little bit less conspiculous, but hey, this is after all 2010, for another few days anyway. we should have grown beyond this, what with mtv, and all the trashy cheap crap movies and music out there. but i guss prudes will be prudes.beastfeeding moms, all the best to you, and i support your decision 1,000 percent. to the others that find distate in this, fuck you and go suck a dog’s dick. how’s that ttfn?
blowing ones nose and farting are “natural” too,but theirs a time and place for bodily usage…putting on make up or flossing teeth are acceptable also,but as civilized society,we have discretion in these areas and the people with some sort of class would never subject someone else to these…have some decorum
“Sidenote – there’s a woman in my office who still nurses her 5 year old ” what the absolute fudge! That can’t be real!
Oh p.s women can bugger off with their tits and shit. Doing that in a group in a coffee shop … oh please. A bunch of moronic women. That’s not the way to get their msg out, they’re just alienating people. I have no issue with moms breast feeding at all, I do however have an issue with women who whip out the tit and snarl at ppl who look at them. What kind of mother does that make? … again with the self entitlement.
I have a hard time believing that breastfeeding mothers gave the OP a hard time in a coffee shop, either by word or deed. I think this bitch was prompted by the OP’s own negative feelings about breastfeeding.
My wife breastfed both of our kids. They were weened naturally. My son gave it up at 2 1/2 and my daughter’s last sip was around 4 1/2 after a long period of tapering off. This was all twenty years ago.
Some folks stared and some folks were offended when my wife nursed in public. A number of WOMEN came up and told her she should put a blanket over herself and baby or do it in the privacy of a public washroom!
The medical profession seems generally supportive these days, but as recently as twenty years ago there was still a lot of hostility from uninformed health professionals caught in the grip of ‘scientific baby raising’ with their growth charts and a clear preference for ‘nutritionally balanced’ formulas from Nestle Corporation. Are new mothers still subjected to this bullshit?
We also employed the ‘family bed’ concept, against the well-intended advice of some relatives and so-called experts. To add insult to injury, we home schooled our kids to university, where they have both done quite well. I guess we just never outgrew our hippie roots.
I know breast feeding in this modern age is a personal choice and for some women it isn’t a realistic choice at all, but I don’t think something so natural and beautiful should be stigmatized by a society that flaunts sexuality at every opportunity and seems driven to reduce human sexuality to a mere ‘orgasm scorecard’.
The problem with sexualizing the female breast -the purpose of which is to feed babies- is that what should be a natural function, nourishing a hungry infant, has become something dirty, to be hidden away lest someone erroneously think they are witnessing something disgusting. Feeding a hungry baby is not a dirty, sexual act. The rights of the hungry baby trump all else. If you don’t like it that is YOUR problem, not the hungry baby’s. Get over yourselves!
I will breastfeed my son wherever we are if he is hungry. Why would I deny my son food just because you might get offended. I get stares all the time when I am out in public feeding my son. It is natural! Our bodies are designed to produce milk to feed our children. If you chose to formula feed that is fine. Don’t hate on me for choosing to breast feed my kid. And moms tend to hang out with other moms on MAT leave. So that is why you would see these groups of woman out with each other. We need to get out of the house and socialize with grown ups!
Yeah but what are the chances that every baby there was hungry at the same time. They were hoping for a disturbance so they could be on the 6 O’Clock news.
Babies eat a lot. New born babies can eat every hour. My son is 6 months and sometimes nurses every 2 hours. Maybe it was a nurse in and maybe it wasn’t. I doubt the women were at the coffee shop to make people uneasy. Just go about your business and stop concentrating on how people feed their children OP.
when i was pregnant and when i was nursing, anytime a baby cried it caused my milk to flow
I don’t care who you are….you see a group of women popping their tits out to feed their children in public & YOU’RE GOING TO LOOK !
You may not stare, you might even attempt to do so surrepTITiciously ~;)….but if you don’t give them at least a glance, you ain’t human !
I agree with the OB & it is a public place ,so ladies feed your child there if it makes you happy. Just remember that someone taking a look is also in that public place & they should be free to do so . After all if you were putting on any other public performance you’d expect a crowd !
Don’t I know it, paingirl. I remember standing in a rather long line at the pharmacy with a pack of nursing pads in my hand and while nervously scanning the store for babies. I managed to make it to the cash before the dreaded cry of a baby sounded through the store. The cashier turned quite red as his eyes when from the spreading wet spots on my shirt to the nursing pads in his hand. It was like a scene out of McCarthy’s ‘Dirty Love’ only with milk instead of menses.
Good times…ha! = p
LadyS, if you think that wasn’t a “nurse in”, I have a couple of bridges to sell you. I’ve seen many women nurse their babies and the vast majority use a nursing blanket. No one is objecting to that. What they object to is women who flaunt it and trying to cause a racket so the can say “we’re being discrimated against” or some such nonsense as you are spouting.
Sometimes I use a nursing blanket sometimes I don’t. My son is eating so my nipple is not showing. You can see the same amount of boob or more on the cover of a mens magazine. I said it could have been a nurse in. It might not have. Usually there is an event posted on some kind of public form to inform nursing mothers about nurse in’s. So if you think it was all you have to do is a little searching on the internet. I do not see anything wrong with nurse in’s or nursing in public. Most coffee shops and stores that are breastfeeding friendly have a sticker on the door that tells the customers. So if breastfeeding offends you then look for the sticker and stay out of the store.
Also if I am nursing I do not mind people asking me questions. And I would guess most people wouldn’t mind. So if you feel compelled to look and wonder why are all these women nursing together why don’t you just ask. OP I am sure the women didn’t tell you to fuck off. One of them probably shot you a look because you were staring.
This may or may not be relevant: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ueX-ZQi5yl0…
excellent nerdman…very relevant^^
You’re welcome. 🙂 I wanted to find the full episode but couldn’t. I think everybody should watch every episode of every season of that show to be perfectly honest.
Ugh, this reminds me of a girl I know who just had a kid — OBVIOUSLY the kid needs formula, but the mom refuses to feed the kid any. The kid isn’t gaining weight, is screaming all the damn time and has problems with acid reflux and is constantly nursing. But noooo, formula is bad.
I really have an issue with these people who go on about how feeding your kids formula is the same as child abuse. Mind your own business already and let people do what they want — if they want to breastfeed, great, if they want to formula feed, fine, their choice. Yes, breast milk is best, but sometimes one can’t or chooses not to breast feed and there’s nothing wrong with that.
My mom’s like you, TTFN — she hated breast feeding and she never got enough milk so after a week of constant screeching, she put me on formula and I calmed the fuck down.
the iwk can be downright mean to new mother’s who for whatever reason don’t nurse
My sister had a breastfeeding Nazi at the Grace. I was pressured a little … When I had no feeling yet after my c-section they tried to put my little man on me and I got really upset cause I couldn’t ffel him in my arms.. I cried! They left me alone … then when I tried in my room I felt really uncomfortable around everyone..so I asked them all to leave me alone for 15 mins and I would try on my own. It took! but I would have been fine either way.
The solution is simple: choose what’s right for you and your baby, whether it’s beast milk or formula.
“excuse me, but do you mind fucking off while we feed our children” … surely not from Mother of the Year.
mmm beast milk^^