Can someone tell me what happens to guys after they say “I do”? You’ve suddenly turn into an unfeeling/seemingly uncaring morning groper. No more flowers, no more compliments, hardly a grunt when I speak to you. The TV gets more of your attention than I do! Haven’t you learned yet that when I’m happy, as in when you give me a compliment or an unexpected kiss at a time NOT associated with sex, you will get more of what you are looking for on a more regular basis? I need to feel like I have you as a romantic partner in other ways, not just during the early morning hours when you want to get it on. No bloody wonder I haven’t been in the mood lately, show me some love and attention on a daily basis instead of a grope when you’re looking for some. —Feeling Invisible
This article appears in Oct 4-10, 2012.
your new favorite song…
for you as well Boru.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QhET_IUCEHM
didn’t you know o.p., men are pigs. and we like rooting around in garbage, some of it being the human kind. hope that helps you out?
Tell your husband, if you haven’t already. Don’t be one of those that keeps quiet and lets the resentment build. Did you ever think instead of worrying about yourself, that maybe something is going on with him? Maybe he’s been preoccupied with something at work or whatever. Make sure he’s okay… maybe you should get him a kitten. If that doesn’t make him feel better, he might be a cyborg.
Unless he doesn’t like cats. Some of us prefer dogs.
Cyborg.
OB – All your husband have been like that? How many times have you been married ffs?
Let me guess, when you want some lovin, you just snap your fingers and expect him to perform.
Just because he kisses you on the neck or touches your as he passes by, doesn’t necessarily mean that he wants to fuck.
Keep up with that attitude and pretty soon he won’t touch you at all.
Yeah, I’m a cyborg because I prefer dogs to cats!
Atleast I don’t have to worry about losing my dog’s loyalty to a can of salmon being offered up by a neighbor….or getting my face scratched to bits after accidentally stroking it the wrong way!
phibbt 😉
http://cdn.motinetwork.net/demotivationalposters.net/image/demotivational-poster/0905/dogs-demotivational-poster-1243279076.jpg
Forplay begins in the morning with a kiss on the forehead continues with a “just because” phone call in the middle of the day then, after supper you wash the dishes together while you both talk.After clean up maybe watch movie while massaging each others feet.Then bed(or where ever you choose)for love making.
The act of sex is mostly between your ears not your legs…..And OP is correct…If Momma ain’t happy ,ain’t noone happy…
I gotta agree with Boru and from what I see in the lives of most of my (still)married friends. Men tend to take their wives for granted; big mistake fellas. This I know: Men’s bargaining chip is sex. That’s what they work for and live for basically. That is most important to them. I agree with the OP they do tend to fizzle once they got their prize. We know you men Love sex and as much of it as you can get but you are very stupid in one sense. Don’t you realize that a kiss here and there, a gentle touch, a kind compliment is like foreplay to your wife. Try it sometime and you will be surprised at just how happy she will be to give you what you want most: sex on a more regular basis. By being a hothead or stubborn you will only drive the wedge between you both a little deeper. Women today want a whole lot more. They want a husband who actually can carry on a conversation not just an occasional grunt to let us know you are still drawing breath. Wake up husbands or you will sadly find yourself alone one day, shaking your head and wondering why.
boru, i would add, cleans cat litter, takes care of you when you’re sick and smells good even if he hasn’t showered
I also believe there’s more qualities I find sexy in a man other than his looks.When I see a father playing with his children/child or just being a great dad to his kids,when a man is in touch with his “feminine” side and is not affraid to show it.When a man gives his word and stands by it.Those good qualities plus looks and personality and brains are what really turn me on in a man.
lol right, cuz women NEVER take men for granted. Goes both ways ladies, as does communication.
Brand new Yes your correct being taken for granted isn’t a good feeling,no matter your man or woman.Communicating too much/often,that’s just one of the things about women men hate or all the men me or my female friends and I met, anyway.
He’s probably tired of all the NAGGING!!
Skoot, it’s all those headaches. LOL.
OB…., get yer ass out to the kitchen …. the sinks full of dishes !
Relationships are hard work. Sometimes all you can do is put the shoe on the other foot, hop around a bit and ask yourself “am I being the kind of partner I want my partner to be?”
Getting married is the easy part. It’s all hard work after that if you want to keep it special. Try to break the routine a bit. Do things together. Just don’t have kids and get stuck in a rut. Then the only change will be the morning groping will stop.
Easy peasy, lemon squeezy – withdraw ‘wifely’ tasks, including the cleaning, cooking, dishes, grocery shopping, laundry et al. That usually smartens them up pretty fucking quick.
Maidinthe 80’s I agree with you…Treat other’s how you want to be treated.
TTFN Are you suggesting strike?
Hey OP, everyone has provided you with great points to ponder here–i especially agree with Troodon: “Getting married is the easy part. It’s all hard work after that if you want to keep it special.”
Avoiding routine and keeping up communication are super important–feeling invisible is awful OP (i really know), but if you have the chance to talk with hubby, then do so. I think a lot of people get married and may get so caught up in all that surrounds the big day and setting up house as a married couple, that they forget to talk….maybe you two are so close that each of you is forgetting that you can’t read each other’s minds….maybe hubby is really tired after work, but feels it is important to let you know he is still hot for you, hence the morning groping (maybe I just like morning groping OP, but I always thought that kinda thing was a sweet way to start the day, even if it didn’t end in full-on sex:P)….maybe you guys naturally feel amourous at different times…maybe you two deal with marriage stressors (e.g., bills, new responsibilities, family) differently, who knows?
Oh, that’s right OP, you and your hubby know. It sounds to me like a nice dinner, some wine, and a little ‘chat’ are in order….bet if you tried that you and hubby would at least start to talk–working kinks out [or in] is a process, don’t expect perfect resolution after one conversation, but you can enjoy the process as it happens….your drinks and dinner will probably be followed by some real evening fun, as well as a sweeter morning for both of you, and you will feel a lot less invisible:) Good luck!!
I suppose I’ll just offer up another consoling song:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CDah-fEBwGg
The perfect tune for a couple in a rut.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TzWOa8loCDI
SheSang A couple does forget about romance in a relationship.A marriage is work so if you love the person your with, work to keep it.
A sailor doesn’t buy a boat and expect to sail it for life without having to make some patches.Marriage should be looked at the same way…..I know I’m saying the same thing you and Troodon said but in a different way.
umm…you sure bitch purdy ma’am 😉
OP “I do”? “You’ve suddenly turn into an unfeeling/seemingly uncaring morning groper. No more flowers, no more compliments, hardly a grunt when I speak to you”.
Why ya bitchin?He still finds you attarctive enough to touch you.You at least you get a grunt out of him,that’s his way of acknowledging you,your a lucky woman….It’s when all you get is a grunt when he orgasms then turns over to go to sleep.Not caring enough to service you after he climaxes.
OP Your life could be a lot worse.
@ TTFN … my ole lady starts doing my laundry …. we’re goin’ to be fighting !
I’ll do my own laundry , thank you very much. OR if not I’ll take it in & drop it off. I’m a bit fussy about how my clothes are washed & I got no patience for that fuckin’ sort the colors & fabric shit the wife does ! Fuck that.
Which is why all my clothes are black or blue (colours of love lady)
Jam the whole god damned laundry basket full of clothes into one of those huge washers dump in half a bottle of soap & let ‘er rip.
THen hang them outside. I f’in hate how driers make them feel & while i’m not one to pick on ‘scents’ I gotta say the stench from ‘dryer sheets’ puts tears in my eyes & can almost make me feel for those who say they are ‘sensitive’ .But whatever floats yer boat, if that product makes you happy…why not use 2 sheets & be ecstatic.