DUDE! Why is it the older I get, the harder it is to find guys that just want to hang out in a way that is strictly platonic? I am a tomboy, I feel more comfortable having a casual beer and talking about random shit that doesn’t include Jon and Kate Plus 8. I have girl friends that are like this, but dudes are cool too. I just want to find a guy that doesn’t get all insane about dating. WTF is wrong with that?!? —Recently Met Bitchers Exempted
This article appears in Feb 25 – Mar 3, 2010.
hang around here for a bit, my ole buddy q. will be here shortly. i hear he is quite a catch.
Because, invariably, when a guy becomes close to a girl, he has “feelings”. It’s extremely difficult for men to have platonic relationships with a close female friend.
They don’t want to date you OP, they want to fuck you.
two words gay guys
Unless these feelings Dr Fever mentions are reciprocated it is only ever gonna be a platonic relationship. Good friendships I’ve treasured ended when the guy fell in love and I only wanted to be friends. I truly sympathize with you OP. I sometimes prefer hanging with the guys too. Forever a tomboy:)
You’re right ML, gay guys make great guy friends!
gay guys for chicks work out totally well. But OP – you wanna hang and talk random shit – I will be back in summer .
Actually, if you give it enough time, OP, your pal’ll probably get over his feelings. It happens to all of us, eventually (that we get over “those” types of feelings).
i will always be a tomboy…thanks ma
I’m no tomboy, but I prefer hanging out with guys more than girls. Girls tend to expect me to accompany them to the washroom in public places… it’s creepy.
like hang out, and have it not leading to guilt free no strings attatched wild sex on the couch? dude.
that sucks.
thats what Jon and Kate plus 8 is for. nahh, but maybe you should give it a whirl (the dating thing, tho the guilt free…..ect ect sex is open as well) i mean is he that horrible? if it dont work out it dont work out. but it may suprise you. dont knock it tell you try him. and junk. 😛
I’ve always been one of the ‘guys’, right from childhood. I still have lots of guy friends and sex has never been an issue. Hub-Unit trusts me so if I want to hang out with my buddies, I do. I’ve never been a girly-girl, thank fuck. I only hang around with women who can accept that I will never be interested in clothes, decorating, makeup or reality shows. Perhaps that’s why I’ve worked exclusively with men for more than 30 years. I can’t stand female drama or hidden agendas so I totally understand your situation. I’m sure there’s some kindred spirit out there for you.
I think you may be MY kindred spirit TTFN:)
If you ARE a cool chick, and you think there’s a cool guy that you want to be friends with….why not put out a few times? After he’s “loved you two times, baby”…he’ll have it out of his sytem and you guys can break out the backgammon…
Here’s a hug and a pat on the back for ya, Oceanlady. I know there are many of us out there – the women who scorn makeup and Oprah – maybe it’s because we can think outside of the ‘box’, so to speak.
I’m kind of a girly-girl, myself, but I have to say — very few of my close friends are women: I have more male friends than female friends, because it’s really hard finding females I can stand being around on a regular basis in a social capacity because OMFG they get pissed off over the stupidest shit. Men don’t tend to get so bent out of shape over the small stuff. And they’ll tell you the straight up shit when you need to hear it/ask for it. Women? I find most aren’t so forthcoming.
i don’t feel so alone. i have backpacks and courier type bags, i don’t have make-up you can borrow, i dress like a farmer, i have 3 pairs of shoes, i swear more than i should(sorry boy), i rarely get grossed out…spleeny me ma would call it, i like bugs and snakes, i like cars and sports and i like the three stooges…but i tend to cry easily^^
Exactly PK, guys tend to be more mellow about things.
Huggin’ and pattin’ appreciated and reciprocated TTFN
I always ended up fucking my friends who were girls. The way she goes I guess.