to my girlfriend.

Man, I don’t understand people that stay in relationships that make them miserable.

I’m either single for life, or in a relationship that we are both willing to make a conscience effort to be happy together and find a balanced approach to meeting both our needs.

So far the latter has not been the case haha.

Yes, I completely agree with that, but it’s all depends on time. I’m going be a lot more loyal and patient, and deal with more emotional issues with someone I’ve been with for years compared to someone I’ve been with for months.

The only point I kind of, somewhat disagree with you zZz is the not wanting to leave because of the “emotionally and financial” reasons. IMO, if I’m with someone, who I care about, but no longer have feelings for and have come to the conclusion that I will never have feelings for this person again (realizing this isn’t an overnight process) I think it’s better to break up sooner than later. It might hurt in the moment for that person, but it will only hurt more and end in more bitterness if it’s dragged it out

But this is also coming from someone with serious commitment issues lol.

Meh, I’d give honestly anyway, I think I might be too honest hah.
. I can’t just stop caring for someone. Unless someone does something hugely assholish, I tend to not understand that kind of shit, it’s like: you’re with someone, all of a sudden you break up and they are your #1 enemy. Doesn’t make sense to me, you obviously liked them at some point.
It’s kind of hard to explain, but by the down the road kind of thing I mean I see no future, and what you said about intimacy I guess. I don’t see the point in staying with someone for years if you know it’s not going to work out in the end. I still care for them, but sexually I’m not interested, and I don’t see the relationship working out in the end, and maybe said person annoys me a little, doesn’t mean I don’t care for them. It’s kinda complicated, and once again the time greatly impacts the effort put into the relationship. I think if a serious relationship lasts over a year, then yes put a lot of effort into finding out what went wrong, but under a year..maybe not so much. I guess I’m really independent as well, and in a sense that makes me selfish because I want to lead my own life, but I really just don’t understand people I know that are together and are miserable and do nothing but fight all the time. It’s like either figure your shit out or go your own way.

There ya go frosty, another lengthy comment just for you;)

LOL@q I wouldn’t say I still loved them, The love comment comes not very often.

As much as I preach about going for the one nighters I don’t do it too often myself. I personally find the stereo-type that girls are emotional and intense to be completely false. From my personal perspective guys are just as bad. Some guys just don’t seem to understand it when I say “I don’t want to date you..I’m just horny” resulting in a way more complicated situation than I want, so I just avoid them all together.

Fuck, I’m in one of those situations now and I didn’t even fuck the guy. I’m going to make myself sound like an asshole right now but fuck, I don’t know how many different ways I can say “I don’t want to date anyone right now” and yet he’s asking me out constantly. I hate ignoring people, but fuck, honesty isn’t seeming to work and I don’t know what else to do.

heh, thanks jonnoman, but I don’t really go for the married/in a relationship type guys 😛

Hah, I almost half believe that you have had “..sex with random persons I met off an anonymous Bitch Board”

I’ m also serious curious if LS actually gets people emailing him.

And you’re still a dick, what odds.

party? Fuck I’m in =)

Nope, it doesn’t have anything to do with this thread, it did however prove a point I had in a discussion with oceanlady in another thread.

THanks:)

Well what do you know, I didn’t even see that shit.