with so many things right…you look for something wrong. —spot-on
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to my “friend”
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with so many things right…you look for something wrong. —spot-on
This article appears in Dec 26, 2013 – Jan 1, 2014.
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So why are YOU looking at THIS “wrong”?
One has to look for the good in any situation….not the other way
uh, no they don’t.
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Especially, Zed, if you were born under the sign of shit and are constantly and consistently a day late and a dollar short.
No amount of optimism is going to help that shit.
I’ve concluded there are two types of people on this planet: those born under the sign of shit (who either have to make the best of it or stop fooling themselves and live in reality asshole optimists like to call ‘pessimism’) and those who could fall INTO a bucket of shit and come up smelling like a rose.
“The problem is not the problem. The problem is your attitude about the problem. Do you understand?”
― Jack Sparrow
spot-on, is this an infomercial for a zit cream?
OP have you thought that your friend doesn’t realize what’s “right” in their life? It may be obvious to you not to your friend.
Or, in other words, you’re an egotistical dipshit who can’t take criticism from someone you’ve pissed off.
Seriously though, how dare people not recognize when they’re in the presence of someone who is clearly perfect? Don’t let it get you down, bro. Even Jesus got nailed to a cross. Whenever someone calls you on your bullshit, remember: They’re Just Jealous.
Or.. maybe I’m wrong and you’re just calling out someone for being depressed. You then put ‘friend’ in quotation marks as a ‘subtle’ threat of abandonment if they don’t stop bringing you down all the time.
Either way. I got your number, ‘friend’.
OB , you obviously don’t read world news..if you did you’d see finding any thing right is really difficult …there is just so damn much Wrong out there !
Let’s be a little fair. Op didn’t provide much information. So it’s equally possible that this person is in an abusive friendship. Where, in fact, it is OP who gives and gives and the friend just is mean and critical.
The thing reads arrogantly which is why i jumped to my first conclusion. And, I confess, I actually DO have a friend who is NEVER at fault even though this person has harmed a good number of people. This friend is a narcissist who believes that anybody who doesn’t hold him in the esteem he holds himself CLEARLY suffers from mental health problems. Whenever anybody calls this friend on their bullshit, they hide from them, refuse to talk to them, tell everyone that person has “problems” – they are never at fault for any of their damaging choices, it’s always someone else. This friend of mine is self-righteous, sanctimonious, pedantic and completely self-centered to almost a pathological degree. I am not afraid of this person reading this someday – because he’d never in a million years ever think it was him i was talking about. That’s the good thing about narcissists. You can openly discuss their behaviour, openly criticize the things they do, even in front of them. And they’ll just attribute the conversation to someone else because, obviously, they’re perfect.
So op, your post hit a nerve. But it’s possible that you are in an abusive friendship too.
Luckily op, there is an easy litmus test for YOU to figure out what’s really going on here. If this is a one off case, and this person is always doing harm to others, you need to forgive yourself and move on. But, op…. if you are the only person who thinks this person is being unreasonable, and you frequently find yourself asking why you are so much better than everyone else? When you suddenly stop respecting people you once held in esteem because they criticize your actions? YOU are the problem.
There are almost no exceptions to this rule.
How the fuck do you write so much about a ten word sentence, holy fuckin shit you got issues.
Sadly, Scissors, narcissism is pretty much an untreatable disorder.
REAL narcissism, that is. Not that fake ass shit people label people who are simply selfish.
It would appear this was being directed to Scissors…
It’s possible. It’s also possible it’s just someone else entirely. This could have come from anybody.
FarmDawg, when you’re trying to hide something from someone you potentially know.
He’d never read all that.
Nobody’s perfect.
There’s this pathetic “either you are, or you’re not” attitude that has been taught to everyone almost from birth in western culture that goes along with our emphasis on competition. The social rewards that come along with “success” is what I believe to be why we have many times more of a percentage of our population with Narcissistic Personality Disorder than anywhere else in the world. That and a lack of family life. It is also important to note that many people with NPD actually have an extremely low regressed self esteem as nothing to them is ever adequate.
The narcissist loses touch with the reality that most of our experience is subjective. They lose touch with subjectivity because when an area is subjective it isn’t possible for the narcissist to gauge themselves in such a way that can feed his or her ego. They don’t even realize that they are doing it because of where their attention tends to be is believed by them usually to be in the areas that are “most important”, and places them as “superior”.