Why is it so difficult for an attractive, educated female to find the same? I’m tired of little boys, men who can’t spell, and nerds who would be so cute if they would just go to the gym! Physical and intellectual attraction are both important. Where are all the cute professionals hiding? —Wants a real man

This article appears in Feb 10-16, 2011.

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  1. OP, they’re gay, not hiding 🙂 There are also plenty of fat men in the city, if you’re into that sort of thing.

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  2. well o.p., if you want a real man, then you had better stop dreaming about mr. perfect. becacause lady, there ain’t no such fucking animal.
    if a guy was so perfect, then they would not want such a judgemental bitch, such as yourself, i wouldn’t, and believe me. i have been with a few over the years. the best people are the ones that are beautiful, on the inside, and i guess you lose out there too.
    you want mr. perfect, sorry, the robot has not been designed for you yet. unless you count marrionttes inc., but they have a habit of fucking you over too. remember the three laws of robotics, and add a forth one, that the robot will always find you beautiful, no matter what.
    til that day comes sugar, you will just be a sour fucking hag, and a pain in sommeone’s ass.

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  7. The males of this world apologize for having wasted your time with our faults and imperfections, of Perfect One.
    I’m with Suckulous on this one.
    When I was single it was really hard to meet a woman. They often would either look at me like I’m an alien due to my wheelchair, or would treat me like a gay friend, because I must be non-threatening, sexually.
    There are a lot of awesome men/women out there who are discounted because they don’t fit your preconceived notion of what your Ideal Mate is.
    You’re missing out. Many of the “attractive females”(self-described) I have met are lady assholes who choose the Wrong Guy time after time because they are unable to see what is inside of someone.

    Your fucking loss.

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  8. Haven’t you heard? They stopped making ‘real men’ decades ago. My kind are a dying breed.

    Unfortunately for you and all the other single ladies, I’m spoken for. Decades ago, my wife “liked it so she put a ring on it” – my finger that is.

    I suggest you find a reasonable facsimile of a real man and train him up to your standards. Women have been doing this for thousands of years.

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  9. He doesn’t have to have a good personality, be a nice guy, sense of humour???….just attractive and professional…..you deserve whomever you end up with OP. There’s a lot of beautiful blue collar workers out there and many trades men who can provide for a family, keep a smile on your face, keep you laughing, be great company and look great on your arm…but can’t spell for the life of them.

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  10. I agree with everything you said wheeliep — love is a battlefield. I find it’s hard as HELL to find someone I “click” with — physically and intellectually and when I *do* there’s always something in the way. And the “somethings” i’ve come across are too numerous to list. Good thing I’m not miserable being single because if I was more concerned about being “unsingle” I’d probably be driven to drink at this point :S

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  11. so in other words, you don’t want a nice guy…
    just someone hot with a good job.

    what the hell did that poor sucker do to deserve you…

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  12. PK- that “click” is such a beautiful thing, isn’t it?
    After my marriage failed I thought I was a bad boyfriend, bad friend, bad lover, bad everything. Learning how wrong I was has shown me more about who I really am than a lot of things.
    Hope you have a great V-Day, fellow Bitches.

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  13. The “click” *is* a double edged sword, generally, in my case. It’s almost become a bit amusing, to tell you the truth 😉

    Happy Valentines Day, everyone 🙂 I made cupcakes with pink icing and heart shaped sprinkles for my wonderful co-workers and my grandfather sent me a card and $$$ 🙂

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  16. Haha it is so easy to see who is a high quality male, who is a classy female worthy of these guys, and who is one of these trashy guys OP is talking about.

    Seems to me all the bitter comments in here are likely from the kind of guys these attractive girls are skipping out on.

    And to REAL CHICK: Since OP says she is educated and wants the same, she likely doesn’t want to end up with a blue collar guy who makes significantly less then her. Nothing says emasculation more then “my wife makes 3 times what I do!”

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  17. “Where are all the cute professionals hiding?”
    Dal Law building. Oh my various Gods. I may or may not have sat in the car with some gfs creeping them as they walk out from their suit day.

    … that seems creepy, but yeah, there op, or an econ class. Good Lord almighty.

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  18. Bitch Lover, “Nothing says emasculation more then “my wife makes 3 times what I do!”,
    are you speaking from experience, or are you just a sexist asshole?

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  19. lovin the dogs hugo^^for the record i like nerds who don’t go to the gym but i fill the ranks with brawny men

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  20. I personally take great pleasure in making a nerdy looking guy, into something hot. To me clothes speak volume. When one wears clothes well, meaning the fit and a new, funky, style, your spine becomes more erect.( and no you don’t have to spend a fortune) So OP don’t discard men for their looks, yet rather embrace the challenge. None of us are ugly, OP, some of us are just a bit more challenged. ‘Tis all.

    I have had a few past boyfriends that have thanked me, for their new found confidence in being able to choose clothes wisely. I say hats off to them and their ladies:)

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  23. Well, PG it goes without saying the smell/hygiene would be # 1. Besides, I like taking tandem bubble baths:)

    Having said, that I do remember years ago having a female roomie that would spend hours on her hair and make-up and her personal hygiene was something else…Foohieeee:(

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  25. she’s already had a minge muffin and is now trying to justify it by citing a lack of eligible men.

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  28. I’m a healthy young professional and I don’t want to be with a woman who demands that someone goes to the gym in order to be seen as attractive.

    Perhaps it’s not the selection of men but the selector.

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  31. all I’m looking for is a nice guy, decent job, responsible with money to whom I have an attraction. My last BF was not gorgeous by any means but boy did he rock my world! 🙂

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  32. “oh, o.p., mr. perfect just called me, and said to tell you he was busy, but to take me instead.”

    I smell a new scent, “Desperation” by LS

    Lol

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  34. Bitch lover. Sorry you live in a world measured by worthiness and dollar amounts. Some day you`ll realize the true meaning of happiness is being grateful for the wonderful people you have in your life.
    Also a real man wouldn`t feel emasculated providing for his family and being there for them, instead of dedicating his time to climb the corporate ladder of success.

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  35. I think OP is confusing “professional” with “intelligent”…there are plenty of people out there who aren’t “professionals” who are incredibly wonderful in the intellect department.

    The key is finding someone who you click with on both a physical and emotional/intellectual level and boyyy can that be tough. And when you find it, there’s no guarantee that it’ll work out or come to fruition for whatever reason (and that SUCKS). But, if you discount people because they’re not “professionals” it becomes a lot harder.

    It’s already a jungle out there…why discount a perfectly great bunch of potential mates from the get go? Not like the dating pool in Halifax is exactly extensive….

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