Why would you drop all of your friends for your boyfriend? Or your values, morals and entire way of life? Your attitude, even. We’re young, boyfriends seem like the world – but we’re not that young. Not young enough to still be thinking all you need is your boyfriend. And that thought that you don’t need any of your friends? That you can treat them like they’re worthless, because you have a boyfriend now? You’re a grown-ish 20 year old. You dropped every last one of your friends, and live to serve him. You don’t even talk to your “best friends” anymore. You don’t have any. You’re “his girlfriend” to his friends… they aren’t your friends. And now that you’ve dropped us… good luck getting his friends to hold your hair while you drunkenly puke, curl your hair, or just have down time and talk with you. They will never be there for you like we were. I’ve had enough of always being there for you, yet only being good enough when he’s cranky or when he’s in a mood or when he’s not around. This is from us, the ex-bestfriends: the girls who’s best friends completely cut them out of their lives for that boy. Well girlfriend … I hope it works out for you, because we certainly won’t be around to see if it does. Learn to respect yourself and stand on your own two feet. Fuck. You. —The ex-bestfriend
This article appears in Dec 12-18, 2013.
get over it you bag of shit. ex is what you need to understand
Think she’ll be better off without you. You sound incredibly jealous. And mean. And not very grown up.
This behavior is not limited to twenty-somethings. Women of all ages tend to do this.
I think the OB is not so much jealous as hurt. But that’s just my opinion.
Stick to your guns, OB, maybe when this “fabulous” relationship dies and the gal in question realizes her ex friends are not willing to forgive being “dumped” for a guy, she’ll mature a bit and learn that you can’t just drop everyone for a man.
you may not be aware of just how myopic YOU are when YOu are the one with the new, exciting boyfriend/girlfriend.
Chicks your age are pretty much always like this. Sorry but 19 year old girls who can balance a relationship with a social life are rare. It’s just that this time you’re on the outside looking in.
Yeah it sucks. So learn something from it. Don’t be that guy when you get a new boyfriend. Be self-aware and don’t be this same airhead. This is how people grow and mature. Congratulations. You are currently growing. Do not let this opportunity go unnoticed.
Wow! Best friends, eh?
Sadly I used to have a friend who is 28 now and is like that.
She did it twice. The third time she attempted to contact me I mentioned that I’m better off without that friendship. I honestly don’t believe there are meaningful friendships these days. Most people really look for where it benefits them and befriend those individuals on how beneficial that friendship may be.