Dear YOU,
If my memory serves me correct, I have face-booked, called and text messaged you this week without hearing a single reply. Obviously you have been captured by aliens and taken away to another planet without phones or computers! Or… you’re trying to tell me something. Actually, it doesn’t really matter if you’re trying to tell me something or not because when you don’t write back like that it makes me feel pretty insignificant. And that sucks! So I’m thinking I’ll be sending my messages elsewhere from now on. Fuck off, grow some Earth-testicles and tell a girl when you’re done instead of letting it drag on forever!
This article appears in Jul 3-9, 2008.
I think somewhere boys got the idea that the best way to disengage from a relationship or hookup was to simply disapear- that that’s somehow ‘kinder’ than telling the person ‘listen, I’m just not that into you, despite the fact parts of me were recently inside parts of you’. or maybe they’re just cowards. so you’ve got two choices: you can let him get away with it, and just let it drift off quietly, while trashing him to your friends and the internet (the sane solution) OR you could invest in some serious stalker time. fill that phone mailbox girl, and see how many posts his wall can take!
In an ideal world, yes, he’d tell you. But we’re not, so honey, he ain’t worth it — move on. I’d go with the “trashing to your friends” part hedgyhog said, but I wouldn’t waste any more time trashing him on the internet or stalking him (he sure as hell isn’t worth getting arrested for!) The right guy is out there — it ain’t his sorry ass!!