Okay, I get that you’re pissed I didn’t make it to your party, but come on. My facebook status said that it was going to be deleted for almost a week, and I even sent out a mass message letting everyone know how they could get a hold of me. Did you bother reading either of those? Obviously not. I’m not fucking psychic, it’s my choice whether or not I want to be on a website, and I chose not to be, if you really want me to attend your events that badly, find another way to contact me. Stop acting like this is all my fault, I would’ve shown up had I known anything was going on.
—Webicide Victim
This article appears in Feb 18-24, 2010.
you deleted your account. Obviously you don’t want to stay connected or know what’s going on in other people’s lives… and you don’t. Too bad when people actually notice this about you that you call it a “fault”. You’re getting what you wanted, OP… to be disconnected and kept out of the loop. Out of sight, out of mind.
Right kay, it’s soooooooooo difficult to pick up a phone and call. I applaud for OP for ending their Facebook account.
When you compare the effort it takes to send out a single facebook invitation versus phoning each one of your prospective attendees… maybe the OP think’s they’re a “special guest” and maybe that’s what’s at the root of this bitch.
Kay, there are other ways to stay connected aside from facebook. We humans like to chat in person or on the phone…
OMG how did people have parties before facebook?!
is it just me, seb, or did you just simply post so you could counter what kay said?
You know it’s true in these times we tend to rely so much on technology….. but for the most part if you don’t keep up with technology you end up being left behind. Sure, to some people that don’t want to conform facebook may be useless, but that is how people communicate now. Some may not like it, but that’s that way it is. People use facebook to communicate with each other, let others know how they’re doing, even invite people to parties. After being on facebook OP should have realized that. In choosing to decommission his/her account, he/she knowingly removed him/herself from that whole line of communication.
In defense of the OP, however, if someone wants someone to be somewhere and knows that a certain method of communication won’t reach them they use whatever means they have that will. So, OP, if your “friend” wanted you to be there that bad (pre-party), yeah they should have phoned or emailed. I still have friends that don’t use facebook…. but I still find ways to contact them. Guess they REALLY wanted you there huh?
Telephone works for me. You want or need me for fuck sake use the phone. You use another means and I may not see it for days. FB and the like ARE NOT an important means of communication for me. I don’t give a shit about status or most things other than play some games with a select few.
Tim & Jen, you don’t HAVE to be invited to the party either. Don’t worry, you “humans”won’t be missed.
Jen…. people had parties before facebook, but invitations were given based on what means society was using at the time. Things aren’t that way anymore. Throwing a party 20 years ago meant that you were making numerous phone calls or sending invites in the mail. Ten years ago, there were still phone calls being made, but more mass emails being sent, and virtually no invites via snail mail. Today, people don’t necessarily have to send emails because (almost) everyone they know is on facebook and can receive an invite via FB message or an event page specifically set up for the purpose of the party. The next thing, people won’t even bother sending messages, they’ll simply tweet it and all their twitter followers will receive it.
It’s not about whether the OP is right or wrong in choosing to remove themselves from facebook… it’s about the sacrifice they made in knowing what they are giving up…. Society changes and if you want to keep up you go along for the ride. If you don’t want to, you accept the differences and appreciate them. I mean, try renting any movie you want on a VHS tape nowadays. They’re still out there, but you’ll never get the selection you want……..
kay I promise I won’t cry for not being invited to any of your parties.
Facebook is fucked. Most of the people on facebook are fucked.
The only reason I have an account on facebook is because most of my far away friends and family, in different continents, have facebook and it’s easier to keep in touch. But when people start using facebook instead of actual local wedding and party invitations, like the wedding invitation that I got last week, through facebook (what fucked up person does that?) or instead of actually picking up a phone and dialing a number to see how you’re buddy is doing, that’s just unrealistically pathetic. I knew there was a limit, but some people on facebook just sunk below that pathetic limit!
I wanted to see “Kent State” for awhile now, so I hear ya on the VHS fail.
Anyway, I agree with what people are saying regarding “keeping up with the times”, but is it just me, or does arguing over a missed party seem a little petty or immature?
If I missed a friends “party” the only reason they would be pissed is if it was something they needed me there for help, support etc. If that was the case, they certainly would have talked to me about it in person pre-party.
jonoman, I was being sarcastic. I am old enough to remember life pre-facebook.
All I’m trying to say that the choice to remove yourself and your personal information from a website that has some pretty suspicious security and privacy issues is not the same choosing to remove yourself from society. I’m sure this kid still has email and a phone. If he wanted to remove himself from society, he would have moved to a shack in the woods with no electricity. Deleting your facebook account is not akin to becoming a hermit.
If I have close friends who I want to invite to a party, yeah, I use facebook.. but if I don’t hear back from them about it, then I follow up with a phone call or email. There’s no subsitute for those personal touches that make you feel like you really matter.
What’s really amusing is that Facebook has put out a Cease and Desist order on those “webicide” sites, citing that they’re infringing on their “privacy” policy. More like infringing on their right to per-click advertisements.
OP stated the person throwing the party was pissed OP didnt make it… So kay your an idiot.
If OP stated he/she was pissed about not being invited I might agree. If the person throwing the party wanted OP there, a simple call would suffice.
Facebook is ruining communication. Fuckin idiots.
Yeah jennier- I caught the sarcasm 😉 I was just reminding everyone of how easy it can be to join the parade and lose touch with how things once were.
Unfortunately too many people have come to rely on facebook. I’m with you- if I want to make contact with someone, I use whatever means I have to and don’t assume they have read a facebook message or email if they haven’t responded. For the rest, whether they choose to come to an event is their choice.
OP is obviously in the same boat and his/her bitch is quite simply that their “friend” did not think enough of them to ensure they received the invite. Then, they unfairly expressed anger when they didn’t attend. Valid bitch- just opened a pandora’s box on the role of facebook in the lives of today’s youth.
Jonnoman, I’m with you 100%.
“a pandora’s box”
there’s more than one of those things?
oh geez…
Facebook is the reason I have reunited with countless friends, as I have lived in many different places throughout my life. Without facebook or myspace I would have never known about my highschool reunion a few years ago, or who has had kids, gotten married, etc. I love it! Sure, there’s annoying shit like status updates about what people are having for dinner, but I manage to ignore the useless information.
With that said, I gave up my cell phone 2 years ago and have been happier ever since…I hate talking on the phone, and, I admit, I bitch about talkers/texters all the time (people can be so rude), but I don’t think all cell phone users are idiots! To say people with facebook accounts are idiots is like saying people who have answering machines are idiots! Seriously, if you don’t like it, don’t use it!
People must have forgot how to use a phone again !!!
I acctually agree 100% lorilulu, the idiot comment was in reference to people who cant read not who have facebook. I have facebook and just chose not to schedule my life with it. It has great uses, people are now just taking it too far is all.
Is it just me or is facebook taken WAY too effing seriously these days?
In 20 years I can bet you we won’t even be teaching our kids language skills anymore — they’ll just learn how to type and instead of actually communicating verbally, they’ll just type shit to people’s cellphones/whatever fancy networking devices they have in the future (along with those kick ass flying cars)…people just won’t learn how to talk anymore, they’ll just type — even when carrying on conversations with people across the table from them in a restaurant.
CREEPY.
Yeah, and everyone will have the same laugh – “lololololololololol” and the length of the lol string will determine how funny something is.
lolololol
it’s like herpes, only with friends!
She has code words Fat !!!! Goes like this ” come to my house for pancakes and gingerale “. LOL
+1, OP.
Tech is great in moderated doses. People who’s lives revolve around Facebook/IM’s/Texts … I will never understand you.
In a bid to be more connected, you’ve become disconnected.
i can see using facebook as a sort of a springboard to meet and greet people. but come the fuck on now, do you have to put every little mother fucking thing on there,every 10 fucking seconds.jesus christ,i saw someone say that they had just got out of the can on there a week ago.well, fuck me, if you want to go that far, why not tell the fucking color, shape, and size of the fucking thing too.i cannot for the life of me, see why you spend every fucking waking second there. GET A FUCKING LIFE, WILL YAS.
I like Facebook, it allows me to keep in touch with people I know accross the country, how would I know if there is a snow storm and if school is cancelled in Hants county? I lived in Halifax and went to school there and miss it in the summer plus I miss the donairs and chinese food all year round. I think there are other places for the drama queens/kings that are on there, but so what?? If you don’t like it YOU fuck off! LS you seem to be here on here 24/7, so what if you know ‘Andy’…
Don’t see why the person throwing the party couldn’t have sent out a mass email, if they didn’t want to spend the time phoning people individually. It’s not that much more labour intensive than posting “OMG! Party Saturday, B ther! LOLZ!”.
Considering how flaky FB has been in recent months, dropping posts and changing thing all of the time, I think it’d be downright stupid to rely on it as the only way to communicate with people.
What the fuck !! Again – use the fucking phone iif you where that importnat. Usually people have your number if your a ” great friend ” . Tell her/him to blow you . Seriously , tell them to eat your meat because if all they know is facecrack to communicate – then smoke away your keyboard.
bluenoser, i only know andy from talking on here,not a personal leval. and yes, i’m on the computer, not 24/7, but a lot. it is part of my job to be on. i do security monitoring for some businesses, and other things.so i have to be tied to my screen for extended periods of time.i do a lot of these forums too, but like this one the best. there are other people that come on here at various times of day, just to check out the reposts, just as i’m doing now. i don’t have to justify anything i do or want to do, with anyone, i’m my own boss and person. do you wish to try and deny me an opinion on this or any web forum, then if so, you must be living or dreaming of being communist.
LS, you’re not getting my point. Opinions are like assholes we all have them. It’s just you always seem to come across as so caustic. When you have advice and constructive criticisms, that’s ok. But sometimes it seems as all you want to do is vent and embarrass the contributor. If you don’t have something good to say, then why not take the high road and say nothing at all? You live in a cool city with cool people, I just don’t get all the anger.
Bluenoser in BC, a friend mailed me the picture you have up there a few weeks ago. Being a Habs fan, I thought it was funny as hell.
i love that picture…sorry all other dwellers but that is the one pour moi
Nice to see you enjoy it, Habs Habs Baby! Paingirl did you read my note to Lifesucks? I don’t know why is so negative/such a knob to everyone, it’s like he just lurks on here waiting to shit on people. I can see why he calls himself that, because it appears as though his does…
well…all are welcome…don’t take it personally