My husband quit smoking in September, and ever since he has been treating me like complete utter shit. He loses his temper so quickly! You can’t joke with him anymore, and I can never say the right things. He blames me for everything, and calls me names. He’s supposed to be my best friend, but without his “crutch” he’s turned into a fucking asshole that points the finger at everyone surrounding him. —I’d Rather Live in a Hole
This article appears in Nov 3-9, 2011.
And you didn’t see this coming? Perhaps that is why you are being treating like shit because he prepared to quit smoking and you did not prepare to support his withdrawal process.
Please, suck his dick every time he has a craving for a cigarette and in no time at all his mood will be more to your liking because of your licking.
Get him on the bottle.
Smokes are more addictive than Heroin or Cocaine and a hell of a lot more available and visible and unavoidable. Cheaper too. My dad got like that too when he first quit. Shit happens. It’s difficult OP but he’s making a long term investment in his health, so try and be supportive.
Get him to try the nicotine patch or gum. That should level him out.
OMG you guys made me LOL in the *library!* More head, indeed! Yeah, OB, the worst of it is over, but it will take awhile for the symptoms to be gone. Here’s something you (or he) could do: Make a list of everything that’s better since he quit. (smell better, have more $, don’t litter anymore, etc.) Leave it up so he can add to it as things occur to him. One of the best things, really, is deep cleansing breaths. As you exhale, purse your lips as if you were blowing smoke. Plus–take advantage of all that nervous energy to hit the gym! You really need to mess with your routine when you quit, because your metabolism will go down…
stay out of his way for awhile.
Seriously OP, if he’s hitting you, that’s one thing. But unless you’ve ever been a smoker that quit (and cold turkey from the sounds of things) then you can’t have any sweet conception of how fucking awful and terrible the withdrawls are.
Accept it and don’t nag. Nagging someone who is nic-fitting is a good way to get a boot to the head.
it’ll go away eventually but it takes time.
I’m 14 months not smoking now. I still dream of smoking most nights and wake up those mornings feeling like I just inhaled my pillow. I’m just now beginning to feel confident enough to go to a party and have a drink or two.
My lady said that for the first year of not smoking, I could spend all the money I saved from not buying smokes on anything I like. The deal was, though, that if I started smoking, I’d have to sell all the cool toys I’d bought. I like my new toys more than smokes, so it’s a no-brainer. I got me my new guitars; lots of ’em.
The end of each week is a milestone. Each month and year is a milestone. Support and patience are definitely needed. The lousy attitude is not intentional.
Were you the one who pressured him to quit? Then buy him a pack of coffin nails and get your boy back. Cigarettes are fucking hard to give up and I’d snarl like a deranged wharf rat if someone (namely my spouse) tried to force me to quit.
I knew someone like that, most were telling him to start again because he was so fucking cranky no one could stand it.
yea it’ll be 4 yrs in Dec. for me. There isn’t a single day that an urge doesn’t hit me; and I’ve lost track of the times I’ve woken up from a dream/nitemare that I started smoking again. I’ve had and quit just about every vice ever invented and smoking is by far the toughest over all …patience
you need to mess with your routine is right….
it’s the routine that sucks you back in.
try having him wake up at a different time… likely earlier since most people only get up when they HAVE to…. perform morning routine in different order… carry pencil or something to fiddle with if he has issues with needing to hold a ciggy….
fuck it all up.
oh, and be sure to make some time for those extra BJ’s…
Damn! ALMOST makes me want to take up smoking just so I can look forward to the BJ’s when I quit! lol
(Wow. Did that sound as pathetically sad as I thought it did? *sigh*)
hey Ivan… speaking of…. SOMEHOW NOT SMOKING….
http://gizmodo.com/5855278/video-of-boeing…
how in the fuck??!?!
The pavement equivalent of Capt. Sullenberger. One damned good pilot and a whole lotta luck. Comandante could probably explain the procedures and the physics involved much better than I, but that looked like one smooth-ass landing.
that was kule, i bet our very own farmer bob could do that
There’s nothing like the head-fuck nicotine withdrawal produces! It will try ANYTHING to make you smoke! And starting fights is the most effective way to accomplish that. I’ve said it before – Champix really is the answer! Except for the weight gain, that is…. oink.
LOL….a living version of Family Guy’s abused wife episode.
and another non smoking nut job is born. fuck, i would love to kill half of them, but then, there’d be none here to bitch about us, that do smoke. oh well, could be worse, he could be trying to get you to do un-namable things.
DTMFA
As an ex smoker I know how hard it is to quit and stay away from the smokes too.
I was cranky and not fit to be around for the first while being off cigs.
Give him a break and hope that his body adapts to the changes going on right now.
Its not easy to quit and stay quit.
Lots can’t do it.
sebastian watches Family Guy? What a lame, low-expectation-having faggot. Then again he’s the type to cry ‘spousal abuse’ if a straight guy punched him out for not backing off and respecting heterosexuality.
I’m at 11 years without a cigarette. My last craving was a year after I quite and partly due to the fact that I was in a smoke filled room and at the bottom of a bottle of wiskey.
I don’t crave them, ever! And, I’m not so stupid to think that I can be a casual smoker.
I’m not a hopeless addict, and cigarettes are hoplelessly addictive. If that makes any sense.
and i’m try the hypnosis route on friday. hard to stop, once you get going. all that good shit they put in them, to make your mind and body, want them. will let you guys know how i made out. by the way, m.s.i. will cover it, if it affects your life.
It wasn’t hard for me. I used the patch for about 6 weeks, then I went cold turkey off the patch. I started up again 4 months later, but that was my fault not the method of quiting. I quit a second time, again about 6 weeks on the patch, and then cold turkey off the patch. 11 years not smoking! Wuhoo!!!
“Please, suck his dick every time…”
ROFL I don’t smoke but now I feel like quitting…