To all you women who have fuck buddies instead of boyfriends: You can tell me it’s 2011 and sleeping around is more of a norm now, but the fact of the matter is, you’re all sluts with no respect for yourselves. Just let a man use you for sex, oohh you’re not a waste of skin for doing that (note sarcasm). What ever happened to being in a fulfilling relationship where you actually love your man and yourself? You even have the nerve to tell me I’m jealous ’cause I only have one dick to play with. I think YOU are jealous of ME ’cause the owner of that one dick actually loves me and you are just being used! —A One-Man Woman
This article appears in Nov 10-16, 2011.
Maybe they just want sex, and not all the other stuff that comes with a relationship. This doesn’t make them sluts, OB.
Sure, they let a man use them for sex but they’re also using the man for sex. It’s a win-win situation.
Meh meh meh, meh, meh meh, meh.
It’s SEX and women can it have as much and as often as they want……whenever they want and nobody needs to have a relationship to justify getting off…….maybe your BF who “loves you” is banging one of these sluts on his lunch hour or while attending that “sporting event” you think he goes to every week.
Wake up, Chicklet, check the computer to see if it is hot when you get home the next time because chances are he was trolling online and logged out when your vehicle arrived home.
Until people start giving the gift that keeps on giving. And don’t give me that condom crap, just look at all the single moms out there who either don’t know who the father is or he has fucked off to the next conquest.
So far the biggest mistake some of you commentators are making on here is assuming that it’s the man that’s using her. Who says that it’s not or can’t be the other way around?
The fact that you think any woman who chooses to have an open sex life with multiple partners is slut, speaks volumes about your mentality and how your parents screwed you up. I’m a man and I find it reprehensible that a man can be promiscuous and we praise him for it, yet if a woman does it .. she’s a slut! Do society a favor and shut up!
Well, whooptishit, OMW – let’s see: the ‘sluts’ are having a blast while you cook, clean, fuck and please your man – GO SLUTS!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have more respect for someone who knows they don’t want a ‘relationship’ than some simpering twit whining: ‘What ever happened to being in a fulfilling relationship where you actually love your man and yourself?’ Go back to your Harlequin Romance novels and let the ‘sluts’ have their fun. By the way, I had a handful of fuck-buddies in the 1970s and it was awesome – in fact, I’m still in touch with them all and Hub-Unit is secure enough to understand, so fuck you.
Yes because obv if a woman sleeps with a man it’s for his pleasure only.
Fuck off, OB.
Lots of women out there with fuck buddies do it because they’re not in a relationship or don’t want to be blahblah and they still want sex — they get horny just like men do.
I don’t have a fuck buddy, but I will totally admit I’ve had two in the distant past when I was younger. I’m not into that sort of thing anymore, but for those who are? Well, go right ahead — if it makes you happy. That and the sex lives of other people is none of my business. And to that end, MY sex life is none of anyone else’s business. So perhaps minding your own might be helpful, OB?
You sound like the type who’s in a relationship for the sake of being with someone — the type girl who’s with someone else a week after they break up with someone. Those types of girls are just sad.
Koda, not every guy operates on just a boner and a pair of big boobies:) Sounds to me, OP, you and your guy and are into one another(kudos!) As for the crowd you hang with, I’d switch it up a bit, the ones that call you jealous are usually the same ones trying to get into your guys pants,awkward. Focus on your own relationship instead and let your buds sew their wild oats . Each to his own, be greatful for what you have:)
I. FUCKING. LOVE. YOU. TTFN.
You totally sound like my cool-as-shit ma.
She’d tell OB the exact same fucking thing and add “just make sure you’re on BC and use a condom.”
(though, workin’ in family law’ll do that to ya, heh).
Thanks, Kitty – but, as you know – I’M SUCH A SLUT!!!!
Maybe they like the freedom. The fact they can have there fun and not have to worry about the impact it will have on there man.
As long as they are being smart and safe about FWB its not a big issue.
Some poeple are built for that thing and some arn’t.
Unless they are screwing your man it shouldn’t bother you.
Get the fuck over yourself. Not everyone wants a relationship and if both parties understand that and are happy, what’s the problem? Why do you care? If you’re soooo happy and sooo content, why the fuck are you on here bitching about something that has absolutely nothing to do with you? Stop shoving your views down everyone’s throat! I’m so sick of people trying to dictate the sexuality of others. Stick to your stir-Fridays with your “man” and leave everyone else alone.
screee rawk at my bitches comments. there is no life manual but remember it’s a one-way ticket^^
why would either of you be jealous?
you both seem to have what you’re looking for.
neither of your point of views are ‘right’ or ‘proper’ or whatever…
she wants her rocks off without having to celebrate anniversaries/bday parties/family get togethers/cuddling every night…
and you want all of that….
so I don’t think I quite see the problem here.
perhaps it’s because you both have differing opinions and refuse to believe anyone else could have a conflicting one.
IE. you’re both being bitchy bitches when there’s really nothing here to bitch about.
STOP CREATING DRAMA
What pretty much everybody else said. ^
oh for fuck’s sake mind your damn business. How does their sluttiness effect you? Did this make you feel good? Submitting a bitch to “all the sluts out there”? Get a life.
Newsflash, sluts can be in relationships too, and just because someone might prefer the single life doesn’t make them a slut. I for one choose to remain single, not so I can fuck every girl in the world, but because I like the freedom. I can leave town any time I feel like it, stay out as late as I want, watch sports, stay up late, have a conversation with someone who happens to be female and attractive without fearing repercussions etc.
Also people have bad relationship experiences and maybe shy away from them. Work on your own instead of judging other people’s. Sometimes you need a fuck buddy a whole lot more than you need a boyfriend or girlfriend. I for one am *gasp* glad I don’t have a girlfriend, especially with Christmas coming ;). A lot of people in relationships are miserable. Relationships don’t equal happiness and don’t work for everyone. Check divorce stats lately? Oh and who’s to say it’s always the man doing the using. Women break hearts and use people too.
If you were happy with yourself you’d feel no need to write this.
And what gives you the right to be in everone else’s sex life then? Is your one man sex life so boring that you feel the need to belittle anyone that doesn’t conform to your standards?
Women have fuck buddies for one simple reason..because they now can. We aren’t stuck in the back room with vibrators anymore while men galavant around town with conquest after conquest because of societal double standards.
I’m single and I have needs. That means as an adult I can have sex with another single consenting adult while I bide my time and wait for the RIGHT relationship. Not one that I try to make fit because I want to have a boyfriend and be a “one man woman”. On that note as well, a lot of women I know have one fuck buddy. They aren’t changing it up every week.
To OB from the sluts:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5RAQXg0IdfI
Listen OP. No offense honey, okay? I have no INTEREST in being in a committed relationship. I have a million people interested in me right now and feel like taking my sweet time deciding which pancakes to throw to the dogs (you know.. women like you)
Fuck i don’t even HAVE to sleep with them OP, and they’re available. But if i did, it would be to get some sex and a few little cuddles for free. I don’t WANT to be tied down.
If you were a woman who attracted lots of people you’d understand.
No offense.. just telling you how it is.
and of course OP.. of course you’re in a “relationship” because you’re a sexist traditionalist who assumes that just because a girl can have a good time and not be in a relationship she’s the one being used.
I am a real USER of men, my dear lady. Pretty, smart girls who know where they’re going have that luxury. Someday sure.. i’ll settle down with someone. But as i mentioned before, i have to make a selection of one from a vast garden of male hos ripe for the plucking.
Give me some fucking time. It’s not like I’m sleeping with your man.
Yet.
and by the way.. we have the nerve to tell you you’re jealous because you ARE JEALOUS.
Think about it for a second OP.. If you were in a happy, loving and committed relationship with a man you loved, trusted and wanted to be with and were totally happy with, you’d feel SORRY for people who didn’t have such a wonderful thing in your life.
Your scorn and fury implies you’re getting old and not liking it one bit. And perhaps your man is a faithful, nice guy but has his eye on a few hot slutty asses as you take your Sunday stroll down spring garden road.
I’d sort of let this one go OP. It’s only going to get worse.
bite your fucking tongue o.p., we need more sluts, the quota is running low as of late.
isosceles kramer just gave me a boner!!
no one on their deathbed wishes they hadn’t fucked so much (unless they die of AIDs or syphilis i suppose).
I cant find a girl i want to settle down with….. but that doesn’t mean i don’t like having sex with them and feeling a lil temporary closeness….. so god bless the sluts out there because they feel the same way and they fulfill an important role in keeping my nuts from getting blue.
As for being used….. As long as a guy is up front about what he is looking for, and the girl understands and accepts it….. game on!!
i find the only issue is when girls SAY they understand its just casual…. but secretly they feel it will turn into more once i feel the magical wet grip that her pussy bestows upon me. in which case its their own fault for being that desperate.
speaking of sluts….
if when trying to post, you don’t get the buttons on the preview screen, you need to log out and back in again.
code monkeys seem to be messing with the matrix ATM.
ok
OB, what consenting adults get up to, is their business, not yours.
You can be as judgemental (heavy on the mental part) as you wish. Just stop bothering to come to a bitch board to get others to agree with you.
From what I see here, the majority of the daily posters here care not 1 with for your self rightous opinion.
If you really NEED to be with people who agree you are right & anything else is Bad, & Wicked & will get you a One Way Ticket Straight To Hell…well there are many religious groups available that you will fit right into !
I may be in a monogamous relationship right now…but one never truely knows what the future will bring ( & I for one don’t want to)…unless you know the 7 number for the next Super7 draw ~;p
Sleeping around has always been a norm somewhere in the world. Just seems to go in and out of favour depending on the cultural values of the time and place. After all we are hot wired for it, we just often tend to keep it under wraps.
Ob u are sensible and the rest of u that made comments r fucking nuts.
These must be the hookers that frequent the bars and pretend to be single women. If they dress like sluts, guess what, that’s what they are.
I had that issue yesterday, zed, but the big boss told us to go home a bit early, so I said “fuck it.”
I agree with A LOT of what IK says.
And just because you’re with one person who you THINK loves you…. doesn’t mean they’re as satisfied with just you alone.
I’ve been propositioned by attached male friends (mostly married ones — and they range from current friend to old friends from high school) more times than I care to share that it’s becoming more humourous than anything. I’ve never taken them up on that shit because I think cheating is pathetic and mean (just fucking end it already if you’re THAT unhappy), but goddamn. There are a lot of unhappy (sexually and otherwise) attached menz out there.
I CHOOSE to be single too. What I mean by that is, I’m open to being with someone if I met that right person, but I can honestly say I’ve never met that right person. Ever. Sure I’ve had attractions and crushes and sure I’ve dated and been with guys, but I’ve learned that being with someone for the sake of being with someone and not waiting for the right one is just a waste of time and a whole clusterfuck of emotional distress. I’d rather be on my own for the rest of my life than compromise.
Unfortunately there’s a double standard there for those of us choosing to be single — when men are single it’s ok, but when women are single there’s obviously something wrong with them. Yet, women who jump from man to man and have new boyfriends two seconds after breaking up with someone get no shit whatsoever for their needy co-dependency.
I love what the bread lady said about the one way ticket. I have mixed thoughts though. If your friend is happy with her chioices then let her be and she should let you be. Friends don’t always agree with eachothers decisions but should love them anyway and be there when they need you.
Thomas I think one day you’ll find out that you get to do anything you want when your with the right person 🙂
Instead of a man, I’d like to be called a ‘dick owner’.
aaw, weiner dogs with pearls http://www.thestar.com/living/article/1085…
FS – the politically corrrect term is “Phallically Over-advantaged”
PK: Here’s an old Scottish expression: Better to have a lobster in your bed than no husband.
“If they dress like sluts, guess what, that’s what they are.”
If you act like a faggot, guess what, that’s what you are.