A past love introduced this little Coast gem to me. Almost daily I take time to read and enjoy the loves (not the bitches) that are sent from one east coaster to the other. I wanted to share something with you all. Two weeks ago I was reading this column from my father’s bedside—I waited with him for a week as he passed away. I read this column a lot and will forever remember the escape it gave me during that time.
Shortly after he died, I received a note about loss—and while this is about a passing—I thought it resonated well with losing a lover as well; the feeling is so close to that of a death:
“The pain doesn’t leave, it just gets different. Grief seems to be the exclamation mark for love, but in truth it is more of a prism.”
I hope all of your heartbreaks are healing and that things are getting “different.” Thank you for helping me that week. xo —Happy to be a Coaster
This article appears in Sep 20-26, 2012.
Thanks Happy Coaster. My condolences on the loss of your Dad, but that quote is quite lovely.
oddly enough, you could also put that quote on a coaster…
as someone has done with one of my favs.
http://rlv.zcache.com/funny_gifts_unique_c…
Hey Happy Coaster:). Thank you for taking the time to post….I recently lost my Dad and I am finding it very difficult to just to get through the days and keep feeling balanced, or even just keep my tears at bay. Your quote really resonated with me, and your post has helped me to understand that the grief I feel really is more like a kaleidoscopic expression of the love my father and I shared. I am such a lucky person, to have had the wonderful father I had for so many years. So much love, so many beautiful memories. Thank you for reminding me that grief is so much more than the sadness of tears shed.
You have my sincerest condolences on the loss of your father. And, again, thank you for taking the time to post. I hope you are surrounded by the love and kindness your words echo, and that your father’s passing was peaceful and tender.
Sincerest regards and empathy ,
SheSang
SheSang I’m very sorry for the loss of your father.Your right memmories are precious.
Hi Boru:). Thank you so much for your condolences. It is always a nice feeling when people let you know they care–i really appreciate you taking the time to do so:). Have a lovely monday!!
SheSang Your right it is nice when people take the time to show they care.Not many people do,that’s why I feel it’s even more meaningful.These days too many people are too involved in their own lives to take the time to try to reach out to someone inorder to show they care.I feel if you do care about someone,it doesn’t take long to show it, so why not make someone feel good by asking about a person’s day etc.Or in the very least tell them that your thinking about them?It won’t stop wars from happening but,you can make a person smile. My Monday wasn’t bad,thanks.
Hey Boru:) I totally agree with you! Glad you had a nice monday!!