I think I’ve finally realized that no matter how much I love you, this will never, ever, ever work. How can it? You can’t take the slightest criticism. I can’t even tell you to put your seat belt on. I’m really trying here but it’s a lost cause. You’ll never change. You do this to me all the time. I love you and I care about you so, so much and truly want you to find peace and happiness but it seems like you’re always angry at me. You go silent on me for weeks, months like it’s nothing to you, like I don’t even exist. You want to hang out but make zero effort. You’re clearly afraid to get close to me. Is it so hard to believe that someone actually loves you? I know your family life has been unimaginably rough but I just want to help you through it. You deserve to be loved and cared for and all I want is to give it to you but you can’t accept it. You can’t live this way. Your own unhappiness will eat you alive and I don’t want to stand around to watch it happen. —Dazed and Confused
This article appears in Oct 4-10, 2012.
OP If she/he is from a disfunctional family she’s probably waiting to see if you do care about her enough for you to make the first move.If she was treated badly early in her life, she most likely thinks you are playing her a fool, due to her lack of self esteem….FYI…I read that a woman shouldn’t chase after a man;the woman should wait for a man to chase her.If a man goes through the trouble to chase after a woman,he is very interested in her.
Are you sure her silence is of her own doing?Would there be any other reason she would stop talking to you?……If you love her that much contact her….It’s hard for someone who was hurt many times to tell someone their true feelings only to be turned away….Tell her how you feel about her,make a move to let her know she does matter to you.
I find it amasing how just telling someone you love or care for, that they matter to you and you don’t want to watch her continue to hurt herself.I know being unhappy is not a way to live .
well that’s a little antiquated…
It is a little antiquated.
OP so you love her/him but you don’t want to accept the bad with the good.Are you sure you’ve done enough to let her/him know?Are you leading her/him on?How long is she supposed to wait for you to admit your feelings?
Is she expected not to date other guys while she’s not talking to you, in hopes you will admit your true feelings for her?
I know the feeling of being fraustrated in love, wanting someone that doesn’t care for you,that really doesn’t know your alive.To want to be heald by a man that obviously couldn’t give a shit about you….SAD..SO SAD.
`You’ll never change. You do this to me all the time.`
Your words OL, keep repeating them to yourself and then move on with the rest of your life. This person won`t change for you, they`ll just suck the positive life force out of you, slowly but surely. You can make yourself happy and healthy if you use those energies on you. Then maybe you`ll be ready to share a rewarding life with someone else.
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Well that’s a story I can relate to. Love is certainly hard work. Its tough to watch someone you love suffer especially when you know you can help but they won’t let you. When that happens in my life, I tell myself that I’m gonna stick around no matter what to see it through because I know I’m strong enough for both of us. Time heals all wounds. Good luck.
mclean I may be wrong but,OP didn’t state that she doesn’t want him to help.Maybe she doesn’t know how he honestly feels about her.Which may explain her ignoring him and her not going to him for help.
OP “You want to hang out but make zero effort. You’re clearly afraid to get close to me.”
..LOL…Is it the cops she’s afraid of?Again,if she doesn’t know how you feel or if you turned her away in the past,she’s probably afraid your going to tell her she’s harassing you. SHIT, I know I would be.
It seems to me that these days too many people don’t care about they’re fellow man/woman.People would rather watch a person they claim to care for sink into the qwik sound than take a risk and “get involved”,when a “friend” needs help.