I recently had a baby, she wasn’t expected but my boyfriend and I couldn’t be any happier that she’s here. She’s made our life complete in the three short months she’s been here. However, my bitch is with the costs of raising a child and just giving major PROPS to single moms out there who have to do it on their own. Teething toys that cost between $6 to $30 (yes..there is a teething giraffe named Sofi that is $26, unreal), clothing that is made so tiny that costs $25 an outfit. Yes, Value Village, Kijiji and donations from family and friends have been LIFE SAVERS but even with my boyfriend working full-time, working his butt off— things are still hard, money is still tight and bills still don’t get paid. I daily wonder how single parents are doing it; paying rent, paying bills, looking after little ones. There are the friends who don’t have children who don’t understand we can’t afford to go out to movies, or get babysitters—people who have stopped calling, stopped wondering how we are. So if you have friends with babies, no matter how sick you are of seeing five thousand pictures..please still call and hang out with your friends with kids…we miss you, we miss being adults, we are covered in slobber, exhausted and somehow still smiling but we miss our friends. —Kids are Amazing But Expensive
This article appears in Sep 13-19, 2012.
I hear you there girlfriend! I was a single mom, in school full time and waitressing 5 nights a week! She’s 15 now, but I still remember how stressful it was, and how little sleep I got. Don’t even get me started on the cost of daycare…Oyyy!
Dear OB aka Mom
It gets easier with time, I’m not sure if it can be said to get better (IMO its a continuous learning curve with the first one) it constantly keeps evolving & you get better at it
BUT
WHat does/may eventually happen is…. they get older, move out & GIVE YOU GRAND BABIES YYYYYAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAYYYYYYYYYYYYY ! ! ! ! !
ANd you may not believe me , it happens FAST. Really freaking fast & I often sit & wonder where the time has gone
So enjoy her while you can, put off as little as possible & do all the fun things you may sometimes feel you are too tired for, or you can possibly do some other time , because she’ll be grown up & gone before you know it.
this is the number one reason i do not want, and will not ever have a child. I enjoy having a tiny bit of disposable income on every pay and do not want to give that up. (although with gas and nsp that number gets smaller every 2 weeks) Good luck with making things work
I agree with More on this one – the time flies by way too fast so enjoy the little ankle biter while you can. I honestly don’t know how people have kids today – when my kid was a wee one in 1991, we were paying $125 a week for a sitter – I can’t imagine what the going rate is these days. Such a sad statement on the state of our current economy – you have to pay through the nose to be a parent. And a special woo-hoo to all the single mothers out there who shouldered this financial shitstorm for the sake of their kids – you have my heartfelt respect.
o.p., people give me stuff all the time for kids. i have a bunch of baby clothes here, plus a couple strollers, 1 big heavy duty, 1 lightweight. also a wood rocking horse, and an adjustable type sliding highchair. if you want any of this, you are welcome to it. as i said, i get this stuff all the time. there is also a bunch of stuffies and other toys here too. mail me at gary_more@hotmail.com, for the addy, if you are interested in any of it.
Well first off congrats on your surprise child. Like one already said it does get easier. Once you get a routine in place it helps a lot. As for the cost I feel ya. By the time you get the bills paid, food, diapers, etc your broke. But keep your head up and remember when you see your bundle of joy happy its all worth it.
Your friends who are child free and do not understand the concept of your on a budget now and have to plan ahead to go out with them well they will learn when their turn comes.
I sympathise, to a certain extent, about your price list for toys and the fact that you can no longer get together with friends, but the bullshit piece about the baby wasn’t expected is a big get fucking real.
There are more pre knocked up devices/pills potions and keep your cunt under wraps information available, mostly free of charge, so please don’t get a big arsed stroller and whine about the welfare wagon driver who won’t let you get on the bus – oh, the humanity!
You’ll live through it, we all did. I agree with cooper on this one. Sorry but you Play you Pay. For life.
All lovely reasons I don’t want a child… also, it would take away from the attention my cat gets :). OH PG!!! I HEARD YOU HAVE A NEW ROOMMATE????!??!?!?!
I’ve said it before….it should be a requirement for people to have a license to have a child.
yes mel, he is saweet. unlike some of our other adopted beasts, he has no fear of anything. he doesn’t meow but purrs all the time, even when he’s eating^^he kinda looks like this http://singlemaltmonkey.files.wordpress.co…
Lovely puddin’ pg. Congrats!
Aww what a lil sweetums 🙂
since our beloved hound died i have been very sad, he fills the big hole in my heart
Welcome to reality OP children suck time and money like mother’s milk.
Oh no! Soooo sorry!!! Oh!
sorry snoob, i thought you knew. he would have been 13 on august the 4th, he died april 12th
Oh my! I’ve been out of the loop! It’s never easy! I’m glad you’re not a never-againer! There are so many critters that need us! xo
He’s gorgeous! I love the black and whites! I was told by an animal shelter person once that they’re the last to be adopted. I can’t believe it! I’ve had a bunch (all oldsters) and they’ve all been personality plus!
black dogs and black cats are the last to be adopted, even greyhounds
Weird. Especially since their fur is less visible on most clothing!
i sent the bear to the spca, i said i don’t care what the cat looks like. this one head bonked him and climbed on his shoulder
That’s sounds like my criteria. I also don’t mind if there are parts missing. Not that I encourage it!
I’ve also come to agree with the statement: Dogs have owners, cats have staff.
Oh – and regarding OPs post…
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UqO0-fwTsEc
To buck the trend, I adopted a family of 3 cats, all are black and have given me permission to tell you this.
make sure they stay indoors on all hallows eve^^
For Halloween (I hate that fucking “holiday”) they send me out tricking with clear instructions, don’t come back without kitty treats or you’re fucked.
Gf and I are bringing home our all black kit next week. She’s 6 years old, petite, and a doll. Black whiskers, toes, belly- everything. It’s been hard at times since my Ernie died 3 years ago, but it’s the right time!
Wp
SCREEEEEEE!
Cigars all around for the proud new Poppa
http://blogs.estadao.com.br/felipe-machado…
wonderful news wheelie, a home just isn’t the same without a four legged furry^^ http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m9jjyeEF…
painy, i don’t know if you saw my avatar yet, or if you could make it out. it’s a heaven for dogs. i couldn’t find one with both critters in it, so i opted out for this one, just for you.
Holy shit… we could have kitty play-date summits…
if only they would all just get along.
GUESS WHAT?
I HAVE A NEW FURRY ROOMIE TOO.
HOO-Ah! Kitteh. How are Moscar treating the FNG. (Fuckin’ New Guy)
Well, new kitteh has cancer and just sleeps. Molly’s ok, but Oscar is scared of her! And she’s 1/4th his size. He’s a wimp!
She’s going to the SPCA tomorrow to be assessed and if she isn’t put down, we’re adopting her until the time comes.
Oh that’s so sad. Poor wee beastie.
Oscar’s not a wimp; he’s a gentle soul who follows his own path. Like Ferdinand the Bull.
PK I couldn’t do that,I’m too wimpy. I would get too attached to her,then be crushed when her time on this earth ends… But,my god PK thats really good of you to make her comfy, until…
good on ya ms kitty, our wee beast met a rotti puppy today and a needle at the vet. on saturday we had three dogs and a bunch of babies, kids and pregnant women in the shop. no, they didn’t all come off a large bus^^
But did they all come out of a small car to the dulcet tones of Yakety Sax? 😛