I am sick and tired of women (pregnant and otherwise) giving parenting advice. If you have yet to push a child out of your cooch or cluster feed for six hours straight, STFU and keep it to yourself! Real life reading is not equal to real life DOING. I also don’t want to know how your mom did it. She did a shitty job of teaching you to keep your nose out of things you don’t know. —Pissed Off Parent
This article appears in Aug 9-15, 2012.
try your best to ignore them. i remember a women saying about my baby “just wait until he’s a teenager, it won’t be fun at all” sod off nosey wanker
L O L ….
Nothing better for a laugh, than advice from someone who has NEVER BEEN THERE !
I guess parents of adopted children don’t count.
PS: just because you have a kid doesn’t mean you can’t be a shitty parent.
PPS: i actually agree with your general sentiment, OB, and think it applies to many situations.
Meh, I’m gona burn for this one….
OB – If so many people are coming up to you and telling you how to raise your child, maybe you’re doing it wrong.
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depends on the situation hugo. i’ve seen some really appalling parental behaviour and always say something but it’s usually too late in the long haul. if you’re swearing and beating your child in public, the dye has been caste
I used to tell mothers like that I didn’t have one labour pain, my kid was delivered by c-section, it was like ordering her from Sears. No wonder they hated me.
Sometimes common sense outweighs experience, OB. And it appears that a lot of parents don’t have common sense (non-parents too, of course).
I had a friend once get mad at me for “telling her how to raise her child”. I wasn’t trying to tell her how to raise her kid.. just informing her that cow’s milk isn’t safe for a 4 month old baby, and that leaving the room while letting your baby play with a freaking CORD is unsafe.
If you aren’t doing anything to harm your child, I think people should butt out and you shouldn’t feel guilty to tell them that, regardless of whether or not they’ve had a kid. However, if you’re a dumb ass you should appreciate and be open to their attempts at keeping you from unintentionally harming your own child.
Bitch 7. A mother resents parenting advice from those who haven`t actually given live birth themselves. She feels that their opinions have yet to be coloured by the physical hardships in raising a child and should wait until then before offering their thoughts.
No examples are given here, maybe OP is right and the Nosey Parker was overreacting or OP was, in fact, in need of advice because she wasn`t handling a particular situation in the best possible manner. We just don`t know.
Solution include a) explaining in a tactful manner why you feel you`re doing things in the best possible manner and why their hands-on inexperience gives them a skewed perspective.
b) give them the screaming brat to look after for a time or c) just bite your tongue, their time will come.
Just nod, and then go about doing it your way. Before and after birth. Good luck!
If the person wanting to give me advice really knows what they’re talking about I welcome it.It’s when they’re criticizing me not helping me,I get pissed off.Those folks that won’t shutup and have a need to jamb advice down a person’s throat need a good smack.
What does it feel like to know everything?
There are many women out there who learned a lot about parenting through self-learning, courses in school, such as dietetics or psychology, or by having a close friend or family member who is in their life raise a child. On the other hand, many women who become mothers may be ill-informed or less educated on the subject of raising children. For example, the idea of voluntarily feeding an infant cow’s milk as opposed to breastmilk could very well be an issue of uneducation on the topic (as an example) and therefore someone such as a friend or family member who has for whatever reason read something on the topic could very well feel they have a right to give their opinion. Maybe more mothers should question the person giving advice instead of saying that they have no right to give such advice. For instance, oh really? I didnt realize cows milk was unsafe for infants.. Why is that? Where did you read that? What is your background on the information? Many educated, intelligent women with information to share are not necessarily mothers but may be able to offer good information, at least information worth looking into.
Some mother’s that were raised by mother’s that knew nothing about rearing children can become what they feared the most,their own mother.