Aw, what an amusing story you tell. You were “so busy” this week – too busy to text or call your wife who is stuck in Hellifax alone while you were “sooo busy” drinking your face off. I loved when you found the 10 seconds out of your ‘busy’ day to call and then basically have to rush off the phone again. Beer awaits!
Let’s just get this straight, I was the busy one at the fucking hospital all goddamn day, exhausted and emotionally drained but still making 100x more effort to make contact with you. Do you know how this feels? Being here without anyone you know, alone and broke. You didn’t care to even make an effort at all. Seriously, wtf?!
Thank you for ruining my 6 days and nights, not giving a flying fuck about me the entire time you were there. Good to know I can be forgotten after a few days. You claim I’m “your world”. Really? You have an interesting way of showing it. Actions speak louder than words. If you missed me so bad like you’re claiming, why didn’t you take 30 fucking seconds to text or call? You know, like in between swigs of beer or tokes.
I can’t believe I waited up for your call, or even a text… which never came. Wow what a concept, saying hi to your wife. I know, I know I’m being needy and sensitive. Sorry, I actually have a heart unlike yourself. Sorry I care about you and actually wanted to hear about how your time there was going. You can blame other people for your plans, but here’s an idea; why don’t you grow a pair and actually stand up for yourself and what YOU want to do?
Thank you for proving to me what I already expected – not only am I nowhere near the top of your priority list, I didn’t even make the fucking cut. I deserve a man who actually cares and has the balls to stand up for his wife. Welcome ‘home’ jerk. —Lateralus
This article appears in Jun 9-15, 2011.
I think I know why he never called. It’s called peace and quiet with no nagging.
I think I know why too, Bro. But if he really loved her and actually cared about her, you get over the nagging and call your wife. Sorry OB. You deserves someone who wants to be with you as much as you want to be with them.
Posts like this make me fall in love with being single allll over again.
Maybe you need to, you know, make some friends of your own and stop being so fucking clingy?
And maybe he’d call you if you weren’t so needy?
I am deeply in love with singledom as well KillBrindi 🙂
Wow, was he an angel before you married him?
The best relationship/marriage quote ive ever heard is this.
“Men marry women with the hope they will never change. “Women marry men with the hope they will change. “Invaribly they are both disappointed.” (Albert Einstein)
OP I think you got what you deserve – you got a man who actually has the balls to stand up TO his wife.
The only thing more pathetic than allowing yourself to be treated like shit is allowing yourself to be treated like shit and then expecting others to feel sorry for you. Yes your husband is a douche, get a divorce or get over it.
i’m glad we don’t roll that way. it sounds like a bad romcom
Now OP you should take a sec and realize what you have written here. This proves that you two are not right for each other. You have a couple otptions:
1. DIVORCE
2. stay.
If you choose #2 you better not ever ever complain about it again, because that makes you a complete fucking moron and noone with any brains will feel sorry for you or give a shit.
While I do agree that he should have called, sometimes you’re just fucking busy or it’s not the right time for a conversation. If I’m with my friends or in the middle of something, I’m not going to whip out the phone to small talk with you. When other people do that around me I find it fucking rude. He’s a grown man. Guys do need their space and many women are guilty of over crowding or clinging. I’ve never dated a girl who wasn’t somewhat guilty of this. Even when you express to them from the get go that you are a person who needs their space and doesn’t want to contact you or hang out with you every single day. I just met a girl the other night and she already exhibited cling-like symptoms. Truly remarkable.
I never saw the big deal about saying “talk to you in a week”. You need time away from people sometimes, even your closest friends, family members and yes your husband/wife. It defeats the purpose if you have to check in on someone every day. You don’t feel like a free adult under those circumstances. Why aren’t you with your friends having fun OP? He may be a douche, but you sound like you need to get a life.
See, when he has friends and a life and all you have is him.. recipe for failure. Nobody likes a needy clingy person who depends on them for their happiness.
I like the terms STAGE 5 CLINGER and STALKERAZZI. Although stalkerazzi applies to someone who wants to be your friend …
So weird how things like that work. My best friend since grade 7 and I BBM every single day, all day, all the time, and I don’t find that needy. It’s so odd how different relationships work. I think you gotta know how to deal with different ppl differently.
Who says he doesn’t care about you? You sound so damn annoying. Blehhhhhhhhhhhh, that’s me virtual vomiting all over your “not love letter”
True indeed Donk, but even my boys I get annoyed if they wanna hang out like 5 or 6 days in a row. I love all my friends I just don’t feel the need to have them around every single day. You start noticing little annoying things about them and there are inevitably things that you are going to want to do that they aren’t. People need to be independent, I can’t stand needy ass people.
My favorite term for a clingy person is Klingon.
Lulz Klingons are scary … both types.
I read this bitch twice because the first time I got the impression she was a patient in the hospital and her husband who was away on a trip never bothered to call. Having reread it, I assume she actually works in the hospital (?) Which definitely makes her come off as super-needy (When my boyfriend goes away on a trip, I don’t expect to have any long phone chats or emails from him. And a week is not that long). Either way, my overall impression was “get a divorce or STFU.”
i reread it as well mole rat “being here without anyone you know, alone and broke” what’s that all about?
Regardless of whether she’s a patient or a hospital worker, somebody’s in the poop when he get home =O
Think of all the grief he could have saved with a simple phone call.
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Wow. Most people who made comments were insensitive douchebags. Clingy? 6 days obviously going thru a hard time, no phone calls, no “Hi, how are you? I love you” and that is considered needy? Do you people know anything about relationships? I don’t know, it’s been about 7 years in a relationship for me, we talk regularly when either of us goes away, but miraculously I’m still able to be independent. Imagine that. And I’m a female.
I’m really thinking twice about dating in this town if it comes to it. I wouldn’t want to expect one little phone call from someone and be considered clingy and needy.
And for the record- I don’t want to change my man, most women don’t. We just get frustrated sometimes cause the men can’t keep up.
“We just get frustrated sometimes cause the men can’t keep up.”
Maybe they’re dragging their feet to avoid seeing you so soon again.
The problem *is* spacemonk is that OP is solely dependent on her SO for emotional fulfillment. She has no friends outside of her husband. While she may be new to the city and not have had the chance to make any friends, but I find this becomes all too common with some women who lose contact with their friends when they get with a guy and/or get married and figure it’ll just be you and him. 5-10-20-30 years later when he leaves her for being a fucking klingon, she has no friends or social network and is truly alone. It gets even worse when these types of women have kids.
Six days without even hearing from your husband is completely unreasonable. I’d never go six days without speaking to my SO if I was away, but if he’s not calling you (and he must know you wanted him to call) there’s a reason. He probably needs a break from you (even if it’s subconsciously) because you sound, uh, kinda really intense, OP. Especially since you have no social network here of your own and depend on him for everything in that regard. You’re likely draining him emotionally.
And the fact that you wrote a bitch about this instead of confronting him about this speaks volumes of your relationship.
I don’t think you’re completely innocent in this, OP, and you may have to evaluate yourself along with your husband’s ‘inconsiderate’ behaviour. It always seems that it’s the guy who’s at fault when marriages breakdown, and even while joking it’s always “best marriage advice is ‘yes dear’ or ‘you’re right, honey!'” which is a complete crock of shit. There are two people in a marriage, not just one.
Tip to all the clingy ladies out there: if you feel your man “completes you” then you really REALLY need to get some self esteem and learn how to be happy with yourself.
Holy fuck. Hopefully the guy reads what the OP wrote and realizes she’s a nut case. He better get rid of her soon. Sounds like a living case of “The Roommate.”
You seem less douchey today. Got laid last night?
^.^
lol..”less douchey”
To me, the OP sounds like a navy wife, (or army/air force). Just the fact that she says she is “here without anyone, alone and broke”…sounds like the wife of a newly posted military member, new to the area and not knowing anyone. It’s an extremely hard situation, especially if there are kids involved and your significant other is deployed somewhere for an undetermined amount of time. It is a very common occurance around here, Halifax being the military town that it is. If this is the case with this OP, you’re not ‘alone’ as you stated. There are TONS of resources and contacts provided to military families in the area. Do some research and check them out. The Military Family Resource Centre in Windsor Park is one of the best in the country and offer everything from child care and activity programs for kids, to social groups, clubs for adults, volunteering opportunities, courses and they have an entire network of support professionals, both military and civilian that can help out during a crisis. All it takes is for you to get in contact with the MFRC and they can provide you with a list of resources that you can access for your particular situation. (Maybe marriage counselling, in this case?). If nothing else, it’s a place for you to network and meet other military spouses that could have gone through or are currently going through what you are right now. You’re not alone, but you have to seek it out. Airing your problem on a public website, while may allow you to vent and get it off your chest, is not the place to deal with this.
The military aspect never occured to me avast0, good thinking.
I think if their husband was in the military, six days wouldn’t be anything. My ex was in the military and being “alone” was what I signed up for. But he did manage to call me everyday when he wasn’t in the field or the desert somewhere. But that’s because I’m not clingy 🙂
like most I read this post twice. And to me it reads like he may be on a vacation with his buddies…. And if it were me I’d be incommunicato too. two rivers over is as good as single…. to a point.
Sounds like she may have had a pretty shitty day at work and just needed the man she married and trusts with her heart to be there for her in her time of need….. we all, all of us, need that from time to time. Sometimes, we as humans, choose to marry people who don’t judge us at our worst because they know our true selves. And we find comfort in that fact. It helps us get through the day knowing no matter what happens between now and the time we put our feet up at the end of the day, there’s someone we can talk to about all the shit we can’t unload through out it.
Yes, she’s needy. but is she needy all the time? None of us can say. Was she hurt at the time of posting, and without being able to actually talk to the person she wanted to, did she anonomously unload on strangers… yes. should we, as non-perfects, stand in judgement of others. FUCK NO!
Give her a break, you don’t know thing one about the surroundings of her hurt. we only know the hurt of the posts moment.
IMO