So, nearly two years, you sexually assaulted me. I’d known you for ages and felt nothing but trust and affection for you. That ended the day you lured me into your car, drove us outside of the city and groped me, trying to coerce me into performing sex acts in exchange for money. I had to force myself out of the car to get away from you. The most traumatic day of my life is on permanent repeat due to the fact that you insist on coming to my place of work. You give me a pompous glare and chuck your payment card at me as if I were a peasant. You get away with it because my company has thus far allowed you to. Well, today is the last time. No more. I’m done. The police are being informed, and your bubble will soon burst. I won’t be your victim anymore. —Just a Girl
This article appears in Mar 5-11, 2015.
Fake.
you never know, people do like to broadcast their drama.
Hing frog, shut it. It isn’t fake. A very similar thing happened to me about 5 years ago. Most women have had to fend off an unwanted assault to their person at least once in her life. And Molly you can kiss off too like you never spew your drama on here. Ahem your bitch on scissoring?
Valid bitch. Happens all the time.
I’m with Hing, why the fuck would you post this here? why the fuck would the mod put it up? It’s not a bitch, it’s a fucking police case.
Good for you!!! It’s hard to stand up for yourself in these situations – don’t let anyone (the police or your friends or these morons with comments) keep you down!!! You go, girl!
The O.P. ‘s story has more credibility than that of the fool.
Sorry, fool, your on-line persona is such a grotesque caricature that even when you drop the minstrel show act, it’s impossible to take anything you say seriously. Your grandstanding actually harms those who are legitimate victims of sexual violence.
Well done.
This bitch sounded eerily familiar – crime committed / long period of suffering / imminent revenge.
Reminded me of this one:
http://www.thecoast.ca/LovetheWayWeBitch/archives/2015/02/01/its-not-over-yet
Current bitch: So, nearly two years, you sexually assaulted me. ….. The most traumatic day of my life is on permanent repeat ………You give me a pompous glare and chuck your payment card at me as ……….Well, today is the last time. No more. I’m done. …….The police are being informed, and your bubble will soon burst….. I won’t be your victim anymore. —Just a Girl
Previous one: I bet you have no idea what.. you took away from me on that day, ….. You haunt every waking moment of my days ………You make me feel weak. ……..But you have not won. I’ll face you again…… I can’t wait to look you in the eye as you’re charged for the crimes you’ve committed. I can’t wait to watch you get sentenced in court……..I’m coming for you, you son of a bitch. —Your worst nightmare
Just a coincidence? If so, I hope both bitchers can find some peace. If not, the lone writer needs to find a new hobby.
I thought this bitch was a phoney, posted a tongue-in-cheek response, and it was deleted. C’est la vie.
what bitch on scissoring??? I always sign my bitches in a way that people know it’s me. the one time I didn’t, (stop calling my hoo-hoo) I fessed up quickly because I don’t post or comment anything I won’t own up to. that one was deliberately written to get a laugh and I didn’t want anyone knowing it was me until after the comments.
now lets see here, how many times have I been sexually assaulted, been of victim of incest, had sexual interference (my definition of assault under 5 yrs of age), been gang raped and been raped by someone with a weapon, and how many times have I escaped or been able to talk my way out of it. NONE of your fucking business. which is why I do not feel the urge to broadcast my bonafides here.
a fake bitch sounds like a fake bitch. just because someone is talking about sexual assault doesn’t automatically validate the bitch. some shit sounds like shit. this is one of them.
and my judgements are my own, I sign ’em and make them at my will, no one’s else’s. same reason why I don’t click like or dislike ( I will start when they start tagging your name to them) and same reason I post under one persona, and only one. WYSIWYG
I too had mine deleted. Though mine was not tongue in cheek – it was an explanation of why I thought the bitch was fake. Apparently, I can say it’s fake but not offer a reason why I believe so.
Mod, if you are going to post this shit, allow us to have a reasonable discussion about it. Stop using your moral high ground to pick and choose comments. We have asked you before to justify your actions and you continue to refuse.
Hing’s response to the fool was deleted while mine was left up?
Good thing I didn’t use the word “taqiyya”
The moral arc of the universe is long, but it bends towards justice. Sometimes you’ve gotta give it a little push like you did, OB.
I will operate under the assumption that this is not a fake bitch. Will this woman face problems trying to press charges against this man now that she has waited two years? How can she possibly prove anything now? It would just become a case of one person’s word against another. At least if she had acted right away (or much earlier) people could have confirmed her whereabouts on the evening in question and the police could have seen any bruises that may have been left. It sounds like this wasn’t really a big issue for her (or big enough at least to press charges) until he started working in the same place.
And just because I think this goes without saying but will probably have to clarify eventually anyway: The ‘man’ in this bitch sounds like a scumbag.
Why the hell would you wait?
Isn’t that part of the problem?
Quietly trying to forget and sweep it under the rug instead of speaking up immediately and demanding justice?
FFS. The entire world is just looking to walk all over you if this is how you treat injustice.
Fake.
I don’t get the impression that this is made up.
I suspect the OP is a young adult–maybe 18 (?), and the incident may have happened when she was 16 or so.
It is also possible that the abuser was/is considerably older–“known you for ages and felt nothing but trust and affection for you.” Possibly an older trusted adult/relative who was waiting for an opportune moment (a common modus operandi for those who intentionally perpetuate these kinds of acts, as they intentionally set up the “target” to feel as if they have done something wrong, thus limiting the likelihood of being reported.)
If this is the case, it would make sense that she is only reporting the crime now, as an independent adult with a clearer understanding of the situation.
I wouldn’t call out this one as fake so quickly. Maybe this is not the best forum (by all means criminal acts should be reported to the police) but if there is a young person who has no trusted person to talk to, then it is easy to see why someone would post here to help them come to terms with what they have to face.
If indeed the OP has suffered this traumatic experience, I wish her well in her search for both justice and (ultimately) peace.
Yeah, not much the police can do now unless of course he has done it to someone else and they’re coming forward as well. It’s probably a good thing to extricate yourself from that whole situation and start anew. Best of luck OP.
Chuck “gingeminge” Gagger said:
“Sorry, fool, your on-line persona is such a grotesque caricature that even when you drop the minstrel show act, it’s impossible to take anything you say seriously. Your grandstanding actually harms those who are legitimate victims of sexual violence.
Well done.”
There is a difference between being yourself and being your stereotype… When people I’ve never met say you should act more like yourself, what you’re really saying is act more like how I stereotype you to be so I can feel more comfortable. Chuck AKA Ivan’s accusation of cultural appropriation because I talk with urban flava (online and in my real life); when he is actually the most racist member of this board. Did you forget all your Shaniqua and Lakeisha references and posting links making fun of black women? Your “grandstanding” actually harms those who are legitimate victims of racism. Go on and get some (a) soul.
It takes a lot of courage to come forward, OB. I wish you all the best.
To the people criticizing the OB and saying that it’s fake: You are a big part of what’s wrong with society. No wonder people don’t come forward – The victim often gets blamed or people don’t believe them.
I applaud everyone for making no mention of bill cosby.
Excellent restraint.
You just mentioned him, Willard. Have you no restraint?
Sorry Naveed. As the declarant of fakery, I did post a comment, right after my first one, that explained my position. Mod decided it was unfit for human consumption and ate it. I would be happy to re-post it but fear being boiled in oil and then having my profile deleted. Remember Mister Meaty?
Anyway, I can’t offer any more of an explanation for obvious reasons…
Happy Friday Everyone! You too Mod!
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WHAT IS A BITCH?
“I thought this bitch was a phoney, posted a tongue-in-cheek response, and it was deleted.” Montrealman (03/12, 9:27AM)
But why did I think this bitch was a phoney? The answer turns on the question, “What is a bitch?” To be a bitch it must be situated between two extremes, the ridiculously trivial and the legally criminal. Both should be dismissed but for different reasons.
In the case of the ridiculously trivial, the “bitch” would deal with absurdities like a hangnail, a cloudy sky or just taking the bus to work. There is nothing to it. There is no discursive depth, no occasion for meaningful analysis. It is just empty. At the other extreme lies the legally criminal “bitch,” one dealing, for example, with real-life Holocaust experiences at Auschwitz, a slow death from cancer, or a light-hearted look a real gang rape. This sort of “bitch” is not a bitch at all. They belong in a court of law and should be dismissed because of their real-lie criminal or inhuman nature.
The reason I thought “Never Again” was a phoney and posted a tongue-in-cheek response lay in the fact that I thought it could not both be a real-life account of sexual assault and, at the same time, appear on the Bitch website. It belonged in a court of law and not on Bitch. It appears I was wrong. I had failed to correctly answer the question, “What is a bitch?”
A pleasure as always,
Cheerio!
I too question why some people post serious letters here relating to matters better dealt with by professionals, but I have come to learn that there are a lot of people out there who really don’t have many folks to turn to for support.
While most people have a network of family, friends, neighbors, teachers, colleagues, etc., for support, MANY people out there are much more alone than we might realize.
Yes, it seems absurd to post about serious matters like suicide or assault on what is meant to be a humourous “bitch board,” but people use whatever outlets they have available to them.
For those reasons, when those letters appear, I as a reader am willing to give the benefit of the doubt, and try to respond in a way that could *possibly* be helpful, even if realistically the kind of “help” I can offer is not much more than a tiny anonymous voice of support or advice.
There are real people out there behind all these posts that we see everyday, so ya gotta be careful when someone appears to be really hurting and has no where to turn.
That’s a very good point Eggy. For me, it’s difficult to discern statement of facts; with the current electrically-charged state of women’s issues, it becomes easy to post fictitious statements that bring light to other women’s issues. So then the question becomes: how do I assess the difference?
With any of these kinds of posts, its impossible to know for sure without further information.
So, sometimes it’s just a matter of a gut feeling about a story–as we see on here all the time, some of them just sound so implausible that we all yell “fake!” Others seem to be plausible, and the tone of the writing indicates that the person’s pain is genuine.
The pendulum on “issues” will always swing back and forth. This is just background media noise. It has nothing to do with one individual’s situation being true or not true.
In this case, the letter seemed to hold up as plausibly true, so I gave the writer the benefit of the doubt and tried to respond in a helpful manner. Not knowing the person, I have no way of knowing how it will turn out, but with that said, I can only wish her the best during what sounds like a miserable situation.
And yes, I also think this is a strange forum to discuss these things, but in some cases I know it’s the only outlet some people have immediately at hand.
You sound hot, can i get your number?