It’s been a few months now and I’m totally smitten. I don’t see you as often as I’d like but understandable; you’re just out of long term relationship, only a few months before we met, and you have a busy life with your children (which I totally support and encourage). I want to see you more often (I miss your touch…your companionship…the laughs we share), but I’m afraid if I suggest this or put any pressure on you I will lose you forever. You’re the strong, silent type, and I feel you’re holding back, possibly due to the same fears I have of not wanting to put pressure on. You are nothing like anyone I’ve ever had a relationship with in the past. We’re “exclusive” as you say and you initiated that conversation shortly after we met. I think I’m in love with you and I think I’m ready to say it but as long as we’re “in hiding”, I’m not so sure the timing is right. I am so afraid of doing/saying the wrong thing and I certainly don’t want to lose what we have. Why is it so difficult for people to say what then mean/mean what they say without fearing negative results? Help!! —Why Is There No Manual For This?
This article appears in Feb 14-20, 2013.
*in hiding* ?????
op, you are in for a world of heartache. you are not going to listen to any advice that doesn’t agree with the fantasy you have created here.
If being honest means you lose him, perhaps you shouldnt want him all that much…
If having that person in your life means you have to throw away your boundaries and swallow your pride,take my advise he ain’t worth it.
I swore I would never again have anything to do with a guy who treated me like filth.Again before I knew it,I was making excuses for a man who treated me like shit.Belittling myself yet again,because he didn’t want me.It hurts like hell though because I ended up loosing a lot more than my boundaries and pride and it wasn’t my need for a warm body.Despite how badly I want him. .