This article appears in Dec 4-10, 2008.
Is it over?
Here I am alone again, I do have a girlfriend but have not spoken to her for about four days now. You see the thing is her grandmother is not well with cancer, which I understand, she has to be with her family now. We’ve only been together for a few m
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Ooooh, 4 days. Give her some space for fuck’s sake.
Be patient. Her head is in another universe right now – her time belongs to her family. If you intrude, you could put a bullet through the head of the relationship. In the immortal words of legendary blues man, Willy Hop: “Be cool, fool.’
“I’ve tried contacting her but she says she needs to spend time with her family.”I hope she dumps your needy ass.
Dude leave her the hell alone. Apparently you don’t understand. Don’t call her, she’ll call you, maybe. Definitely not if you don’t stop being a cling-on.
wow so you can’t see yourself going to her when she needs support (someone’s dying of cancer dude!) but you think SHE should find the time to call you, just to make you feel better?wow. simply. wow.
This is a touchy one since the relationship is so new. Not only is the girl worried and grieving but she’s got this guy who wants to be Mr Wonderful pulling on her. Yet, here she is walking around in a daze, ready to cry at any moment… maybe she’d rather her new boyfriend not see her in such a state. Maybe she doesn’t want to lay all of her woes on his shoulders so early in the relationship. Maybe there’s trust yet to be established (not to be unexpected early in a relationship).I think the OP is right to be confused, cautious and ready. Sounds like a very nice guy to me. Just give her time, OP.
If you are contacting her, just do it to say things like “I’m here if you need me”, or “just wanted to make sure you’re ok” … just don’t contact her expecting her to come running over to your place. You want her to know you are thinking about her, and you care. I don’t think the relationship is that new either …
um Kay, I’m not sure that the blowjob you gave to Desi in the mens room at the liquor dome qualifies you to give relationship advice…
Desi is my husband. Go check yourself, you fucking idiot. All you people do is look for ways to be rude. Bravo! You’re the fucking QUEEN of rude, Floyd… a very typical example of Maritime mentality. I so can’t wait to get the fuck out of here.
Kay- Hello, pot, this is the kettle, you’re black.I don’t comment often, but I do read LTWWB- mainly for the comments actually. That said- holy cow! “All you people do is look for ways to be rude. Bravo! You’re the fucking QUEEN of rude, Floyd… a very typical example of Maritime mentality.”Two comments on that one-a) Kay, you’re not the queen of nice, my dear…review your posting history.b) UGH! No one is asking you to god damn live in the Maritimes. Eff off already; assmuing you work, you’re taking a job from the people who want to be here . I cannot stand CFAs who do nothing but bitch about the place they’ve come to live in.
Yeah… that’s tellin’ her!Bitches who bitch on Love The Way We BITCH are so… wow… out there, eh? The NERVE of some people.*rolling my eyes*
Oh and BTW Cannatell how do you know it’s not me signing your pay cheques? If I pack up shop you might lose YOUR job. Now give your head a shake and stop encouraging rude bullies. It’s as if the people being treated badly have no right to complain or defend themselves. Unbelievable. Here I thought we were living in the cream of the world where education is your right and THIS is the “best” one could hope for. I’m ashamed Canada produces pathetic peons but why so many in one part of the country? Ahhh… I get it.. they’re breeding. And contempt breeds contempt… perfect sense. This place is fucking hole full of mean and ignorant people. I’m SO outta here.
Desi is your husband…???? Oh Kay this time you have gone too far… You are truly delusional… Nobody believes this…NOBODY..!!!!
FYI: For those of you who don’t remember…. Here’s the lowdown on Kay’s husband “Desi”… AKA Gary Beals… http://www.thecoast.ca/Elist-1732.112113-5936.113118-p17557.112113.htmlThose were the days….. AHHHHH HAHAHAHA…
Who or what is a ‘Gary Beals’? Can’t be too popular on ‘the scene’. Never heard of him.Thanks for the stroll through memory lane. I’m very pleased when I look back how much my husband and I are alike in the way we think. He couldn’t be bothered wasting his time in this way, we had him for all of 3 hours about a year ago. He’ll never return, I’m sure.I wonder how many times you’ve applauded his show or asked for an autograph, Floyd. Or worse, trying to pick me up. haha I often find myself at these gigs looking around wondering how many of you are looking back without a clue. Now THAT’S entertainment.
You fucking prick, put some one else before you for a change… dick
WTF?
Wow. Wow. Wow. So to paraphrase, this guy says that he doesn’t want to intrude on the family’s space in the hospital (I assume he feels he’s not been in the picture long enough to presume that would be appropriate), but he says he’d like to hear from the girlfriend and make sure she’s OK.And you guys shit all over him.I get that you think he’s thinking about himself and not giving her space, but jeez he isn’t asking her to go away for the weekend, just to get in touch more than once in four days.I think you’re mostly being jerks, calling him needy and a prick just because he’s feeling like he’s been left hanging. Did anyone consider that she’s not being very considerate? After all, four months is a pretty good start – it’s not like they’re just casually dating. If I were the OP, I might wonder if this was a sign of things to come….The ONLY thoughtful, well-considered response was kay’s before Floyd hijacked the thread by attacking her. (And Floyd, I get attacking kay – been there! – but how about cutting her some slack when she says something nice for a change??)
OK Jammie, if you say so…Kay I forgive you of your transgressions of the truth… And in the spirit of the season… I just have to say all the very very best to you and yours…Sincerely,
Oh yeah, and sorry for hijacking the thread…. FTR I didn’t understand kay’s comment as being pro-OP or against him… My take on this Bitch is we’re now into about Day 8 or 9…. If you haven’t heard from her by now, it doesn’t look good… But it does make me wonder, if she might be thinking the same thing about you. i.e. my G/M is in the hospital and I never hear from my B/F… WTF?
My impression was she told him “don’t call me, I’ll call you”, (which basically means “fuck off and die” most of the time), so he is waiting on her now. Not quite sure why everyone reacted as if the guy was the one being a dick…