I am a single woman who has met a man and the chemistry is insane! Unfortunatly he is unavailable as he is attached to another. I was attracted to him from the first moment I met him but as I get to know him, I am drawn to him more and more. How do I ignore or move past the strong chemistry we clearly have??? This man has now taken over my dreams and my mind. He is amazing and wishing I had more time with him to talk more and learn more about him. I am so very comfortable when I am around him. I can actually be myself, showing and sharing the deepest part of myself…my deepest secrets… without concern of judgement. He actually seems more intrigued. This is huge for me and sharing myself, my whole self, is extremely important to me. I do well to control my desires, however, I can feel the control quickly slipping away. Needing help to let go of a man I can never have. —Losing control quickly
This article appears in Mar 13-19, 2014.
How do you control it? DON’T EVER SEE HIM AGAIN. By your own words he is attached to someone else. Let it go. There are others you could be just as attracted to out there.
Why not have dinner with him and his wife? It might slow you down a bit to see that she is a real person with feelings.
You are in a tough spot. But if you can’t reign it in…. you need to back way way off and so does he.
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well op, i would suggest you tell him exactly how you feel, as quickly as possible.
2 outcomes.
1. he tells you to get stuffed
2. he leaves his wife and you get stuffed.
Maybe you should ask yourself why you feel you are not worthy of a good man of your own and why you need to mess with someone else’s second-hand garbage? I’m not judging tho. I once messed with a man who was as good as married – he was in a common law relationship. I didn’t know it at the time. But I ain’t no fool, I googled him and found out he had a nice looking woman at home who kept a nice house and raised the dudes kids from a previous relationship AND allowed this barfly to take her car to go out at night trollin for women. He always complained about how horrible she was, how they didn’t sleep together anymore. Of course, it’s cheaper to keep her. This dude wasn’t planing on fucking with a good thing. He was never planning on leaving her….or that nice house, with a built-in babysitter, vehicle to drive… Give all that up to move to a one-bedroom and pay alimony? Don’t beleive the lies of this greedy motherfucker, he is a master manipulator. He is around another woman 24/7 and has likely lived with her for a long time – therefore he knows what women like and how to act to draw women in. He has done this before, you are not the first side-line chick he’s tried out. Here’s the outcome I see happening. You will be too chicken shit to tell this guy to fly the fuck out of your life. You will tell him (and yourself) that you can be friends. You will get drunk together one night when you’re feeling low or ugly and he’s saying all the right things and you’ll say, fuck it and take him to bed. Two minutes of passion from a limp dick middle aged selfish lover and he will roll off of you afterwards and then go home to his wife. You will be left lying in the wet spot alone surrounded by an array of empty beer bottles and a dirty condom on the floor.
OP Run don’t walk far away from him.He‘ll just take from you whatever good he thinks you have to offer him, along with his friends and to get it he/they will promise you the world.Leaving you broken in pieces with no one,nothing,not even an ounce of self respect.