I’m not afraid to tell you I love you

Hey OP, maybe your person doesn’t know when you are available vs unavailable–just a thought. It’s easy to forget that people may not know what’s going on in our lives when we are so smitten we feel connected. People can also put barriers up when they are vulnerable (e.g., single and feeling lonely or afraid for whatever reason; attached but finding themselves into someone else). This works both ways. Are you certain the person that is “playing cruel jokes” is really trying to hurt you, or are they perhaps confused because you give off the vibe that you are into them, and then quickly attach yourself to another person–a clear defence mechanism that would indicate that, while you are into the person you address in this love, you are not quite ready to explore being with him/her. Just a little food for thought…..and if you both really like each other, I do think it’s worth the leap–you may find, though, that you need to communicate your single status and genuine interest more clearly….call or text your person, just to say ‘hey, what’s up’. If he/she responds in a nice OR a neutral way, then dollars to donuts they are still feeling the love and the two of you can try getting to know each other while both of you enjoy the benefits of your mutual attraction, however you agree to do so.

Yeah Boru, that may be it…..but after being on the receiving end of the “I’m into you…oh wait, look at who I’m with now” stick with someone, I do think that OP should be brave enough to take the first step. When I read the post it seemed clear that OP’s person came clean about their feelings, but was met with indecision or fear. It really doesn’t sound like OP has told their person how they feel to their face. When someone goes out on a personal limb (and more than once) and the person they try to connect to acts like they like them but is continually hooking up with other people it can make you feel pushy and dicked around. Who knows Boru, maybe you are one of the few lucky ones that has always had people treat you with honesty and respect. If so, then good for you; but realize, many of us have been burned in nasty ways by people who just got a thrill stringing us along. If OP GENUINELY likes their person, then they need to let them know. The OP’s OP has already done that twice according to this Love. It sounds to me like it is you, Boru who are playing devil’s advocate.