I know the ending was messy (especially for me). I don’t know if you still care or love me… I know you have someone else right now. Some days I hate you for the cruel way you shut me out, but most days I am just sad. We said “I love you” so often and to know that you switched that off so quickly scares me.
You came to me broken and all I wanted was to support and surround you with my love. But I need to shut the door for my own happiness. Because although loving you was the best thing I ever experienced, you hurt me cruelly and without regard for anything but yourself. “Selfish” I think you put it.
There will always be a part of me that will wonder how you are, if you are happy, if you are recovering still. Even though you did bad things, I always believed that you were “good.” I would have loved you forever, if you had just believed in me and in us.
Good luck and good love. Somewhere deep inside I hope you remember our time together with joy. —Grieving But Resilient
This article appears in Sep 13-19, 2012.
We said “I love you” so often and to know that you switched that off so quickly scares me.
Obviously the person never loved you.When a person is truely in love they can’t just switch it off.
depends on your definition of love… and situations can change.
Let’s say someone gets some amazing new job far away and wants to go and I’d rather stay (you can definitely tell this isn’t the ‘real me’ here… I’d be gone in a blazing second).
Because I’m not willing to do ‘anything’ for that person… that alludes that I really can’t say I love them. I may still have all the feelings, but situation-wise that isn’t enough.
I don’t disagree with you Zed, but it doesn’t really sound like that is what the post is about…..Boru, maybe the person never loved OP, or maybe OP’s person loves OP but didn’t understand the type of love they shared when they got together–lust fools us all at one time or another, especially when fuelled by confusing emotions…and good for OP for taking the high road, it makes it easier to heal and helps keep the negative emotional energy in its proper place.
I think when your truely in love with a person,you would follow that person to
anywhere.
SheSang Lust is not love.Wanting to have sex with a person you may genuinely care for isn’t the same as being in love with them.Wanting and needing to enjoy each other through the act of making love.
I would think,when your truely in love, making love with the person would feel so much better than when your having sex with a fuck buddy.
No kidding Boru, but I was pointing out that, while they may love each other, they may not actually have been ‘in-love’… I don’t know where you get the idea that I think love and lust are the same, or that OP and their person were fuck buddies.
Parden me, I didn’t read your comment close enough.
My up stairs neighbour’s are driving me FN nuts.GRRR.
Np Boru–hope your friday shapes up!! If I were Zed I’d have a funny link to share:)–sorry I don’t. But just imagine those upstairs neighbours in a different scenario, one where say, someone has given them an ex-lax laden pan of brownies that they quickly demolished….take it even further, imagine they have no toilet paper either…….don’t wish it on them, but let the mental picture make you chuckle…..;)
Lol…I might go out, anyway.
SheSang Thanks,with your help, I think the assholes upstairs felt my bad vibes,they’re quite now.Or until the other asshole(brothers) comes home drunk and starts an arguement.They’re in the 30’s for christsakes.
I’m really too tired to go out tonight.
Hope it’s a good one anyway Boru:)
OP I don’t know whether you are a male or female but it’s a shame your person wasn’t intouch with her feelings enough to know what she wanted.Perhaps after she left she did realize she wanted you but felt she burned too many bridges to go back to ask for a second chance.
Or,she confused the closeness of sex with you for love, (you did mention she was in recovery).
Shit I don’t know but, it sounds like your still pinning for this person.
Here’s the scenario, he came to her “broken” meaning “rebound” because some chick dumped him. She invested a huge amount of emotional energy into making him her’s. He really did love her for all that attention but he is selfish as he admitted and when he found the real lady for his life, he terminated the current relationship.
She’s nurturer and wishes him the best, that’s her energy. I doubt he’ll ever think of her again. That’s his energy.
I’ve been there before,so that’s why I’m a sucker when it comes to commenting on those posts. I guess I do feel a need to be needed .If I can help anyone by telling them anything about my life and how I dealt with it,I will.
FYI This has nothing to do with me.
I like your avatar Boru!