Dear club goers,
Please wear proper clothing when going downtown! Dressing like a prositute is not classy in any shape, way or form. Wearing shorts or a skirt that barely covers your ass cheeks and in some case does not at all, is very trashy. Wearing a belly top is whorish and if you have a huge gutt then it is just plain wrong. Show some self respect ladies! If you are going out to meet someone and it’s fairly obvious you are trying to “dress to impress,” then you are sending out the wrong message intirely. Unless of course you are looking for a one night hook-up. Anyone dressed like a stripper is not very likely going to find a good quality partner, if you are not leaving anything to the imagination.
When walking downtown at night lately it feels like I am walking through a giant strip club with the way the women are dressed. Stumbling down the street half naked it not attractive and it is only going to attract the wrong kind of attention! There is such a thing as dressing sexy without being half naked or looking like a porn star!
If it is freezing cold outside and you are wearing a mini-skirt and tube top, you just look silly. I feel sorry for you and your cold body. Although, perhaps your intoxication will help to warm your body which is just sad in itself.
If you bend over and your ass crack or thong is hanging out, please do us all a favor and wear proper undergarmets to avoid un-nessecary exposure. It is just plain nasty and very un-classy! No one needs to see that.
If your going to wear a completely see through shirt and just a bra underneath you just look one thing and that is..trashy! Would you leave the house in just a bra? Same difference. If someone is hitting on you when you are dressed like that, my guess is its only, because you look like your practically giving it away.
One last thing, please DO NOT post pictures of yourself on any social media’s: drinking, drunk or not properly clothed! It is just asking for preators and pervs. Your chances of finding and maintaining employment, will most likely suffer from this. Employer’s do check these things and seeing pictures of you half nude and/or in-toxicated, is not going to win any brownie points!! —Discusted Citizen
This article appears in Sep 19-25, 2013.
Did you just wake up from a 20 year coma, gramps?
Get a life OP, you need another way to feel better about yourself than shaming other people. I can’t believe you spent time actually writing all this out. 😛 One way to spend a weekend, I guess.
Shut up shut up shut up shut up.
Stop policing people’s bodies. These women aren’t dressing up for you, and maybe they aren’t dressing this way for “good quality partners”. Maybe, and I know this comes as a shock to you, they are dressing this way for themselves? Because they want to? Have you considered that? Women don’t exist to please you, whether you’re a man or a woman, and the amount of clothing someone wears has no fucking bearing on how much self respect a person has.
Let people do what makes them happy. If you don’t want to see people dressed in skimpy outfits then don’t go to bars, don’t go to clubs, don’t go on the computer, don’t even go outside your front door. Just shut your curtains and hide under the covers and shut your eyes.
The human body is a beautiful thing and society has conditioned you to believe that it is something to be ashamed of, but not everyone feels that way, and unfortunately for you they are not going to bow down because you are uncomfortable looking at it.
You disgust me.
Points to Tribute for spelling “disgust” correctly, something which our Talibumfuck OP couldn’t manage to pull off.
http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-xKQYf3pAu8Q/UESU…
You’re grammer is not viry classy.
OP, if you don’t like the way people dress when they go to ‘da club’ and it really bothers you that much…then…DON’T GO TO THE CLUB. Haters gon hate.
I know I may not be the biggest anti-slut shaming advocate cause I believe people could exercise a bit more modesty these days, with their junk…however, I am a big supporter of peoples rights to dress/act/talk the way they want so long as they aren’t hurting anyone. OP is a prude.
Are these the type of women that would benefit from consent pads?
I couldn’t tell ya.
mandatory dress code for ladies is looking like street whores, while the men must dress like they are going to star in their own hip hop music video.
Gangsters and Whores….
Right-on Hoist….and we’ll said by both yourself and Tribute, especially.
@SirMeowaLot: you are viry funny ;D
A woman can dress as sluttily as she wants and if she wants to walk in the middle of a maximum security prison that way, who are we to stop her.
Atta boy Tim.
So, what you’re actually saying is that downtown Halifax is the equivalent to a maximum security penitentiary and that if women dress in revealing clothes they are bound to be assaulted but it’s their fault for being there in the first place.
Feminists annoy me but not as much as you do. This coming from the guy who told GDM “Trust me, you would want me on your side” in the even that she was sexually assaulted.
Fuck you bud.
http://24.media.tumblr.com/a7b47b6f49e1cc3…
Oh my goodness the slut shaming that goes on in this town is getting old.
Women are not responsible for sexual assault, regardless of what they are wearing. Are they inviting men to look? Sure. Are they asking to be victims of “predators and pervs?” No.
Here’s the thing: by saying that a woman is inviting pervs and predators you are saying that women are forcing men to commit acts of sexual violence because men are so unevolved that they can’t control their sexual impulses.
Really?
Women should not be made to feel guilty or responsible for how others perceive them. Period. If a woman wants to go clubbing in a mini skirt and no panties, that’s her prerogative. Women are sexual creatures too and trying to make women fee guilty for expressing their sexuality in this day and age is ridiculous.
Yes, Cate. There is no other way to express your “sexuality” than having your pantyless ass and pussy hanging at or lower than the hem of their mini-skirts. How will anyone know that you are sexual beings if everyone can’t see your junk? Does this mean that I can wear clothes that don’t fully cover my cock and balls? That’s not greazzy? I feel sorry for all you females with the lack of imagination and class it takes to HAVE to dress like sluts to get the attention you crave.
“…women are forcing men to commit acts of sexual violence because men are so unevolved that they can’t control their sexual impulses” – The Captain has encountered some fairly unevolved men in this city (big surprise, right?!), and some equally unevolved women. You think these nefarious characters (the unevolved men, in this case) are somehow going to be responsible for their actions?! You. Are. Silly.
No one is saying that women shouldn’t be able to dress how they want (it would be great if everyone could dress however they pleased). We’re just trying to tell you that the girl’s who don’t wear any clothing downtown (the unevolved women, in The Captain’s opinion) will have a greater potential of being approached, or assulted, by one of these unevolved males.
This is the exception, not the rule. Most of the time anyone goes downtown there’s no problem, and near nakedness doesn’t inhibit the joy of an evening out on the town.
The Captain actively discourages aberrant behavior, especially in men, so it’d be nice to see if more women discouraged other women from behavior that could put them in danger (like heavily under-dressing and consuming vast quantities of alcohol). And frankly, Cate, your attitude, although admirable, will not solve the problem, it’ll only protest it while simultaneously perpetuating it.
“Are they inviting men to look? Sure. Are they asking to be victims of “predators and pervs?” No.” – This line from you post was especially discouraging. “Sure! We’ll promote a heavily sexualized culture with a major focus on the female body! Just give us a sec to take our clothes off 🙂 Just don’t you fucking dare have any sexy-time thoughts about it!”
When you dress like a clown people will expect you to make them laugh.
Thanks for the advice Cate! Next time I go clubbing I’m wearing an old pair of gym shorts so that my balls hang out the bottom. If anyone is offended its because they don’t want me to express my sexuality.
I hope nobody gropes me!!!
fool
So op tell me. What’s your problem? Are you old or fat? WHat’s wrong op? Didn’t age well and now nobody looks at you anymore? Or wait! Maybe you’re a dude who just can’t get laid and is feeling a little bitter.
Maybe, just maybe op, I have been a victim of assault. I’m not saying i have or haven’t but i’m saying let’s assume. I don’t dress slutty. I don’t lay it out for all to see.
Predators don’t prey on people because of how they’re dressed, you old, fat, jealous creep. They prey on people that look like easy targets. An easy target is usually alone, often timid, willing to lend a hand to a “helpless” person in a dark alley. A friend. A family member. In fact, did you know that most MOST assaults are committed by someone the victim TRUSTS?
And by the way, it’s spelled disgusted. as in “I am disgusted at your flagrant abuse of the English language and its punctuation.” Talk about slutty, you’re tricking that apostrophe out all over town…
Fuck… Why don’t you put some of that angry, bitter energy into developing some literacy skills?
Employer’s (Employers in English) also have no interest in hiring someone with zero literacy skills.
Well done, TheGreatBatShit, you’ve presented the case in a much more diplomatic form than The Captain managed.
‘Easy targets’ is much more acceptable than ‘Girls dressed like sluts’
There’s two ladies standing at the bar; One lady is wearing jeans and a turtleneck, the other lady is wearing… a small piece of cloth (I think it’s still called a ‘dress’, but it borders uncomfortably close to ‘kerchief’ nowadays). Which one is the ‘easy target’?
Whats a synonym for ‘slut shaming’?
Constructive criticism
I’m a fool, I posted that on the wrong thread. Zoops!
Back to the home, Nanny!
captain, either of them could be an easy target. It all depends on a lot of factors. Is one alone? Is one more likely to trust the approaching predator than the other? Is one drunker than the other? Does the predator know either person? Does one person fit his victim profile? (and yes. Serial psychos have profiles)
By the logic of the op, children must be asking to be victims of pedophiles too… Since, by his or her assertion, people get violated because they’re whorey.
True, GreatBatshit. The Captain lacked the foresight to anticipate your answering of the question like a thinking, developed human being… Well done
But, from the ignorant perspective of an alcohol fueled, testosterone driven, young male adult – the lady in the turtleneck wouldn’t even show up as a blip on the radar. So, the list of potential mates for the night grows narrower…
I can assure you that the average douche bag at the bar does not run your list of questions thought their mind before approaching someone. Usually the only thought is of looking as suave and cool as possible, and scoring as much tail as possible. There’s no empathetic thoughts of what the outcomes will be, or how selfish behavior can upset other person.
It’s all for booty, or it’s all for naught’
A LABIAL THONG?
“If you bend over and your ass crack or thong is hanging out, please do us all a favor and wear proper undergarments to avoid un-necessary (sic) exposure.” Discusted Citizen
Of course, what the women are doing here is to test the attractiveness of their bodies on the relevant males so the phrase “unnecessary exposure” is incoherent. On the contrary, what is required is maximum exposure. May I suggest a labial thong? In addition to her ass crack or (ass) thong hanging out – does an ass-thong hang out? – depending on the degree attained while bending over, her magnificent labia cradled in her labial thong would come into view. I think that this requires further consideration from the downtown ladies.
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
Captain sure! I’ll not deny for a second that a woman who puts thought into her appearance and dresses for the occasion gets attention.
No question there.
But male attention doesn’t equal rape or assault.
You should think more of your gender than that.. Rapists are psychos. Men who hit on cute women? Are normal. Healthy. Even if they get a little stupid, that doesn’t equal assault. It usually just equals that annoying guy who wont’ stop talking about his car or something.
If you think of attacking a person (and i speak of the GENERAL you here, not you captain..) for ANY reason that you deem an excuse, you need help. Serious help. Or you’ll end up in jail someday. Do you know what they do to rapists in jail? THEY RAPE THEM.
And all men everywhere need to remember this:
A guy once in a bar got angry at me because i wasn’t interested. He said “Why would you dress like that if you don’t want attention?”
I said “Sir, I’m sorry, there has been some confusion. You see, I DO want attention. Just not from you.”
Oh dear…
I wasn’t referring to ALL men, just specifically the ones who would commit an assault. Furthermore it’s got nothing to do with ‘male attention’, its attention from predators that you need to worry about.
“You should think more of your gender than that…” – Get real! I’m an individualist, I don’t give a shit about someones gender. I only care about how someone treats others and themselves.
“Men who hit on cute women? Are normal. ” What a divine revelation. Thank you for that. The Captain has been operating under completely different intel this whole time.
Captain, didn’t you read MM’s post about a woman’s “default position? You have angered the weaker sex on this issue, now they have thrown all common sense out the window and have nothing but hate to spew now.
**that was sarcasm**
“weaker sex” – Uh-oh Shitty-D, they’re not gonna like that.
I thought they were the “fairer sex” anyways?
Wait… aren’t “fairer sex” and “weaker sex” equally as sexist comments? I think so…
How about the “Equal sex”?! No… they won’t like being compared to men. That’ll never do…
What kind of sex are they??? The Captain is running out of labels to apply…
It’s just the new students going out. For the first time in their lives, no one is telling them what NOT to wear. More clothes will be worn as the weather gets colder, so relax.
Except for halloween, no amount of cold will limit the skin exposure….
While I know that I said earlier in this thread that I support peoples rights to wear/say/act the way they like so long as they aren’t hurting anybody, I did not consider the possibility of seeing fool’s scrotum and retract my comment.
I’m torn between appreciating how some of these girls put it all out there for me to view on the weekends. I appreciate the propped up cleavage and how they act like porn stars on parade. I also feel a bit sad, shocked and hope that my daughters never feel like they have to try so hard for attention and respect themselves more.
I can’t say if they are competing with their peers, or if the media has them convinced that they need to be the next sexy Miley Cyrus train wreck. I feel fortunate to be a man and not have to decide what the balance is between looking good and looking desperate for attention.
HfxFR makes an interesting point, although I don’t think it’s that women “need attention”. Attention seeking is part of a natural biological process in which people try to attract sexual partners. In order to find a sexual partner, one needs to stand out. I do believe that women (and men) lack the confidence to find a sexual partner by expressing their sexuality in a way that is internally consistent (i.e. not driven by outside expectations of the opposite sex). This in turn, plays a role in setting expectations regarding sexual expression and sexual activity. Because men play a large role in setting expectations regarding female sexuality, sexual expression for women is likely to occur in a gender-deviant manner. This is a problem for men and for women, and not one to be overlooked by, or clouded in, the zealous waves of “rape culture” opposition.
The problem of sexuality and confidence, or lack thereof, has to do with the way society dictates how women are expected to express their sexuality. Certain sub-genres of feminism, what I would like to call neo-liberal feminism, suggests that sexuality takes all shapes and forms. This risks viewing any given expression as rational and unconstrained by social norms.
It is possible that the way women express their sexuality is driven by conventional doctrines about what constitutes female attractiveness. This, more often than not, is dictated by men. Therefore, the scantily clad neo-liberal feminist is simply duped into the illusion of a liberated expression, when the reality is that of a gender-deviant sexual expression. This may be effective in attracting partners, but likely likely bad for setting expectations regarding sexual activity. In other words,the scantily clad woman may be trading off quality for quantity. The men they partner with may go into the act of sex with the partial expectation that her physical presentation will propagate into her sexual actions (that a girl dressed like a porn star has sex like a porn star). Perhaps the woman feels pressured to walk the walk.
Contrast this to a world where the scantily-clad woman now has confidence to express their sexuality in an internally consistent manner, without any risk of losing out on her desired male partner. Then, she would be able to have sex without altering her partner’s sexual expectations, thus avoiding any distortions in the sexual experience. The woman no longer subjugates herself to her male partner’s sexual desires.
So, my view is that “rape culture” is bad, but it is also a bit of a red herring. The over-zealous wave of anti-rape crusading potentially overlooks broader societal problems that contribute to the extent of rape culture. The impact of “rape culture” on rape is confounded by societal norms regarding appropriate sexual expression, and their consequent effects on sexual experience, which can range from consensual to non-consensual sex. It is therefore harmful to adopt a neo-liberal attitude that all sexual expression is equivalent to an expression of free will and not subject to constraints on free will that partly contribute to sexual inequalities.
Does the way women dress contribute to rape? Maybe, but only in part (rape happens to women who dress conservatively, and female sub-groups that are not heavily sexualized by men, i.e. old ladies). Are women to blame for being raped based on how they dress? Most definitely not. The solution to rape should not involve blanketing women in more conservative attire. It should begin by teaching boys and girls at a young age what is an appropriate way to seek attention.
Captain…
“(it would be great if everyone could dress however they pleased)”
and hoist along the same lines…
You take that back.
We need some form of civility… without it would be chaos.
I’d give it a day and a half before the thoughts of tearing out my retinas started to creep in.
I mean, who knows… maybe your elementary school 3rd grade teacher wants to wear nothing but sneakers and a cock ring to work.
My third grade teacher was HOT.
zZz, I don’t particularly support the ‘slut cutlure’ or whatever you want to call it but I think putting limitations on what people can wear is stupid and kinda Talibany. Nanny-state at the very least. Living in a free country means people can dress how they want.
Sir Meowsalot, you are smart.