This time a month ago, I had a girlfriend and a job. Now I have neither. Fuck my life.
Here is what happened: my girlfriend of 2 years dumped me a month ago. I didn’t take it very well in the least bit, after all it was 2 years that we were together. I took off three days from work because I was so devastated. I went back on the fourth day, but all I kept thinking about was her. I couldn’t concentrate on the job so my boss, who knew what happened, told me to go home and take the rest of the week off. I was still missing her even after a couple of weeks went by. This was affecting my performance on the job, so I took Thurs and Friday off of the third week (since the day I was dumped) as sick days. When the following Monday was approaching, I originally thought I wouldn’t have to take any more time off, but that Sunday I saw my ex-gf out at a pub with some other guy! That set me off the edge, so I got hammered that night, and called in sick once more. Cherry on top of the cake-my boss tells me not to come back! I pleaded with him not to fire me and that I was going through a tough time. The insensitive asshole told me I should have gotten over it by now, I was dumped, move on, there are other women out there, I was fucking up at work so I needed to be replaced, etc. Dude, have you ever been dumped by a girl you loved? Apparently not, because you would have been empathetic and showed some support while I came to terms with it. It was only a month ago! What a shoddy way to treat your employees. I busted my ass for you, I was a top-notch worker who just came across a rough patch.
Later on I listen as my mom and my best buddy take the side of the dickhead. She was my fucking world! Now, not only is she gone, I’m left to go look for a job.
So here I am: Thirty-two, single, with no job, and no support from anyone. FUCK. —Down on my luck
This article appears in Nov 28 – Dec 4, 2013.
Crappy. But three weeks to get over the worst of it, enough to muck up your work?
Wahhh poor wittle baby! Your girlfriend dumped you, it’s not like your mommy died. It was a month ago! Move on, there are other pussies out there to eat. Your boss had a business to run, your hurt pansy feelings are the last thing he’s worried about.
I side with the “dickhead” boss.
Boss was more than understanding; giving you a few days.
A tough breakup sucks, nothing but time will get you past it.
Boss has a job to do as well.
I think we know who the dickhead is.
Whatever you do, don’t search for a new gal online. From the stories we’ve seen posted here, you’re SOL on POF.
I talked to HR early on after and they told me to be sure not to let my work slide because I’d be making my life twice as hard if I lost my job as well…
I believe it.
Though (and people know I’m NOT a glass half full kinda guy so you’d better appreciate this…)
now you truly have your own new chapter to start. Nothing from work will remind you, nothing home will remind you… just run away to a new city and start your new life.
That’s my advice.
Oh, and 2 years is barely a start bud….
32? Time to put on your big boy pants, sure it sucked you got dumped and saw her with another guy etc but that isn’t your boss’s problem, seems like he did more then most boss’s would.
Your “asshole” boss gave you a lot more time off than most bosses would have. You lost your job because of decisions YOU made. He didn’t tell you to get drunk, YOU did that yourself. I’ve been dumped and yeah it hurts, but life goes on. Your ex didn’t cause you to lose your job, YOU did.
You should talk to my hubby – when he was 34 years old, he lost his girlfriend to his best friend, his long-term job and his mother confessed to him the man who he thought was his dad wasn’t – all happened in the week leading up to Christmas. He hit bottom and fell apart, cried for days, drank himself into a stupor – after a couple of weeks of this, he knew he couldn’t continue to wallow in self pity – there was only one way to go and that was up. Had that not happened, he wouldn’t have found 30 years of happiness with moi. When one door closes, OP, another usually opens.
Well, you could eat someones shithole … yes, it is actually on offer here today, and with a face full of arse you wouldn’t need anything else.
^^^Yeah, but in Halifax, (some/most?) guys won’t do that, remember?
Some of the girls I’ve dated…I was so happy to see them leaching off another sucker…um, I mean guy.
Oh for fuck sake.
lol
OB, you must have the mental age of a 15 year old.
look at it this way op, you’ll be so busy looking for a job you won’t have time to think about whatshername
So you made a series of bad choices.
I’m sorry dude. You’re old enough to know that you can’t use a breakup as an excuse to just blaze a trail of chaos.
It’s too bad what happened but all i see here is someone blaming everyone else for a series of asinine fuckups.
You’z a 32 year old man? Rully? You sound like a 20 year old rom-com bitch, still believing in love. Love don’t put money in yo wallet and food in ya belly, does it? Get your ass to work. You wanna stay home for weeks on end playin’ dem video games, then wonder why you fired? Wonder why your momma won’t give you some handouts? You’z a grown lazy sack of shit. Even if I wuz dumped da night before, I still go to work. Even if ya gotta go to the bathroom to cry for 5 minutes, (in my case, punch a hole in da wall), you still show up for work. Gotta make dis paper, fool!
32 is the new 15? Who the fuck are you Joachim Stroink?
Making her your fucking world was your first mistake. People come and go. Shure it hurts, but when it affects you to the point it has tells me you depended too much on her to make your world.
You deserve it your boss gave you wayyy more leash than i would of. I can’t believe you got any days off.
You abused sick time OP you’re lucky the company you worked for doesn’t sue your pathetic excuse for a man ass. Grow a set and get over it. I was dumped by a girl I loved for almost 5 years, on the day I was started at a new job, I still put on my big boy pants and went into the work that day.
Is it any wonder this guy got dumped?
And to top it off, ob has no sweet clue. You took advantage of your boss’s generosity and HE’S the dick?
Give your head a shake, ob.
id have fired you for being a crybaby pussy. time to reach down and pull the nuts out of your stomach and put them in the sac they were meant for. First things first, if you put that little effort into your work when your love life went tits up, then its no wonder your love life went tits up. this is the snot nosed milquetoast generation we have bred our society into….bet they are hardcore emo too….darwinism should be working faster on these people.
Holy shit, I actually agree with Brawdove! I’d be totally empathetic to your situation if this were a death in the family, or even your girlfriend’s death. But really? A breakup? Yeah that sucks, but get back to work! You called in sick way too many times so I don’t blame your boss for canning you. A breakup with a GF of only two years fucks you up with work that much, you STILL can’t concentrate after a month? Are you sure you’re not only TWENTY-two?
Joachin Stroink? Just call me ol’ Biscuit Pete!
#fuckaljolson
I didn’t miss a single day after my husband left me. I’m not heartless but I had a child to take care of. I think this has to be a joke post cause no adult should think for one second that their employer should be that understanding to excuse missed day after missed day.