Your whole life is committed to children, the entire time I’ve known you that has been your goal, to be a mother. He says he doesn’t love you, doesn’t want to marry you and does not want any more kids. Why, after this, would you keep him living in your house, buy him a truck and continue to support him? —We Can’t Be Friends Anymore
This article appears in Mar 18-24, 2010.
Walk, no, RUN away from that love leech loser – ‘friends’ like that can suck the marrow out of a person, including any unfortunate male she’s set her crosshairs to. It’s a damn shame she feels that procreation is her only goal in life. This needy cow will do to her children what she does to her friends – alienate them.
Some female doesn’t like her female friend’s boyfriend…
Oh. My.
Has anyone called Ripley’s?
…but she loves him ssooooooooooo much!
buy me a new dodge ram 2500, and i’ll take over the job, in a flash.
breeder.
I’d stay around, at least for a bit, if some girl bought me a new truck! I remember there was a Fresh Prince of Belaire episode about a similar situation. Will didn’t really like this kind of nerdy girl he was seeing, but she kept buying him nice things to keep him around. Girl I’m seeing, maybe, kind of… I don’t know, anyway, she has no money but bakes me nice things. Best way to a man’s heart is through his stomach!
I can see your frustration OP… wanting your friend to be happy and watching her throw any chance for that away. I am interested to know if this friend already has children. Cause then we’re dealing with a whole other monster… There is nothing worse than subjecting children to this kind of irresponsibility. I only hope she comes to her senses and realizes that there are many more out there who could make her happier. And we’ll give LS #1 in the waiting room…haha.
Op, it’s your friends bf, and no amount of bitching about him to her is going to help. If you just don’t like him, well suck it up buttercup, cause it’s her life and her choices.
However, if he is actually treating her badly, and you find her constantly coming to you in tears that’s a diff story.
Voice you concern to her about him. Tell her that you don’t think that he is good for her and that if she is going to make the decision to stay with him, that you will still be her friend and support her, but that you will NOT support her coming to you every time shit hits the roof in her relationship.
Then, hang out with her, be her friend, but if she brings up something the boyfriend is doing that is bothering her stop the discussion. Tell her that she knows how you feel about the relationship, and that if she is going to make the decision to stay with him, that it’s going to have to be her own decisions and she is going to have to live with the repercussions of it. If and when she makes the decision to leave him, make sure you are there for her, it will be a tough time for her and she will need the support.
I had a friend that was in an abusive relationship, the relationship went on for years, and she was constantly coming to us in tears every time something happened. We had tried everything to try and make her see how bad this guy was for her. Fuck we were even going to have an intervention with pamphlets showing the signs of abusive men and everything. Nothing worked, but when we did the above, they finally broke up..and she hasn’t looked back. She had to figure shit out on her own, and when she did she was ready to move on.
For the record, if she is actually getting abused..I’d look into getting professional help. But that’s just me.
Wow… you go Dr. Phillys…. now I know who I am coming to anytime I need advice on anything… HAHA. Great suggestions though…
Dear The Coast
Could you please change the name of Love the Way we Bitch to Love the Way Everyone Joins Hands and gives one Another Cheesy Cliché Relationship Advice?
Hay, I think one of my good friends’ boyfriend is a scuzbucket who should probably go fuck himself with a sharp, splintery, pointy stick, but she’s OMG SO IN LOVE WITH HIM that there’s no point in bringing up the fact that I think he’s a jerkface, because in the end they’ll always side with the loser bf and that kind of drama is just a waste of time.
If you REALLY can’t stand it, then don’t be her friend anymore — I totally understand that. I know I hang out with this particular friend A LOT less because I just can’t STAND her loser BF. He gives me the definite willies, but it’s just not worth it to voice such opinion (because nothing you can say will convince someone in love with someone else that they should leave them — trust me, I’ve been in love with a scuzbucket or two in my time and nothing anyone could say would make me leave them/fall out of love with them…even though I cognitively knew they sucked ass in the grand scheme of things).