To the parents who can’t keep their noses out of their children’s business, who attack their children’s significant others because it threatens their power over them, whose drug and alcohol abuse ruin events, whose passive-agressive behavior have turned my life into a hell, please behave civilly, or if you can’t, just leave us alone.
To my partner, please grow up get the stones to tell your parents what their behavior is doing to our life
—Tiredofthedrama
This article appears in Jun 11-17, 2009.
Good times..I was given the advice that when you are marrying or seriously involved with a guy (or girl) you are marrying his parents. I take that advice to heart. Crazy parents are a no for me.
If they were my parents I would write them a letter outlining exactly what they are doing that needs to stop and exactly what they have to do to make it better. I’d tell them not to visit or call until they are ready to make a conscience effort to have a civil relationship with me and my SO. Then I’d ignore every attempt to contact me they’d make until I was sure they were sincere. Parents, especially the ones that meddle, usually want to stay in contact with their kids. I’d make it clear that it was either contact on my terms, or no contact at all.
But that’s just me.
Amen.
FA’s advice is bang on. I know of a few situations where the “in laws” have caused a multitude of problems. The WORST are mothers who can’t let go of their “little boys” and treat their SO like shit because they’re jealous they’re “taking their son away from [them].”
Sad, really.
THanks for this bitch. Until today I never realised I had met the perfect woman 5 years ago, when we decided to become partners…her parents were dead.
Eliminate them
Beware the wife who states: Don’t make me choose between you and my family… You’ll lose…
Oh, that would be my ex-wife now… we both lost…
Run for the fucking hills and find yourself a nice orphan dude. Nasty in-laws don’t go away and ultimatiums don’t work either.
There’s also the flip side – YOU have a problem with the in-laws and YOU want the hubby to get some goolies – perhaps it’s YOU that’s the problem. Just a thought
This sounds exactly like my situation…
My solution is that I’m moving far enough away from them.