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To the oh so adorable, music store employee in HSC, who wears the orange skinny jeans and has the grooviest hair… I can’t help but have a total 7th grade crush on you. —I Want You *Blushing*
This article appears in Apr 14-20, 2011.
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i wrote this, hehe, and i forgot to mention…im the girl who keeps buying headphones and returning them. NOT on purpose…i honestly can’t find a good pair that are reasonably priced. damn me and my cheap ass…
URBANEARS babe. They are so pretty and sound great! Go to HMV and get a pair.
http://www.urbanears.com/headphones
I rock the the Plattan. Can’t complain!
Oh, forgot to mention the plattans fold up tiny so they’re great for travel.
Wellll I sound like a commercial lol
Oh and The zound (not a typo) plug, amazing.
… … my bad I can’t help it!!!
but good luck with your cutie!!! 😀
ha ha, aw’shucks! thanks donk :o)
my cutie doesn’t even know i exist *sadness*
oh well, its my own fault. and heyyyyyy he works @ HMV 😉 so imma’ definitly look for those headphones you suggested!!! i guess anything is better than the crap ones that come with ipods, gahh. i sh-pose it’s about time i invest in a good pair!
thanks again donk 😀
I’m so totally groovy…..
http://lookbook.nu/files/looks/large/78026…
orange jeans? really? what do you like????
baha i know, i have random taste. you wouldn’t think to look at me. (i am usually tres feminine/girly, with a hint of vintage *love*) i hate to admit, but i like the indie-rock/hipster look on SOME guys. and THIS particular guy pulls it off quite nicely. my friends make fun of me. AND he said “groovy” to me…i ALWAYS say “groovy”…*sigh* im in lust and i sound like such a girl right now! okay, go ahead, make fun 😛
ps. i also have a thing for cute surfer/snowboarding type dudes! *giggles*
I was certain this was a guy writing about another guy. I’m with Z…orange skinny jeans? really?
pff, we all have our own desired taste ya’ll. not like neon orange…just a nice shade of orange. ha. i’d take a cute hippy type dude over some preppy prepster ANYDAY! and im a youngster, gimme a break 😛
Awww I <3 you, smurf!
Whatever you do: DON’T BRING HIM LIQUID REFRESHMENT OF ANY KIND.
Find an obsecure CD or dvd that you KNOW they don’t have or carry. THEN go in and ask HIM if they have it and he’ll help you and you can just start making small talk and VOILA! Make sure you ask for his name (if you don’t know it already) and then introduce yourself and then leave, but before you do say “well, thanks for all your help *insert guy’s name here* have a great day!” in a totally flirty, but non ditzy tone. Maybe with a long blink of your eyes (like instead of blinking fast just ever so slightly hold your eyes closed when you say it — and make sure you look him in the face). And then leave. Wait for a bit (as to not seem too eager or desperate — maybe a week or so?) and come back and chat him up again with another DVD you’re looking for (except this time make sure it’s there and one you want), and then casually throw your last interaction in there. Shows you remember him, and it gives him a frame of reference to remember you by.
Do this one more time and then just get out with it and say “hay, when’s your shift over?” and then when he tells you, ask if he’d like to get some coffee with you. And voila!
You MAY, though, want to see if he’s attached first. Like, in the last interaction, compliment him on something and say “your gf must really like that!” and if he has one he’ll say “yes, she does” and if he doesn’t he’ll say “I don’t have a gf” or something. If you get no response or an awkward-type one, he’s likely gay. Ask about his shift/coffee if he says he doesn’t have a gf. 🙂
Oh, and whatever you do, don’t cross your arms during any interaction with him. Roll one arm outward so your palm/inside of your elbow is facing out and hold your lower arm up at a 90 degree angle casually with your wrist loose. Place the other arm right at your side. That gives an inviting body language impression. Folding arms gives the impression that you’re closed off.
*wrist loose and fingers casually and loosely curled
LOL @ “DON’T BRING HIM LIQUID REFRESHMENT OF ANY KIND” ohhh PK, that made my day!
i will be sure not to. i would probably be too nervous and shake-y to do something like that anyway, AND i couldn’t deal with such rejection *winkwink*. i hope barista girl isnt reading this. lol.
BUT i just had a terrifying thought…what if he is **seriously doubt it** reading this! :O …meh…
your advice is wonderfully awesome, you have it down to every last detail! it cracked me up. now that you mention it, i am really bad at making eye contact…i’ll hafta work on that :/
my friend also works in the area (where he works) so i asked her to “creep” him for me, she has GREAT ‘gay-dar’ so hopefully she has a non-gay verdict (no offense to anyone) for moi! but i’m not going to get my hopes up er anything.
what should i wear??? lol ;P
ps. sorry to sound so freaking girly *rollseyes*
Das weird, and a lot of work, just say “wanna bone?” if he says no, walk away, if he says yes … say “not that easyyyyy”… and then you start your convo.
I say go vag out … that’s great body language!
bahaha, i’ll be like, “you’s hawt, let’s sex”
this is so childish of me, im mildly ashamed!
whatev.
oh, i am not in 7th grade btw…incase i confused anyone. im not in any grade…technically 🙂
===ps. sorry to sound so freaking girly *rollseyes*===
You’re a doll.
Be mellow. Take a chance. What do you have to lose?
Good luck!
Love is very lovely! – U-Roy
thank ya, thank ya, wheeliep 🙂
an yer so right!
you all rawk *hearts*
Throw in some boobage in with donk’s “vag out” look and you’re set.
PS: don’t worry a thing about being all girly! Everyone gets that giddy feeling when they’ve got someone they “like.” Even my almost-30-years-old ass 🙂 (though. a good friend I got together with the other night for dinner asked me if I was 12, soooo…. heh heh.)
“Oh, and whatever you do, don’t cross your arms during any interaction with him. Roll one arm outward so your palm/inside of your elbow is facing out and hold your lower arm up at a 90 degree angle casually with your wrist loose. Place the other arm right at your side. That gives an inviting body language impression. Folding arms gives the impression that you’re closed off.”
what stupid copy of Cosmo did you read that in?
you should be fine being yourself so long as you aren’t all tense…. looking wired….
I didn’t read that in cosmo. I got that idea from an academic article I read a while back while doing a soc/psych paper on body language, and I did some other studies in my Comms degree on body language in the communications process.
You may SAY something, but it’s the non-verbal cues that people can pick up on. Even the way you have your arms folded, for example, can give the impression that you’re putting a wall up between you and the person you’re communicating with.
I’m actually considering persuing academic grad studies on this as opposed to a masters in a professional discipline because I find non-verbal communications fascinating, and I already have a basis for a dissertation in mind.
So yah.
haha^
i get rly anxious, so it’s hard to be myself, sometimes.
Z, i just read your bio, jeeezuz where did you find a tongue friggin’ twister like that?! i like it.
PK, people often think im 12 also. it’s my petite frame and short stature. im 22…and destined to be ID’d fo’ life, but it’s all gravy baby! 😀
LOL, my friend, I think, asked me if I was 12 to imply that it was a maturity defect 😛
He also said I’m judgemental because I said that NGF was fat and that I swear a lot. And I mean it’s true: I do swear a lot, but I’m not being judgemental: Fat is fat. I’m simply stating facts. Am I supposed to be miss susie sunshine all the damn time and not point out the obvious? How can someone be judgemental when they only point out facts? *sigh* Fuck I hate people who hate on others when they’re not 100% positive and optimistic and think the world is nothing but cupcakes and sunshine alllll the damn time.
But whateves.
I look young too. I’m short and I have a small frame, but alas I’m fat, so it ain’t because I’m petite. heh.
My face just looks young 🙂
PK what kind of work would you get with that kind of masters degree? Purely wondering in general?
Smurf – do your thing – be yourself – if he’s into you then you’ll have an idea by the way he interacts with you. If you put this my pressure and thought into it then it won’t be natural and the build up will ruin it.
If I did an academic masters I’d likely follow up with a PhD and teach. I’ve ALWAYS wanted to teach at the university level. I’d probably focus on communication theory and use my background in soc to teach in both soc and comm studies, with maybe a little bit of rhetoric studies. My ethics prof in my last degree did rhetorics and took me aside one day to tell me how much promise I had. I was so flattered because he’s one of the two most brilliant profs i’ve ever experienced. 🙂
I agree about being natural… I’m just merely suggesting a game plan to come up with situations to talk to this guy!
She’s lucky he’s in a position where she’d get to talk to him. THe boy on the bus… I have absolutely no reason to talk to him or vice verse so I don’t think I’ll ever have the chance to even hear what his voice sounds like 😛
I would have loved to teach our generation but not the little shits that are in High school and University now. Respect for teachers and learning was lost somewhere in the last 10 years. I hope “we” all raise our kids right and they stop thinking everything is a right and not a privilege.
Good luck with those degrees – they sound super interesting.
firstly… Pinky and the Brain
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eIu4fP4fOHE
“You may SAY something, but it’s the non-verbal cues that people can pick up on.”
while I agree with you, trying to alter your behavior isn’t really going to get you anywhere…
I mean are you going to remember to do that all the time from then on? likely not, so why bother.
I can see decent applications for those studies, particularly for the deaf.
They have that primarily to rely on.
Thanks, RC! I have the same theory that we see how shitty the current tweens/teens are ane we’re going to do all we can to avoid our kids becoming like those ones and they’ll be awesome like we were.
I’d have no problems teaching today’s generation, to be honest. I’d just model my classes after some of the profs I admired the most. They weren’t afraid to get someone kicked out for cheating and they weren’t afraid to kick someone out of class for talking. I’d also have a cell phone rule: you’ll be asked to leave and you’ll have a percentage taken off your marks. And if your phone rings during an evaluation you’ll get an automatic zero on it. No extensions, either. And grade grubbers will not be tolerated. I wouldn’t be an asshole out of meanness, I’d be an asshole out of concern — tough love, I guess.
ANYWAY…
I’m not saying alter your behaviour all the time — just be mindful to keep from closing yourself off while trying to attract someone. There’s A LOT of noise in the communications channel (external and internal), so it’s best to be as straightforward as possible, and where it gets tricky is when people rely on the non verbal. It doesn’t even have to be body language. Saying something and then DOING something else can speak more than what you actually said.
For instance, you meet up with someone who has obviously been crying (non verbal cue) and you ask them if they’re alright and they say everything is cupcakes and sunshine. Obviously you know it isn’t.
And I think this applies to any situation: in the professional world, interpersonal relationships, etc…. We all do it, but we don’t ever notice until we think about it. Kind of like how people blink but don’t even remember/realize they’re doing it until they think about it.
I’d like to do an MA in that someday. Something interdisciplinary as my major/field.
maybe it is… they like hot sauce and accidentally rubbed their eyes after touching a butch-t
hey, it could happen….
Yeah and maybe they got some ejaculatory fluid shot in their eye.
Chances are, they were crying.
It’d be both….
I know I’d be crying if that were the case.
The means by which they’ve held me captive and restrained me to the point where that were an actual possibility would definitely be worthy of a sniffle.
A miss shoot *is* a possibility. Accidents *do* happen 😉
[I’ve heard] that shit stings when you get it in your eyes 🙁
Sorry to burst your bubble man but, he has a girlfriend. They’ve been together for over 4 years. Sorry dude.