so it’s been 4+ years since you orally and digitally assaulted my seven year old. we’re done with the four year court process and you’ve served your whoppin 60 days for assaulting two little girls and are right back in highfield around all those other kids. so how come if it’s ‘over’ i’m still so. damn. mad? riiiiight. because our system says 60 days is appropriate for what you did in the first place. —#brokenmom
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It is bullshit. Castration and amputation sound like a better sentence than 60 days of bed and breakfast, lunch, and dinner.
OB, I will help you understand why you feel so damned angry. Its because you aren’t interested in justice. you are interested in revenge. you are feeling guilt and responsibility for your perceived failure to protect your little ones. This is normal. but unhealthy. We are a society that has laws in place and punishments for breaking those laws to allow reform. argue the merits for or against, it makes no difference right now.
What I would highly suggest, is to seek help for your feelings. If you don’t your guilt will eat you up. Your children will recover, but if you don’t move forward you will be hampering them further. I can attest because ive been through something very similar. I needed to get help because it was consuming everything I did, every single second of my life. I beg you to do that for your children first and foremost, and for your own health as well.
Whether the children recover or not is not guaranteed. What was done to them can devastate their whole lives. They may suffer from a multitude of problems that these assaults may have caused. Even with therapy there is no guarantee that they will ever be without any lasting effects from the trauma. Make sure whoever you take them to see for counsel is an expert in the field of sexual abuse. Let the children know that you love them and it was not their fault.
thank you sansdessein for completely missing the point. as someone who has endured both sexual and physical abuse as a child, I can assure you that counselling is better than nothing. it took me a long time to realize that. ob will not recover or be able to assist their children without seeking that help, vs seething in anger for things they cannot control.