You pursued me–won me–then dumped me. Catch and Release. At 35? Really? Well the truth is: I was never attracted to you. I wasn’t playing hard to get–I just didn’t want you. I am not a prude or anti sex–I just didn’t feel inspired by you to express my self in bed and I was trying to hold you off. I really did want to be attracted to you and I was getting there–but then your attitude changed. I was exploring a relationship with you because I’m sick of dating handsome, charismatic artsy/hipster men who can’t offer a future–I wanted to try to meet a nice guy who was just kind and down to earth and who made me laugh. But once you had me you treated me just like all the other Rock Stars and felt totally entitled to everything I had to give while offering nothing in return. Nice one. Just sayin’. —Catch And Release
This article appears in Feb 14-20, 2013.
“was never attracted to you. I wasn’t playing hard to get–I just didn’t want you.”
And yet you forced yourself to want them. Desperation is never a good quality, OB. No wonder the men you date feel so entitled.
Exactly, Naveed – this babe reeks of desperation. Nothing that’ll make a guy run faster than someone looking to settle for second best and if this broad doesn’t think the dude picked up on that, well, she ain’t too fucking bright.
If you weren’t attracted to him, then why the “Bitch”? Obviously you feel a little burned? You’re contradicting yourself.
You didn’t want him, you weren’t attracted to him, so why would you go out with him in the first place? Was it the nice car, fancy restaurants, or are you just a cock tease?
will someone puh-leeze tell me what the appeal is in publicly posting one’s appalling lack of judgement and then the fact you have been dumped.
op….d’ya think he is going to smack himself on the forehead, shout ‘what a fool i have been!’ and come crawling back?
Bro Tim …might of been because of his nickname ‘Bull’
He got that not because he’s ‘strong like bull’ but because he’s long <==========3 like bull ~;)
u had to give?? sounds like u were used…why go out with someone ur not attracted to, thats just bad logic lol and a waste of time. just cause ur 35 doesn’t mean your entitled to get a perfect man for your perfect future, to me it’s sounds like u are a prude, otherwise u would date someone only becuz u genuinely liked them, not becuz ur afraid and desperate of been an old cat lady.
so, i quit smoking, just get over this fucking flu shit. just get back into town, to pick up my grand baby, and what the fuck do i get smacked between the eyes with? seems that her mom and her man, are heading out west, the end of this month. jesus fucking christ, what a thing to lay on me, my little bugaboo won’t be here any more. and who the fuck said that life doesn’t suck. this is just about the worst fucking news that i have had since my ex hunting budddy stiffed me for 4 grand. i feel like smashing the fuck out of something, just to vent my anguish. sorry to rip this shit out here, but the few that really know me, knows how much i care and love my little one.
Damn, i just read your post and man do I feel for you. I could never do something like that, without a very good reason.
if my bitch of an ex wife had done that to me, well let’s just say that they would have to had the nets ready, and a padded room.
sorry again there, not sure if you are a male or female, but my heart goes out to you. try to stay positive, at least until the child turns of age, to make up their own mind where they want to live, and with whom. just hang in there LIFE SUCKS.
thanks for the kind words bud. i really feel that something is being pulled out of me. you don’t know how bad i feel, but if you have kids, then maybe you do.yeah, exes can be quite frustrating sometimes, had a few like that myself. one was a drunk, another was just plain nuts.
but anyway, i will have to resect the mom’s wishes, after all, the little one is not qyite 6 years old yet. she has already stated that she will run away from home, if she has to go out there. goddamn, the child is smart, but i told her not to think like that. if i have to pull up stakes and move fom here, i will. that’s how much i care for her.
i just hope her mom makes sure there are lots of pics on her facebook page. fuck me, this hurts.
I think OB WAS attracted to him, DID want him and DID feel inspired by him. I think she was starting to develop serious feelings and was possibly thinking of a future with this guy. And when he cut her loose for whatever reason, I think it really hurt her, more than she probably realised it would and this post is just her trying to put up a brave front.
That’s the way I read it anyway.
That fucking sucks, Gary. Hopefully you can still see her a couple times a year and continue to be a positive part of her life. I know I miss my grampie since he doed, but he was awesome while he was here.
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yes paul, it certainly does suck. and not in the good way. i have her here and you know that it’s gonna be real hard to let her go home, because i know that she will be gone soon.
but as long as i have net and a web cam, she will be close to me, just not close enough. i missed her while i was up country and sick with that fucking flu. but as soon as i got in, i called her mom to get her here. that’s when i found out. where i was at, there is no power, net or anything, just lots of woods. got a shitload of bunnies, but managed to eat just about all of them.
well, guess i’ll go and try to get things back in order her, thanks for the caring dude. and i know too, how bad you can miss someone close. both my mom and dad are gone, as well as my 3 sisters, yeah, it does suck.
well op blame that on the loose standards of women today. it is making men act like animals. thanks to intermet and internet porn they have lost respect for women and for taking the time to actually get to know a woman in ways other than sex. most, with a few exceptions, are not worth the effort. the men i mean. sad.
I am a rockstar. Deal with it.
I’ve met some kids in the last couple years who are in the middle of 2 parents who divorced, and the kid gets messed up from a crazy parent. My folks are still together, and my relatives were always around. The good parts of who I am came from these surroundings, and I learned a lot about my world view from my family and extended family, even teachers who were a big influence on me,
People downplay extended family, but being an uncle and a good influence on my nieces/nephew fills a big hole where not having kids is.
If you’re one of the main influences in the girl’s life, use everything you have to keep that going. She’ll remember that her whole life, and that’s an immortality you cant get anywhere else.
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I can’t think of a cooler Uncle for a kid to have, than Paul. And Suckster, your love for your little one has been so tangible on the board that a blind man could see it with his cane. My two Grandmothers were very strong influences in my life, despite the fact that for most of it there were at least a couple of provinces between them and I. Visits, letters, phone calls took on an even more special significance. I know you’ll miss her terribly, but you definitely wont be absent from her life.
And congratulations on quitting smoking. >: )
hugs for sucksters
A good friend of mine had her daughter move to Alberta, her hubby got one of those big payin’ jobs out there with a housing bonus for his wife & 4 kid’s .She was devistated losing her 4 grandkids , then when they got settled & he called her up & asked her (& she’s his Mum-in-law) to come live with them …. as she workes as a building cleaner, there’s really nothing keeping her here.So she’s already packed & leaving in about a week . So I don’t know how yer situation is LS, but you might look at moving .
I would be crushed if I lost access to my Grandchild, mines an important part of my life & i’ve been having her over night & weekends since she was around 1, she’s got her room, her own stuff here …. it’d be hard.
Here here. All men are shite. Even the ugliest ones got the confidence of a king. DITCH the doufuss