Baring it all: Haligonians confess their sexual secrets

Every year in The Coast’s annual Sex + Dating Survey, we give readers the same prompt: “Confess a sexual secret that you’ve never told anyone else.” The responses are a window into Haligonians’ private lives—their fears, their passions, their kinks and stories they’ve never told. Some answers will make you laugh. Some are brutally real and raw. Some belong in a tell-all book.

Hundreds of you shared your innermost sexual secrets with us in 2025—and in turn, we’re sharing a few of them here, anonymously, with you.

*Disclaimer: This story contains graphic language*

“Masturbating helps me poop.”

“I started masturbating when I was 10.”

“I like to be partially clothed.”

“I let girls and guys blow me.”

“I’ve allowed someone to pee in my mouth.”

“Sometimes I just like performing oral on a woman.”

“My marriage is sexless, and I rarely meet new people, so my sex ‘fantasies’ involve really mundane shit with friends and coworkers.”

“I peg men.”

“I’ve masturbated with fruit.”

“I’ve had an abortion.”

“During puberty, a male friend and I used to jerk each other off.”

“I’ve never had an orgasm with a guy before.”

“I’m married and having an affair.”

“I’m gay.”

“I would love to fist a guy up the ass.”

“I’m into medical role-playing.”

“I’ve had sex twice on a plane and once on a bus.”

“I cracked my ribs as a result of rough and drunken hotel sex.”

“Step-sister stuff is hot.”

“Probably due to my childhood trauma, I’m turned on by incest porn (reading, not real).”

“I once came in 20 seconds.”

“I pissed on a bodybuilder.”

“I wish my partners knew what they truly wanted and were willing to act on it instead of being afraid to explore their true desires.”

“I don’t have sex with my wife.”

“I’ve always wanted to have group sex.”

“I used to do butt play when I was a teenager with my same-sex and same-age friend.”

“Most men who have dated me have not made me orgasm barely half the amount they thought.”

“I’m in a committed conventional heterosexual relationship, but non-binary is very hot.”

“I want to be spanked.”

“I made out with a friend’s mother.”

“My mom walked in on me having sex.”

“My husband doesn’t want to have sex anymore.”

“I’m an open book, but I really want to hook up with a coworker so awfully bad ugggggh they’re so cute I would ignore so many red flags and incompatibilities for a few nights with them.”

“My ex and I fucked under the blankets when his friend walked in, and we didn’t know what to do, so we just kept talking to the friend like nothing was going on.”

“I’ve had a relationship with both a mother and daughter.”

“I want my boyfriend to watch me with another girl.”

“I like to receive anal play.”