Dan Savage

Q I’m a 27-year-old bi chick who just moved in with my girlfriend of 10 months. I love her, and it’s a great relationship—hot sex, laughs and good conversation. Here’s the thing: I like to smoke pot, and pot makes her very uncomfortable. We’ve talked about it and I’ve been up front with her from […]

Q I’m seeing an amazing guy who I met doing sex work—as in, he was paying me for straight-up sex. It’s not a *Pretty Woman* situation. He’s my age and not wealthy, and I’m too old for that anyway. We share a lot of geeky interests and have a great connection, and the sex is […]

Q Twenty-one-year-old female here. When we were both 14, my first boyfriend took advantage of me. I wanted to explore my sexuality a little, but things went further than I wanted. One day, we were kissing with him on top of me. We were both fully clothed, and he started rubbing up against me. I […]

Q I have a mentally disabled cousin. He’s lived for more than 40 years in the same nursing home in a small, conservative town. His mental age is about eight, there are other mental-illness issues and he has some physical problems. He is now in his late 60s. He has always enjoyed dressing up as […]

Q I’m a 24-year-old straight, married female. I have been reading your column in the Portland Mercury since I was 16. Thank you for explaining things that my parents wouldn’t and for helping me clear the hurdles of adolescence! I turn to you now for advice. Five months ago, I married the man of my […]

Q I am a 23-year-old straight male. My ex-girlfriend and I started dating in high school, when we were both 17, and continued dating until I broke up with her the summer after our freshman year in college because things felt too serious. We continued to have sex, but I blocked out all my feelings […]

DEAR READERS: Last week was made of problems. The bombing of the Boston Marathon, the explosion that leveled a small town in Texas, the rising tide of anti-gay violence in France, the North Koreans being North Korean. And when I sat down to write this week’s—while the manhunt was still under way for the second […]

Q I am uncircumcised, and the opening at the end of my foreskin is not large enough for the head of my penis to pass through. This means my foreskin doesn’t pull back when I get an erection. The internet says this is a condition called “phimosis,” and a lot of medical sites recommend circumcision. […]

Q I’m a gay man who has been seeing a devout Christian gay guy for one year. We have a great relationship. We have many of the same interests and respect each other’s feelings and beliefs. However, I am a Catholic who is not that religious, and he is an Orthodox Christian. Some of his […]

Q I am trying to understand some sexual fantasies I have. They involve having sex with a woman who has a penis. Sometimes I fantasize that my wife grew a penis. The fantasies started when we first tried pegging a few years ago. We recently had our first child and can no longer find the […]