QMy question is on managing “gray area” intimacies during the pandemic. I have a lover/friend that I’ve been hanging out with—fucking, drinking tea, going on hikes, eating ice cream, watching movies and other activities—for about nine months. He’s 36 and was married for 10 years, and due to that experience he’s been a bit emotionally […]
Sex + Dating
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Brownie points
Q I’m a cis bi woman, and I mainly have sex with people with penises. I have a really gross problem. It’s been an issue for as long as I’ve been sexually active—but in the past few years, it seems to have gotten worse. If I am being penetrated vaginally, especially if it’s vigorous (which […]
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Sleep apnea and oral sex, a full-throated investigation
Q I’m a middle-aged gay man and I was recently diagnosed with sleep apnea. This is a disorder caused by the soft tissue in the throat collapsing during sleep. On top of making me feel tired and awful all the time, sleep apnea is associated with a long list of health complications. I’m writing you […]
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Spit and polish
Q I’m a 31-year-old cis bisexual woman. I’m hetero-romantic and in a monogam-ish relationship with a man. We play with other people together. I’ve never liked giving blowjobs because I was taught that girls who give blowjobs are “sluts.” Phrases that are meant to be insulting like “You suck,” “Suck it,” “Go suck a dick,” […]
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Prone to failure
Q I’m 20, straight, male, fit and active. I masturbated prone—flat on my stomach—for years. I’ve now changed to a more traditional position (on my back or sitting upright), and I’m using my hand rather than grinding against a mattress. I can easily orgasm when I masturbate. I’ve had sex four times in my life, […]
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Where people have sex outdoors all over Halifax
The things that make Halifax is a great place for getting outdoors—all the trees and lakes and parks—also make Halifax a great place for getting busy outdoors. In the 2020 Sex + Dating survey we asked people where they’ve had sex in public. The answers were all over the map, literally. So for purely scientific […]
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The results of The Coast’s Sex + Dating 2020 survey
The Coast’s readers dish the dirt and delights of dating and sex in Halifax. From keeping their socks on, to running out of Tinder options, looking for love in this city is sometimes wild, sometimes weird and sometimes realized among the bushes at Point Pleasant Park.
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A peg above the rest
Q My boyfriend and I were having relationship issues until we tried something new: pegging. He wanted to try it, but he was afraid and sometimes said the idea disgusted him. Then we tried it, and it was better than normal vanilla or even kinky bondage sex. It was the most emotionally connected sex we’ve […]
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Cocktail Cupids
With its sultry lighting and amorous ambience, The Middle Spoon Desserterie and Bar has been a prime destination for romantic evenings and mouth-watering desserts since 2011. The only bar of its kind in the province, Middle Spoon’s two locations—one downtown (1563 Barrington Street) and one in Bedford (Sunnyside Mall)—offer a variety of flavour combinations in […]
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The Cheesecake Test
Ideally, the person who slid into your DMs would arrive on the highly anticipated first date ready to provide any need-to-know info you weren’t able to suss out from their social media. With their horoscope’s rising sign or what Hogwarts house they’d be sorted into, you could quickly decide if this situation is more “thank […]
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Sex + dating survey: Let’s talk about consent and rape culture
The Coast spent a long time considering whether or not a quirky survey about sex and relationships was the place to ask the harder questions about sexualized violence and rape culture. At first, we thought no way: There is nothing quirky about sexual assault. But we also wondered why it’s so easy—and there’s so much […]
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Cam what may
Q I started reading your column when I was a 20-year-old kid. Now I’m an old married lady with 20 years of blissful monogamy behind me. My oldest daughter, who is 23, just came out to me as a sex worker. She’s been making a slim living as a cam girl. She recently graduated with […]
