“Adam’s fall” Matthieu Aikins’ award-winning feature on suicides from the Macdonald Bridge is a heartbreaking read even now, a decade after its publication. A year after Aikins’ story was printed, the bridge commission finally decided to install safety barriers along the old bridge to prevent future deaths. Seals of approval One of the most-read stories […]
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Savage Love Live in Halifax October 3
Logical, compassionate and fearless, Dan Savage‘s Savage Love column has graced the Coast’s pages since 1996, the first paper in Canada to run his syndicated advice column. You know him, you love him. He’s brought life to santorum, DTMFA, GGG and the inspiring It Gets Better Project, while single-handedly answering your most intimate queries in […]
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Getting off while being the boss
Dear readers: I’m on vacation. The questions and answers in this week’s column are recent installments of the Savage Love Letter of the Day, which folks with the SLAPP —the Savage Love app for iPhone or Android —receive daily via the miracle of modern technology. If you have the SLAPP, you’ve already read these questions and second-guessed […]
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Lose contact with crazy exes
Q I was hanging out with a guy who is in a relationship. I told him nothing could happen, and we decided to keep things friendly. A while ago, I made the drunken mistake of climbing into the backseat of a car with him, and things got racy pretty quickly. He asked if I was […]
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The honesty policy
Q My boyfriend of almost two years broke up with me yesterday over the fact that I used to be an escort. He went through my emails and saw that I was answering ads, putting ads up, sending photos. We had been planning a future together, talking about moving in, getting married, having kids. And […]
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Double toil and trouble
Q I’m a 23-year-old bi dude seeing a guy who is intelligent, sweet, attractive—the works. We’ve been together for six weeks. The problem is, after our first night together, I lost sexual interest in him. When I do get horny—which is rare at the moment due to work pressures—I prefer to beat off alone, because […]
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In-flight safety tips
Q I am a girl who sabotaged my relationship. I was angry; I had complaints. But my real issue was a store of repressed childhood trauma, and I was working it out on the closest person to me, my BF. We had something magical, and I destroyed it. I am now willing to give 110 […]
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No woman left behind
Q I need you to settle a dispute between my husband and me. We have been married for six years. We’re not terribly adventurous, but we’re not totally vanilla, either. However, there is one issue that is driving me insane: My husband constantly pesters me to have anal sex. We have tried it in the […]
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Theoretical problems
Q Let’s say, theoretically, I’m a pedophile. I’m not stupid or evil, so I’m not gonna DO anything. I’m not even gonna look at porn, because the production of it involves child exploitation. Hell, even porn that’s just drawn pictures—perverts drawing smut for perverts with no kids or anyone else involved—is illegal in a lot […]
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Three times the alarm
Q I’m a single (mostly) gay guy who is curious about women. A hot bisexual mate is interested in a friends-with-benefits arrangement. I’m not looking for an LTR just now, so regular, no-strings sex sounds great. However, his girlfriend doesn’t know he’s bisexual, and I’d feel uncomfortable having sex with him behind her back. I’ve […]
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Advice on a walk-by
Q I am a 34-year-old straight, single female. I have a fantasy I can’t find much about online, so I figured I’d ask you. My fantasy is to be blindfolded, bent over a table/couch/whatever and fucked by whoever happens to walk by. I realize this would have to take place in a safe environment, but […]
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Spanks, sweat and stim
Q I’m a woman who wants to be spanked. But I’m overweight and self-conscious. Men who like to spank women like to spank petite women. Sometimes I’ll search kinky sites or online forums and find someone who might want to spank me. But I get scared and I back out. Most recently, I’ve been talking […]