Q I am a queer lady in my 20s. My boyfriend and I discovered we are both into BDSM. We started with some light bondage and spanking, added roleplay and are moving toward heavier stuff. I’ve spent some time reading online BDSM erotica, and here’s what’s stressing me out: I tend to gravitate toward stories […]
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The tears of a prude
Q Set me straight. I married my wife several months ago after dating for three years. Things are generally excellent, except for one problem: When my wife gets drunk, she gets crazy flirtatious. She’ll dance close to people, touch them, hold hands. A couple of times, I thought it went too far and I told […]
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Spanks, sweat and stim
Q I’m a woman who wants to be spanked. But I’m overweight and self-conscious. Men who like to spank women like to spank petite women. Sometimes I’ll search kinky sites or online forums and find someone who might want to spank me. But I get scared and I back out. Most recently, I’ve been talking […]
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Carnal tunnel syndrome
Q I’ve been married four years and have a beautiful baby boy with my husband. I enjoy sex a lot, even a bit of BDSM. My husband, on the other hand, isn’t “driven by sex,” as he likes to put it, and will try tying me up if that’s what I “really want.” You’d think […]
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I’ll just try it this one time
Q I am a 29-year-old single straight man. Over the past year, I have become very close friends with a gay man close to my age. We have a blast hanging out, and I value our friendship. Four months ago, he told me that he had developed romantic feelings for me and said he needed […]
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The monogamy files
Q I am a happily married, happily non-monogamous male. We are not wild swinger types. For us it’s more about the fact that monogamy does not work than about nailing everything that walks by. Anyway, I have encountered an odd situation a few times now, and again last night, where I’ll be flirting with a […]
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Domination dynamics
Q I am a 30-year-old woman, married for five years to a man eight years my senior. Lately I have become more aware that I am turned on by the idea of bondage, specifically men locked up in chastity devices. I am ashamed of myself because it seems perverse and disturbed. My husband is a […]
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You gotta make the move
Q I’m a 20-year-old girl, and I’ve been dating my boyfriend, who is 23, for two years. From the get-go, he has known that I am bi, and like most straight guys, he’s happy to be with a girl who likes girls. The thing is, I am too shy to go out and hit on […]
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Homemade isn’t always best
Q I’m a straight teenage male, but I can’t climax unless I am stimulating my anus or rectum. I use various objects, like cucumbers. The reason I don’t buy a toy is that I live in a very religious household and my parents would disown me if they found a sex toy in my room. […]
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Overfeeding your desires
Q I’m a 25-year-old girl dating a 26-year-old guy. My boyfriend identifies as sexually submissive. He likes to be tied up, put in women’s underwear and locked in a chastity device. He has a strong urge to please. I hate the term, but I suppose you could call me a “feeder.” I am turned on […]
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Marry straight, then donate
Q My partner and I have a dilemma. We’re a straight couple and we want to hold a ceremony to make public our commitment. That said, we support marriage equality and are considering joining the marriage boycott (unmarried.org) until DOMA is repealed and every state allows gay marriage. Our friends and family say we should […]