First, I want to start off by saying that after I walked away from the situation I regretted not confronting the people I am about to bitch about to their face. Ever see that show What Would You Do? I felt like I had just failed their social test.
My partner and I were out for a lovely stroll along Spring Garden Road and thought we would stop to sit outside the gardens on the giant planter there. As I approached the spot we had picked to sit some guy was yelling in my direction but I couldn’t make out what he was saying so I just proceeded to sit and enjoy the sun. Next to us, a few feet over was an older lady sitting not saying a word. All of a sudden this guy who was the one yelling at me starts shouting obscenities at this lady calling her “a mother f******* beggar” telling her to “stop your f******* heckling,” the woman turned towards them and asked them to stop yelling at her (no swearing involved) to which this guy responded, “go f*** yourself.” The yelling then subsided and I sat there dumbfounded. The woman then politely asked me for the time. After a few awkward moments of silence my partner and I got up and left (that’s where my mistake was made).
I just don’t understand why people (specifically this man) feel it is okay to yell and berate people like that. If in fact, this woman was “begging” as he so nicely put it simply say no and let it rest. There is no need to verbally assault anyone. —Embarrassed
This article appears in Jun 2-8, 2011.
Don’t blame yourself (although I won’t be surprised if some people here say you should lol). >_> I mean, no one expects shit like that to happen, so when it does we get pretty taken aback.
OP people like this usually have a lot of other things happening in their life. They tend to have other frustrations built up and find this way to “let it out”. Foolish people who find a brief moment of release in yellng at someone.
I find the yelling and getting angry thing (especially at strngers) so unbecoming.
Agreed with jdp. The trouble with aberrant behaviour in public is that you have no way of knowing whether it is motivated simply by the double douche-bag chromosome or something unpredictable like drugs or a mental condition. Getting involved could lead to an escalation which no amount of rational action on your part can defuse. Also, you had your partner with you. I know I’ve walked away from situations when I’ve had my wife to worry about. You feel like 10 kinds of coward. Despite making the right call you have to deal with the hypothetical “Why didn’t I…” burning a great bloody hole in your stomach lining.
butting in…i thought i only had the states, the uk and spain to worry about. i can add canada to the list. grrooo http://www.leaderpost.com/life/Photos+Anot…
Evil bastards recognize no borders Painey.
Grrrrrrrooooooooooooooo!
Aw… their poor squishy sad faces 🙁 roooooooo!
I hope they all find loving and caring homes.
I remember being in Copenhagen and watching a young man yelling at two elderly women. It was crazy, he was just going nuts, turning red, veins popping out, the whole bit. I don’t know what he was saying though because it was in Danish.
That had a profound effect on me, the whole scene was just so ridiculous. I was never a live wire but from then on I just totally chilled out.
Yelling isn’t cool.
All fine and well the guy is a douche. My question is off topic but it pisses me off to no end.
When did it start calling your significant other “Partner”? Seriously, Boyfriend, Girlfriend, Wife, Husband is totally acceptable. Why so fucking politically correct?
Arguments will come up saying it’s for gay rights, common law or convenience. My belief is simple if you are gay and are with another man he is either your boyfriend or husband. The same goes with common law or a man and a woman. Our society is well past the stigmatism associated with these areas (Thanks God) and two people should not have to go out of their way to label them so damn neutral. Be proud of the person you are with. They are not a business partner. They are the person you love.
It seems to me like it is a major cop out and that people are scared shitless of a label. This gender neutral crap has got to stop.
I heard on the radio today that there is now a movement to raise children gender neutral. No more little boys and little girls. I pity the poor children who are involved in this.
Down with PC and viva la difference!!!!
i call the bear hub-unit, thanks ttfn. this is what you’re referring to youdeserveit? http://www.thestar.com/topic/genderless+ba…
Fuck off, youdeserveit, people can call their significant other whatever the hell they want.
Calling the husband ‘hub-unit’ makes me wonder what TTFN and PG refer to their partner’s privates. Probably something similar like papa-package or hub-hanger lol.
Seriously? I like the term “partner”, it has nothing to do with gender. Just, if we’re not married, then he’s not my husband. But somehow I find “boyfriend” kind of juvenile after a point… when you’re sharing a home, bills, future… and then later if you share children and you’re in your 40s. Jeez, “boyfriend” just doesn’t seem appropriate. They’re your “partner” in nearly every sense of the word.
So mellow out youdeserveit. It’s none of your business what people call each other.
You say “viva la difference” but you want everyone to think like you?
Get your head out of your ass, please.
Thanks.
“Rommel” – because he’s continually advancing toward the Nile Delta. >; )
haha, i call it mr. happy mr. fat
I’ve been using the nickname ‘Hub-Unit’ since my moderator days for an American bitch board in the late 90s. His real nickname at home is ‘Joe Btfsplk’. That’s to get him back for declaring me as: ‘My Little Front End Loader’.
Honestly, I love the guy – you don’t stay together for 28 years unless you’re broke.
some people hae all the luck, that dude was having a very lucky day. too bad it wasn’t me there, he would have got more than an earful of some of the vilest remarks that i could ever make, and a punch in the face, for the highlight.
when this sort of thing happens, i always think …what’s going on in this poor fukkers world?
Plenty of people have crappy days at work or whatever and take it out on someone lower than them, anonymously: street people, cashiers, random youths. It’s fucked and I have no patience for these selfish nutjobs.
EXACTLY, Calvin!!!
I really do like my job, but sometimes I have to deal with arseholes and I’m not gonna lie: it’s a huge buzz kill and sometimes I leave work really pissy — but I don’t take it out on the people I encounter on my way home. I’m polite like I always am.
No, I just come home and beat the cat. That always seems to put me in a better mood.
😛
(PS: I’m KIDDING, ok? I’d never beat my kittehs. Even when the bitchy one bites me!)
“beat the cat” – Is that an euphemism? I can understand why it puts you in a better mood =)
Good Morning all. Quite the light show last night. Turns out, Blue is a bit of a chicken-shit when the house gets rattled by thunder.
I slept through the whole thing. 🙁 would have been (tiring) fun to see some electro-shocking goodness.
Partner:
d : a person with whom one shares an intimate relationship : one member of a couple
Wicked good pyrotechnics. Unfortunately between that and Countess Blueberry von Puff E. Pantz’s Awesome Hairball Adventure which followed I got about 3 hrs. sleep and am tap dancing irrevocably towards “Bag ‘O Hammers” territory – mental health wise.
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I woke up around 1am, heard some thunder, saw a flash of lightning, went back to sleep.
AHAHAHA “beat the cat” AHAHAHAHAHA. Oh hugo!
I had the lights on in my room and was listening to my ipod completely oblivious until my power went out for about two seconds. It kept doing that and my TV box kept resetting itself and flashing blue and red lights. I went to bed around midnight and was so exhausted I fell right asleep.
Didn’t even bother the cats, either. Usually they’re wusses when it comes to weather.
Given that definition, zed, FWB and FB seem to fit as a “partner”…. I’ve never considered a FWB or a FB as a “partner”…. so that’s interesting.
Oooh it was so wicked! I was in bed and had all the lights out and my room would flash with light! And it was like every 10 seconds it seemed! Luckily I didn’t lose power, but the street lights went out a couple times…which doesn’t make sense but oh well :). My kitteh was sound asleep under the covers with me and totally unfazed by the thunder =^_^=.
FWB and FB are partners in crime, or partners of the night or bed partners or feel good partners… I’m sure I could go on and on!
i love thunderboomers. i was outside and the sky was clear but i kept seeing these weird flashes of light. didn’t bother the hound but we were up half the night watching
Damn panhandlers. Don’t give them a cent!
“Quite the light show last night” I read that as quite the light snow last night … and had a *hmph* moment …