“How many boyfriends ya got, eh?” says my BOSS. Today, my creaky, old, saggy, hunchback, fat, manager asks me. “None at the moment…” I reply wearily. He scurries around rearranging things. Out of the corner of his mouth he mutters: “Ya oughta have 10 boyfriends right now…”
THANKS.
Like I really needed that. Coming from a crusty old person like yourself. Are people BORN rude or do they just have no sensors to determine what is appropriate and what ISN’T?! Clearly not appropriate, _____. I’m young but I’m not ignorant to know that I’m feeling objectified. For christ’s sake, I’m about to spray Rogaine on my face, shave my head and start calling myself Steve.
—Dino
This article appears in May 7-13, 2009.
Gross, gross, gross. Fucking old fool is trying to resurrect his dead cobra or something – you should have told him your boyfriend is a fire hydrant and always knows the sweet spot.
He probably thought it was some kind of compliment. Because there’s nothing that’ll give you that warm glow of happiness like suspecting someone is imagining you with 10 guys’ cocks in your mouth.
Bahahahaha, I love you Ratter.
I was thinking the same thing, Rat.
Disgusting!! You sound like a nice person and now that this pervert knows that you’re also single, he’ll probably keep asking you those innapropriate, uncomfortable questions that make you sqirm unless you put a stop to it- now. Don’t answer any more of his questions, and invent a serious relationship quick!
From what I experienced, as long as a pervert knows he can catch you off-guard, you’ll answer his questions honestly. He’ll take advantage of you wanting to keep a peaceful work environment and not make trouble and so unless you put a stop to it, the questions will get even more intrusive. I used to put up with this garbage when I was younger out of naivety- I’ve had some collegues like this and would chalk up their flirtation to just innocent friendliness and any wierd questions to me as joking around. It also caught me off guard every time, but eventually I learned to see it coming.
Is the boss married? If so, just remind him of the fact whenever he says anything inappropriate. Like “I don’t have any boyfriend’s. How many does your wife have?”
Why are people even talking about their personal lives at work? No boyfriend, boyfriend, pretend boyfriend, the simplest answer is, “I don’t talk about my personal life with co-workers.”
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I AGREE WITH THREE.
A passing mention of a significant other isn’t so bad, but I’ve worked with people who were a bit too open with the details of their personal lives. Their choice, but I’m really not into discussing my sex life, for example, at work. Maybe that’s just me though.
Tell him you’re into pegging your girlfriend – then explain in great detail what you mean.
Oi TTFN that’ll stir the ol’ boy’s loins fer sure…he’ll be running to the bathroom for a little relief.
…and maybe clutching his chest while he’s at it.
How does this bitch read “my boss was hitting on me”? It doesn’t. He supposedly “objectified” her by eluding young ladies should have lots of suitors/boyfriends/options/whatever. Dino… “objectified”?
Will whomever is responsible for this website PLEASE FIX THE FUCKING ‘EDIT’ OPTION! I just wasted 15 mnutes editing my reply to Kay, only to hit ‘submit’ and have my original reappear! Really, I mean how hard can it possibly be to fix this???
Damn Dino. You’ve been having a rough couple of weeks!
Bug in your eye, crazy driving instructor guy, pervert boss… I feel for ya honey.
You know, Dino, if you had had an interesting Harlequin story to tell to your nosy boss I’ll bet you wouldn’t have felt “objectified” by his question. Just because you’re not getting any and he reminds you of that fact by asking doesn’t make him a pervert. It makes you fucking single. boo hoo
Dino: If you’re in need of a good “harlequin story” to tell, I can help you out 😉
I’ll bet if Dino’s real grandfather inquired about all the boyfriends she should have… if she would have felt “objectified” and if you bitches would have also assumed Grandpa a pervert?
This is a lame bitch written by a really bored bitch with nothing real to bitch about. Go get a boyfriend Dino and spare us all. At least then you’re likely to have something worth bitching about.
Kay, Old boss asking about employee’s private life = inappropriate. Grandpa asking about granddaughter’s private life = normal. Not really a fair comparison.
kay’s just in a fighting mood today. Don’t give in to getting upset by her comments.
I don’t think Dino’s manager’s question about whether she has a boyfriend was that bad (wasn’t there, so I can’t say for sure). The comment he made afterward was definitely inappropriate though.
Asking about your employees’ private lives isn’t a ‘proper’ topic for the workplace, and one should be careful, but we can’t be freaking out about every innocuous question, or else we’d be left with no conversation at all.
The “Ya oughta have 10 boyfriends right now…” was inappropriate and he shouldn’t have said it. I’ve heard a lot worse comments though.
Dino: Best to just let this one slide I think, as it was probably actually meant as a compliment, though it admittedly could’ve been worded a lot better. If this kind of stuff becomes (or already is) a pattern for him, I’d definitely recommend reporting him to someone.
Report him to someone? He didn’t do anything!!! This hardly qualifies as sexual harassment! Why don’t you bitches just take a chill pill and remind yourselves what it is to be a “human being” rather than a “privacy policy”.
If I were your boss, Dino, and I saw this bitch I’d immediately dismiss you for fear of getting sued over NOTHING.
kay: Did you even read my comment, or just the last couple words?
I defended the boss’s question about her personal life, said that the followup was a little off, and recommended she not do anything. I only said she should report it if he did this kind of stuff all the time, or if his behaviour escalated.
Okay, nevermind. What exactly is the complaint? Several instances of speaking *gasp* to another human being at the workplace about something not work related *gasp again*? It’s NOT sexual harassment. It’s quite a leap to think the old man was hitting on her… he’s old enough to not pussy foot around and just say so, isn’t he? Dino’s just a bored and lonely bitch looking to slag somebody, anybody, for anything, even something as trivial as this not-bitch-worthy post. Like I said, get a boyfriend and you’ll soon have something worth bitching about.
I agree with nevermind, in that while the tone would be needed to know for sure if he was being creepy or not, it’s possible that as an old man he really meant somthing like how many suitors do you have rather than boyfriends. Saying you should have like 10 suitors would be meant as a compliment. Saying you should have 10 boyfriends, not as much.
Agree with it or not (and I personnally don’t) an employer asking about an employee’s personal life is never appropriate, technically speaking.
I would like to edit my earlier comment though, to say that if Dino’s going to take any action here, it must first be to calmly tell her boss that his comment was not appreciated BEFORE taking it to his superiors.
Saying someone should have 10 boyfriends can be taken a couple of different ways – the most inncocent being “you’re pretty”; the worst being “you look like a slut who can’t be satisfied by just one cock in you”. Neither comment is appropriate for the workplace.
oh, so this has come down to a game of semantics. Never mind the INTENTION of the old man, let`s just bicker over the semantics between the word ‘boyfriend’ and the old word for boyfriend, ‘suitor’. And then lets just assume ‘boyfriend’ means ‘I suck your cock’ and that should piss off just about every reader who should happen by especially the young ones.
Presumption is USUALLY at the heart of mis-communication. Dino, you PRESUME too much but you wouldn’t bother if you were all smack-happy in love.
Like you haven’t made a single assumption in your interpretation of this bitch Kay? Or how about the public garden’s bitch? And we have never known you to play a game of semantics have we?
The fact that you would try to lecture on the subject of miscommunication is laughable.
So, you’re comfortable making the leap from “you should have 10 boyfriends” to “you should be fucking me” or “you aught to have 10 cocks in your mouth” or any other, yes, disgusting thing, these bitches have concluded? Come on Miles, you’re not that daft… usually.
Generally speaking, when you’re all excited about a new love in your life you’d tell anybody who would want to listen. Joy is like that. Just because Dino doesn’t have such a story… come on.
And what about the public gardens bitch? I think people should be kind, tolerant and respectful of others, city staff included. So what’s you’re problem with big bad kay today, Miles? Say what you mean.
Kay, isn’t this a place to bitch? not be a bitch? Do us all a favour and just shut the fuck up already…
No Kay, I’m not comfortable making that leap. But, if Dino says the guy was being creepy, I am prepared to accept that. His words could be completely innocuous or they could be a thinly veiled creepy way of hitting on her.
Either way, the point that it is inappropriate to discuss those things at work is a valid one. There are lots of other non-work related things to talk about that don’t involve a co-workers personal life if you want to be polite and friendly (e.g. the news, the weather, movies and TV shows)
As for the Garden’s bitch, you presume that the guy was power tripping by kicking the OP out. We don’t know what the exchange was. Maybe he asked the OP nicely to stay off the grass and got lip from the OP. Whenever I have seen people get asked to get off the grass in the gardens they were asked nicely and they were not kicked out.
Finally, Kay, I said what I meant. I don’t think you are the best communicator in the world. I think you fail to acknowledge good points made by others. I think you ignore most of what other people write and choose to focus on things that can be twisted to suit whatever point you want to argue about on a given day. Further, you are quick to insult people with differing opinions and you mock them when they don’t deserve to be mocked.
Communication with you is generally one-way (Kay to everyone) and people are left feeling frustrated, ignored and offended. Overall, I consider those poor communication skills and some days it pushes my buttons more than others. Then, you try to play the “poor old Kay” card and make like everyone is picking on you when you were the one trying to draw fire.
If you lived up to even half the standard of humanity you try to hold everyone else to, you might be a little easier to get along with and you might find that this is not such a bad town after all.
Friday must have been a swell day for Debby Dino.
Miles, you are eloquent, well spoken and infinitely patient. Your reply to kay made me cheer. I think I have an internet crush on you!
I agree with reality chick. I’m so gay for you Miles! Well put.
You’re right, there are other things to talk about at work. To that I say, again, just take a chill pill and remind yourselves what it is to be a “human being” rather than a “privacy policy”… same goes for the groundskeeper chasing the camera touting bi-ped out of the park lest either foot trample the grass or worse… the cattle catch on.
Miles, it’s not an “poor old Kay” card… it’s me noticing the bitches tend to follow much like cattle. Some days it hardly matter what the message is, only my handle… zZz will confirm this.
I just don’t think Dino aught to make that leap we mentioned either. Funny how the “facts” change when your perspective does. And, much to your chagrin, that’s what I do here. I say… “what if…?” If you feel it’s poorly communicated… well, suck it up, bitch.
Sometimes I’m part of an argument on here and just think, I wish Miles would step in on this. I know I can count on him to bring some clarity to the situation.
HOLY FUCK after 24 hrs I come back to this?? Kay obviously has never had this kind of attention before, only god knows what she looks like…but to clarify, this is coming from a man in his sixties, with baggy pants and uttered the dastardly phrase with the inflection of: “gee, you’re hot enough to have that many guys, wish I was one of them”. I’m neither lonely nor bored, KAY, But that instance fucking made me want to spray barf everywhere, so I barfed it up here. And Miles, thanks for being my attorney. I wuv you.
Dino Jr: What your boss said to you was certainly inappropriate and uncalled for. But did you indicate to him that you thought so? If you don’t let him know where the line is and not to cross it, it may unfortunately continue. Some people just have no sense of what is and isn’t appropriate at work. I would suggest that you speak to him about it with another coworker that you are comfortable with present as a witness. Having someone else there will help drive the point home that it was inappropriate and he’s not to do it again.
Yeah, get a witness Dino. You’ll have a hard time proving what that “inflection” might mean during a serious inquiry. Oh, and the next time some creep asks you if you have a boyfriend, the answer is yes, absolutely and he’s the best. Playing the alpha male card sometimes works even when there is no alpha male.