Ok, when you were going through your divorce, I understood that you were in a financial hole. I understood the drinking, the drugs, and even the lying. I never realized that this is the person that you actually were. Now, it’s almost 7 years later, you have not once lived by yourself, supported yourself, or actually told any of us, your family, the actual truth. You have burned through more girlfriends than I can count. Every time you find a new one, we no longer exist until it becomes clear that things are likely not going to work out. You come back to us for financial support because apparently a 36 year old man cannot afford an apartment, groceries, and utilities.
After the 10th time you moved back in with mom and dad, when she asked you to pay rent, you informed her that the only way you would pay rent is if she signed her house over to you. You think that because you had a “rough” childhood, that you are entitled to live life on other people’s dime. You claim that since you aren’t being provided with a private apartment that you are entitled to eat, sleep, bathe, use electricity, all for free. After the last time you visited me and took over $100 worth of my belongings with you, I swore you would never be allowed in my house again. After you stole games, movies and a guitar from your ex-girlfriend and her children, I swore I was done.
You have wasted every breathe from your mouth on lies. You have betrayed us all. I am here to tell you right now that this really does end now. As far as my husband and I are concerned, you are no longer welcome to share our lives. I may be a lot younger than you, dear brother, but at least I have learned from the mistakes I have made in the past, and don’t continue to to make them over and over again. At least I work for the things that I have instead of stealing them from the people I profess to love, care about and respect. In closing I would like to say that when your hour of true need comes, we will all be waving at you from the other side of the bridge that you burned. —Little Sis
This article appears in Mar 15-21, 2012.
Good for you but i hope you told him this directly. It’s good to vent. But you need to make sure he knows this or else you’re in danger of getting pulled back into his web of shit and terror again.
Eh. people like this, eats_crayons, don’t think they’re doing anything wrong. They’re called narcissists and think they’re entitled to everything and anything and go ballistic and play the victim game once someone calls them out on their shit.
OB’s better off just forgetting this douche canoe even exists.
It’s not worth the time otherwise.
Have his mother sign over the house because he’s a fucking loser? You are SO right to kick this total waste of space out of your lives – I only hope your poor mother can find the strength to punt this ungrateful user from her residence.
Must have one huge cock for these gals to take his sorry ass home …….. either that or the only disease-free loser in the HRM.
I am the only one who immediately thought…
“Damn, I would hate to have to move that often” ?
yeah, i’m like the commander. i get ptsd when i see moving boxes
Be prepared for a restraining order, OB. Shit like this never ends easily.
Every family seems to have someone who feels entitled for some reason. The funny thing is that they usually get everything for free in the end.
isn’t it great to be a male in this country, but hey, some females get off easier than that, and they get more cash too.
i’m not saying this is right tho. this sorry fucking ecuse for a human deserves to have his ass carted off your mom’s property. too many assholes think that because you gave them life, that yu can’t take it away again. m oldest son was like this, til i taught him a serious lesson.
o.p., you need to tell this directly to him, elsewise, he will never know how you feel. and if your mom is a senior, he could be charged with abuse. i’m not sure what goes on in your family, but can sure think what it must be like.
you are the only one, that can free this person from his sense of entitlement.
Seems your parents need to take a tough stand much like yourself Lil Sis. Tough love is what’s necessary sometimes to deal with someone like this. I do wonder how aware this man is of how his family views him. Maybe he lives in some self-induced bubble or maybe he just doesn’t care. How big is the family? Maybe an intervention is needed.
It’s a good idea to make a break with this character. Best of luck.